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12/17/11 - NNHS Newsletter
White Is in the Winter Night

Winter came down to our home one night
Quietly pirouetting in on silvery-toed slippers of snow,
And we, we were children once again.”

Bill Morgan, Jr.
(04 Apr 1933 - 04 June 2007)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates, 

   We owe the theme of today's Newsletter to   Domi O'Brien ('64) of NH who sent me this BONUS VIDEO on 12/05/11: - White Is in the Winter Night - Enya, 2008

   It appears no midi file is available for it, so just enjoy the video.

   Thanks, Domi!


"White Is in the Winter Night" is a single by Irish musician Enya, the second to be taken from the album And Winter Came....


   Today is Wright Brothers Day.


Wright Brothers Day is celebrated in the United States on December 17 each year. The date commemorates the Wright brothers' first successful flight in heavier-than-air, mechanically propelled craft, accomplished on December 17, 1903, near Kitty Hawk, North Carolina. Wright Brothers Day falls on the same day as Pan American Aviation Day. It must not be confused with National Aviation Day.

What do people do?

The United States president annually makes a proclamation inviting Americans to observe Wright Brothers Day with appropriate ceremonies and activities. Observations, including the annual Wright Brothers dinner where the Wright Brothers Memorial Trophy is awarded in Washington DC, take place on or around this day. Celebrations are also held at Kitty Hawk in North Carolina and in Dayton, Ohio, where the brothers were born.

Events focused on the day also take place at the Wright Brothers National Memorial, a 425-acre (about 1.7km2) area that features a 60-foot (about 18.3 meters) granite pylon (tower) on top of Kill Devil Hill, where the Wright Brothers' camp was located. Other activities include: luncheons in honor of the Wright brothers; school activities focused on aviation and the Wright brothers' achievements in opening doors for future flight advancements; and field trips to aviation and flight museums and centers...


Orville and his brother Wilbur are given credit for building the world's first successful airplane with aircraft controls that enabled them to steer the plane. The brothers' first aircraft, named Flyer, made its maiden flight for 12 seconds and 120 feet (about 36-37 meters) around the site of Wright Brothers National Memorial in North Carolina on December 17, 1903. This day is observed nationally since 1963 to honor Wilbur and Orville Wright.

The Wright brothers were not the first to build and fly experimental aircraft but they are the first to invent aircraft controls that made fixed wing flight possible. In the years that followed, aviation advancements were made. The Wright brothers' efforts paved the way for modern day aeronautics. The brothers' status as inventors of the airplane has been an issue of debate, particularly as there were competing claims regarding other early aviators.


    Happy Birthday today to   Tom Oxner ('65) of AR!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to
  James Strickland ('57)!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

19 - Durwood Adams ('57);

22 -   Kitty Norman Haskins ('57) of VA AND    Dottie Pegram Daniels (NNHS / George Washington HS - '64) of WV AND    Harry Barritt ('64) of VA AND    Dale Mueller ('64) of VA AND   Bill Rash ('67) of VA;

23 -   Tom Flax ('64) of VA AND   Joyce Lawrence Cahoon ('65) of VA AND  Holly Hill Campbell (Hampton Roads Academy - '72) of VA;

24 - James Gay ('57) AND Ann W. Hutcheson ('57) AND   Sandye Jordan Murray ('67) of VA!  

   Many Happy Returns to You All! 


Tuesday, Dec. 17, 1861

The first newspapers from London printed after the “Trent Affair” had exploded there, reached the former colonies in America today, and reactions were strong and immediate. Capt. Charles Wilkes, U.S. Navy, had stopped the British mail ship “Trent” on the high seas by force of arms, and had removed the Confederate commissioners Mason and Slidell, who now languished in a prison in Boston Harbor. To which the London Times commented: “By Capt. Wilkes let the Yankee breed be judged. Swagger and ferocity, built on a foundation of vulgarity and cowardice, these are the characteristics, and these are the most prominent marks by which his countrymen, generally speaking, are known all over the world.” In more diplomatic circles, Lord Russell was debating whether to demand an apology or just declare war.

Wednesday, Dec. 17, 1862

It was called “Official Order No. 11” when it was issued by U.S. Grant from his headquarters office in Holly Spring, Mississippi. Everywhere else it was just called the “Jew Order”. Grant was infuriated by the hordes of sutlers, speculators, illicit cotton traders, smugglers and others who plagued his department along the Mississippi River. This order did not phrase matters quite that way however. “The Jews, as a class violating every regulation of trade established by the Treasury Department and also department orders, are hereby expelled from the department within 24 hours.” While Grant in fact meant the illegal traders regardless of their religious preferences, the horrid phrasing of this order would haunt him for years, including all the way through his Presidency. This was also one of the incidents which renewed the rumors that Grant was far too fond of drink.

Thursday, Dec. 17, 1863

War is a cruel and evil thing, all scholars and most assuredly all participants agree. While it has elements of excitement and pageantry, such as inspired Robert E. Lee to once observe “It is good that war is so terrible, lest we grow too fond of it,” most efforts over the centuries have been to impose rules and restraints on the worst of the cruelties and unnecessary destruction. Still, acts of gratuitous wickedness were not unknown, and one such occurred today. Lt. Commander Fitch, in charge of the USS “Moose”, sent landing parties ashore from his gunboat on Seven Mile Island and Palmyra, on the Tennessee River. There, acting on information from local informants, they sought out and destroyed a facility producing materiel which gave notable aid and comfort to Confederate guerilla and partisan bands operating in the area. Such is war, but it was nonetheless cruel that, nine days before Christmas, this treatment was given to their distilleries.

Saturday, Dec. 17, 1864

The shattered Army of Tennessee was still reeling in retreat from the devastating Battle of Nashville two days ago. Pursuing them was the Federal cavalry of James H. Wilson, along with some detachments of infantry. The flight was essentially along the Franklin Pike in the direction of Columbia, Tenn. Skirmishes broke out repeatedly , with one at Franklin, then another at Hollow Tree Gap, then at the West Harpeth River. Every time the Federals got close enough to be a serious threat, a rear-guard stood to fend them off to allow the rest to escape. Hood had lost most of his supply wagons as well as nearly all his artillery at Nashville, so mounting an offensive effort was impossible.

    From Stacy Dorn Davis ('64) of CA - 12/16/11 - "WHO COULD EXPLAIN IT ANY BETTER??":

This is so cute; adorable; enjoy!

   We just ran this yesterday, Stacy, but it is so very cute!  Thanks so much!

  From Ruth Ann Reece Horace ('67) of FL - 12/12/11 (but only just found...) - "Stay away from Lexmark Printers":

Word to the wise, stay away from Lexmark printers. Our local Walmart stopped carrying the ink cartridge for ours, which is only about a year old. Found them on the internet and ordered them. They are re-manufactured ones. The first 2 printed fine.
When I put in the last one, it didn't show a new cartridge but printed fine. Now it shows NO BLACK INK, and won't print because there is no way to tell the machine that there is ink in the cartridge. I have to order the expensive Lexmark cartridges from them because that is the only place that has them. Tech support says it is made that way and I never should have a cheap cartridge. The Lexmark ones have a chip in them that will only work once and can't be refilled. However, he could not explain why it will print the "Clean Print Head" page with black ink on it, with the "cheap cartridge" but says it has no ink. It is a software thing, he says and nothing can be done to fix it. I think it is time for another printer already. This one is going to the dump!

   YIKES! Thanks for sharing your story with us, Ruthie!

  From Joyce Lawrence Cahoon ('65) of VA - 12/16/11 - "New Computer Virus: Total Destruction, No Repair!!!!!!!!":

New Computer Virus: Total Destruction, No Repair!!!!!!!!


In the coming days, you should be aware.....

Do not open any message with an attachment called:

Invitation FACEBOOK, regardless of who sent it.

It is a virus that opens an OlympIc torch that burns the whole hard disc C of your computer.

This virus will be received from someone you had in your address book ..

That's why you should send this message to all your contacts. It is better to receive this email 25 times than to receive the virus and open it.

If you receive a mail called: Invitation FACEBOOK, though sent by a friend, do not open it and delete it immediately..

It is the worst virus announced by CNN....

A new virus has been discovered recently that has been classified by Microsoft as the most destructive virus ever.

It is a Trojan Horse that asks you to install an adobe flash plug-in.

Once you install it, it's all over. And there is no repair yet for this kind of virus. This virus simply destroys the Zero Sector of the Hard Disc, where the vital information of their function is saved.


   YIKESARONI-RINI-ROONI! What a hateful prank for such a loving time of year! Thank you so much for letting us know, Joyce! Y'all be careful out there!

      From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 12/16/11 - "Merry Christmas":

Merry Christmas
  God Bless America Again!!!  Bring her back to where we should have always been, wash her pretty face, hold her close and then, God Bless America Again!!!
The old man sat in his gas station on a cold Christmas Eve. He hadn't been anywhere in years since his wife had passed away. It was just another day to him. He didn't hate Christmas, just couldn't find a reason to celebrate. He was sitting there looking at the snow that had been falling for the last hour and wondering what it was all about when the door opened and a homeless man stepped through.

Instead of throwing the man out, Old George as he was known by his customers, told the man to come and sit by the heater and warm up. "Thank you, but I don't mean to intrude," said the stranger. "I see you're busy, I'll just go."

"Not without something hot in your belly." George said.

He turned and opened a wide mouth Thermos and handed it to the stranger. "It ain't much, but it's hot and tasty. Stew ... Made it myself. When you're done, there's coffee and it's fresh."

Just at that moment he heard the "ding" of the driveway bell. "Excuse me, be right back," George said. There in the driveway was an old '53 Chevy. Steam was rolling out of the front.. The driver was panicked. "Mister can you help me!" said the driver, with a deep Spanish accent. "My wife is with child and my car is broken." George opened the hood. It was bad. The block looked cracked from the cold, the car was dead.

"You ain't going in this thing," George said as he turned away.

"But Mister, please help ..." The door of the office closed behind George as he went inside. He went to the office wall and got the keys to his old truck, and went back outside. He walked around the building, opened the garage, started the truck and drove it around to where the couple was waiting. "Here, take my truck," he said. "She ain't the best thing you ever looked at, but she runs real good."

George helped put the woman in the truck and watched as it sped off into the night. He turned and walked back inside the office. "Glad I gave 'em the truck, their tires were shot too. That 'ol truck has brand new ones." George thought he was talking to the stranger, but the man had gone. The Thermos was on the desk, empty, with a used coffee cup beside it. "Well, at least he got something in his belly," George thought.

George went back outside to see if the old Chevy would start. It cranked slowly, but it started. He pulled it into the garage where the truck had been. He thought he would tinker with it for something to do. Christmas Eve meant no customers. He discovered the block hadn't cracked, it was just the bottom hose on the radiator. "Well, shoot, I can fix this," he said to himself. So he put a new one on.

"Those tires ain't gonna get 'em through the winter either." He took the snow treads off of his wife's old Lincoln. They were like new and he wasn't going to drive the car anyway.

As he was working, he heard shots being fired. He ran outside and beside a police car an officer lay on the cold ground. Bleeding from the left shoulder, the officer moaned, "Please help me."

George helped the officer inside as he remembered the training he had received in the Army as a medic. He knew the wound needed attention. "Pressure to stop the bleeding," he thought. The uniform company had been there that morning and had left clean shop towels. He used those and duct tape to bind the wound. "Hey, they say duct tape can fix anythin'," he said, trying to make the policeman feel at ease.

"Something for pain," George thought. All he had was the pills he used for his back. "These ought to work." He put some water in a cup and gave the policeman the pills. "You hang in there, I'm going to get you an ambulance."

The phone was dead. "Maybe I can get one of your buddies on that there talk box out in your car." He went out only to find that a bullet had gone into the dashboard destroying the two way radio.

He went back in to find the policeman sitting up. "Thanks," said the officer. "You could have left me there. The guy that shot me is still in the area."

George sat down beside him, "I would never leave an injured man in the Army and I ain't gonna leave you." George pulled back the bandage to check for bleeding. "Looks worse than what it is. Bullet passed right through 'ya. Good thing it missed the important stuff though. I think with time your gonna be right as rain."

George got up and poured a cup of coffee. "How do you take it?" he asked.

"None for me," said the officer..

"Oh, yer gonna drink this. Best in the city. Too bad I ain't got no donuts." The officer laughed and winced at the same time.

The front door of the office flew open. In burst a young man with a gun. "Give me all your cash! Do it now!" the young man yelled. His hand was shaking and George could tell that he had never done anything like this before.

"That's the guy that shot me!" exclaimed the officer.

"Son, why are you doing this?" asked George, "You need to put the cannon away. Somebody else might get hurt."

The young man was confused. "Shut up old man, or I'll shoot you, too. Now give me the cash!"

The cop was reaching for his gun. "Put that thing away," George said to the cop, "we got one too many in here now."

He turned his attention to the young man. "Son, it's Christmas Eve. If you need money, well then, here. It ain't much but it's all I got. Now put that pea shooter away."

George pulled $150 out of his pocket and handed it to the young man, reaching for the barrel of the gun at the same time. The young man released his grip on the gun, fell to his knees and began to cry. "I'm not very good at this am I? All I wanted was to buy something for my wife and son," he went on. "I've lost my job, my rent is due, my car got repossessed last week."

George handed the gun to the cop. "Son, we all get in a bit of squeeze now and then. The road gets hard sometimes, but we make it through the best we can."

He got the young man to his feet, and sat him down on a chair across from the cop. "Sometimes we do stupid things." George handed the young man a cup of coffee. "Bein' stupid is one of the things that makes us human. Comin' in here with a gun ain't the answer. Now sit there and get warm and we'll sort this thing out."

The young man had stopped crying. He looked over to the cop. "Sorry I shot you. It just went off. I'm sorry, officer."

"Shut up and drink your coffee," the cop said.

George could hear the sounds of sirens outside. A police car and an ambulance skidded to a halt. Two cops came through the door, guns drawn. "Chuck! You ok?" one of the cops asked the wounded officer.

"Not bad for a guy who took a bullet. How did you find me?"

"GPS locator in the car. Best thing since sliced bread. Who did this?" the other cop asked as he approached the young man.

Chuck answered him, "I don't know. The guy ran off into the dark. Just dropped his gun and ran."

George and the young man both looked puzzled at each other.

"That guy work here?" the wounded cop continued.

"Yep," George said, "just hired him this morning. Boy lost his job."

The paramedics came in and loaded Chuck onto the stretcher. The young man leaned over the wounded cop and whispered, "Why?"

Chuck just said, "Merry Christmas boy ... and you too, George, and thanks for everything."

"Well, looks like you got one doozy of a break there. That ought to solve some of your problems."

George went into the back room and came out with a box. He pulled out a ring box. "Here you go, something for the little woman. I don't think Martha would mind. She said it would come in handy some day."

The young man looked inside to see the biggest diamond ring he ever saw. "I can't take this," said the young man. "It means something to you."

"And now it means something to you," replied George. "I got my memories. That's all I need."

George reached into the box again. An airplane, a car and a truck appeared next. They were toys that the oil company had left for him to sell. "Here's something for that little man of yours."

The young man began to cry again as he handed back the $150 that the old man had handed him earlier.

"And what are you supposed to buy Christmas dinner with? You keep that too," George said. "Now git home to your family."

The young man turned with tears streaming down his face. "I'll be here in the morning for work, if that job offer is still good."

"Nope. I'm closed Christmas day," George said. "See ya the day after."

George turned around to find that the stranger had returned. "Where'd you come from? I thought you left?"

"I have been here. I have always been here," said the stranger. "You say you don't celebrate Christmas. Why?"

"Well, after my wife passed away, I just couldn't see what all the bother was. Puttin' up a tree and all seemed a waste of a good pine tree. Bakin' cookies like I used to with Martha just wasn't the same by myself and besides I was gettin' a little chubby."

The stranger put his hand on George's shoulder. "But you do celebrate the holiday, George. You gave me food and drink and warmed me when I was cold and hungry. The woman with child will bear a son and he will become a great doctor.

The policeman you helped will go on to save 19 people from being killed by terrorists. The young man who tried to rob you will make you a rich man and not take any for himself.

"That is the spirit of the season and you keep it as good as any man."

George was taken aback by all this stranger had said. "And how do you know all this?" asked the old man.

"Trust me, George. I have the inside track on this sort of thing. And when your days are done you will be with Martha again."

The stranger moved toward the door. "If you will excuse me, George, I have to go now. I have to go home where there is a big celebration planned."

George watched as the old leather jacket and the torn pants that the stranger was wearing turned into a white robe. A golden light began to fill the room.

"You see, George ... it's My birthday. Merry Christmas."

George fell to his knees and replied, "Happy Birthday, Lord Jesus."

This story is better than any greeting card.

Now clear the lump from your throat, blow your nose, and send this along to a friend of yours or someone who may need a reminder as to why we celebrate Christmas.


     Thanks, Dools!

CHRISTMAS RECIPES: - Gingersnap Streusel Pumpkin Pie - "The secret ingredients to this sweet, golden creation are the honey-roasted almonds and the cinnamon. That's all we're saying, though, because we don't wanna give the warm taste away too much. We promise you'll enjoy!" - Christmas Crunch Cake - "Your holiday gathering will be extra special and extra easy, when you start with a store-bought cake and fancy it up with your own homemade frosting and garnishes. Our Christmas Crunch Cake will do you proud!" - Peppermint Pie - "Wanna know the not-so-secret recipe in this Peppermint Pie? You got it, it's peppermint and boy-oh-boy is it incredible in this dessert! Yum-my!"

CROCHET BONUS: - Two Little Penguins By Donna Collinsworth



"The Wishing Star"

Davey looked out the window at the falling snow. Usually he loved snow, but today he was sad. It was Christmas Eve, and the snow was so deep that it might ruin Christmas for Davey. Because of the snowstorm, Davey was afraid that his older brother Josh would never make it home for Christmas.

“And I have such a special present for him!” Davey said to himself. “If only he could get here!" With his best crayons, Davey had drawn a picture of the barn on their farm. He was going to give it to Josh for Christmas to hang in his room at college. Davey turned away from the window with a sigh.

Just then, Dad called, “How about some help shoveling the driveway? We’re going to try to make it into town to finish our Christmas shopping. We also have to buy our tree, don’t forget.”

Davey ran to get his boots and coat. He followed Dad out into the snow. Davey picked up his small shovel and set to work, while Dad used his bigger one. Helping Dad shovel the snow made Davey feel better.

Soon, Davey and Dad and Mom were on their way to town. Because of the snow, they had to drive slowly. “I brought my picture for Josh with me,” Davey said as they rode along. “Maybe I can find a frame to fit it when we get to the store.” “Good idea,” said Mom. “I’ll help you look.”

When they got to town, they went to the Christmas tree lot. Davey was the first one out of the car. He ran over to a beautiful, glossy, tall tree. “Look at this one!” he shouted to Mom and Dad. “Josh will love this tree!” Then he remembered. Josh probably wouldn’t be home at all. Davey felt sad again.

Mom and Dad came over to see the tree Davey had found. “That’s a great tree, Davey,” said Dad with a smile. “I think you’re right. It’s the one we should get.” Mom added, “And even if Josh doesn’t get here to see it, he’d still be happy we have such a beautiful tree.”

Later, at the store, Mom took Davey to the counter where picture frames were sold. Davey looked at all the frames. Finally he said, “I like this wooden one. It reminds me of the wooden barn in my picture.”

The wooden frame was just the right size for his picture. Davey was very pleased. “I’m getting this just in case Josh makes it home for Christmas,” he said. Mom patted him on the shoulder. “I know how much you want Josh to be here tonight,” she said, “but it is still snowing hard. I really don’t think hell make it. So you mustn’t be too disappointed.”

“At least I can wish he’d come,” Davey said. As they were about to leave the store, Davey saw a crowd of people. “What are all those people looking at?” Davey wondered. He ran to get a closer look. Looking around the man in front of him, Davey could see what was at the center of the crowd. It was Santa! Children were sitting on Santa’s lap and talking to him. “Can we get in line, please Dad?” begged Davey.

“Well, we’re kind of in a hurry. We need to be back home before the snow gets too deep,” said Dad. “But since this is Santa, I guess we can spare the time.”

Davey gave Dad a big thank-you hug and ran to get in line. It seemed to take forever, but at last it was his turn. When Davey climbed up on Santa’s lap, Santa said, “Well, well, and what would you like for Christmas?”

“I wish my brother Josh could get home for Christmas,” Davey said. “But the snow is so deep that Mom and Dad don’t think he can make it.” “I don’t usually deliver people on Christmas Eve, just toys,” said Santa. “But I’ll tell you what. Tonight, before you go to sleep, make your wish on the biggest, brightest star in the sky. That’s the Wishing Star.”

“Will it really work?” Davey asked Santa. “Well, you never can tell about wishes, so I don’t make any guarantees,” said Santa. “But it surely doesn’t hurt to try!”

On the way home in the car, Davey saw that the snow was coming down harder and harder. When he and Mom and Dad were almost to the house, Davey talked about Santa’s Wishing Star. “We all make wishes every now and then,” said Mom, “but sometimes they just can’t come true.”

“I’m going to try, anyway,” insisted Davey. That night after dinner, Dad put the Christmas tree in its stand, and Mom and Davey joined him in decorating it with colored lights and balls and lots of tinsel. While they were working, Davey thought sadly, “It would be so great if Josh were here to see our beautiful tree.” Dad Put a golden angel on the very top. “I think this is the best tree we’ve ever had!” he exclaimed.

Davey went over to the window and looked out. The snow had stopped falling. And there, right overhead, was a star Davey had never seen before. It was big and bright and sparkling. It was the biggest and brightest star in the sky, just as Santa had said.

Davey looked at the star and said, “Wishing Star, please let my Christmas wish come true. I wish that Josh would come home tonight, so we can all be together for Christmas.” Then Davey closed his eyes and wished as hard as he could.

Too soon, Davey heard Mom’s voice. “Time for bed, little one. If you go right to sleep, it will be Christmas morning before you know it.” Davey hung his stocking by the fireplace. He kissed Mom and Dad and started up the stairs to his room.

Just then, the three of them heard a sound outside the front door. “Who could that be?” asked Dad.Suddenly the door flew open, and there was Josh! Davey raced to the door, flung his arms around his brother, and gave him the biggest hug he could manage. Josh had made it home after all. Davey’s Christmas wish had come true!

Later that night, when Davey was finally in bed, he looked out his window. Sure enough, the Wishing Star was still high in the sky. “Thank you, Wishing Star,” he whispered. “I knew you could do it. You’ve made this my best Christmas ever!”

From - 12/12/11 - "3 Holiday Party Tips":

How to Thrive at Holiday Gatherings: 3 Preps Before You Go

By Belinda Lams

Whether you're going to gather with family or friends, many people find holiday events very stressful.
Here are some simple tips to help you prepare and make this year better than your last. Make sure you do these BEFORE you go!

Prep #1: Remember Why
Holidays were created because they have meaning. Due to of all the commercialism and busyness, much of the root meanings get swept aside and the holidays become something entirely different than their original intent.

However, if you can take a few moments to remind yourself about the larger themes that make this time special, you will be in a much bigger internal conversation than stressing on what to wear or bring.

What you can do:
Ask yourself, "Why does this day matter and why does it matter to me?" "What transcendent themes do I want to hold in my consciousness as I go to this gathering?"

Prep #2: Get Centered and Clear
Believe it or not, part of what creates those uncomfortable moments with other people comes from inside of you. Even if you're not the instigator, you are the responder or reactor to someone's negativity or clumsiness.
The more clear and centered you are, the more likely you are to act in the way that you really want to be. You'll have the most success if you clear yourself before you go.

What you can do:
Think of the situation you are going into. Who will be there? What is the nature of your relationship with each one? Is anything triggering you? If so, name it specifically.

Try to access your wise, observer self (the part of you that doesn't get triggered). What would that part of you say about these people and situations?

Work to get to a place of peace and compassion for each person that you will encounter.
Ask yourself, "What kind of person do I want to be at this gathering?"

Name all the attributes of your best self that you can bring into the situation for the highest good.

Prep #3: Devise Strategies for Difficult Moments

If you know that you will be in some situations that you find particularly awkward or toxic, plan some strategies to help you navigate those moments. Have them at the ready in your bag of tools so you won't be caught in a situation that you have difficulty getting out of.

One big idea to keep in mind is that you have choices. You may not feel like you have choices, but you do. You don't even "have" to go to anything unless you choose. Once you choose, that's where the wisdom comes in.

What you can do:
If you know you will be around someone who is particularly critical or demeaning, create several strategies to politely remove yourself.

Ex. If grandma starts getting mean and critical, I will suddenly have to use the restroom and excuse myself. (I got that one from Rabbi Finley).

Comb through each and every possible negative thing you can imagine and create ways to gracefully navigate them. And yes, even with all the prepping, there will still be those unexpected surprises. These are opportunities to learn.

Don't forget that other people may also have some anxiety about the event. Your clear energy will not only be good for you, it can actually make a positive impact on other people as well. If you don't believe that, just try it as an experiment this year. What do you have to lose?

About the Author:

Belinda Lams is a Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about helping people clarify a compelling vision for their lives and then take the transformational steps to realize this vision every day.

Utilizing her journey of brokenness and healing through the loss of her daughter to cancer, Belinda brings a unique and compassionate approach to life transitions; discovering life after death and loss, intentional living, practical tools, and living from your passion and purpose.

She was trained in the Co-Active Coaching Model and Reality Therapy Techniques through Refuah Institute in Jerusalem, Israel. She also studies Spiritual Formation and Moral Psychology with Rabbi Mordecai Finley of Ohr HaTorah in Los Angeles, CA.
Along with personal coaching, Belinda is available for speaking engagements and workshops.

Check out her self-coaching e-course Soul Activator: 90 Days to Kickstart Your Life from the Inside Out.
Visit or contact Belinda at

From - 12/16/11 - "When you Give You will receive!":

Dear Flylady,

I woke up this morning with a hole in the pit of my stomach and in my heart and everything seemed so negative. I wish I could say this was unusual but after a difficult childhood where I was only shown conditional love, it does happen pretty often. I have had some success in the past few months with changing my mood by concentrating on positive things and building myself up so decided to do this, as I did not want to stay in that horrible frame of mind! Now, this does require some work but it is very helpful.

I started by thinking about the things in my life I was grateful for and it did improve my mood a little but it was not enough. I asked myself what did I need to fill this hole in myself and the answer came back to me: 'Love'. I thought, well that's all very well, but I don't receive a huge amount of love in my life.. I am sure my husband loves me but he is not very good at showing it, so how was I supposed to fill myself with love? The answer came back to me: 'by giving love'. I kind of argued with this because how can you give something you don't feel or have? How can you give this away when your own cup is empty? I did not receive an answer to this question so decided to give it a go!

First of all I prayed for all the different people in my life and for the things I knew they needed such as: a new job, health, wisdom, peace and so on - I should say at this point that I don't folloow any particular form of religion but find prayer to have a positive outcome. I then texted some friends and other people I know and wished them a good morning. This included wishing all the best to a friend's brother-in-law who is having an operation for cancer. You have to know that this is very unusual for me as I am not very sociable and do not usually initiate social contact.

And what do you know? I started feeling myself filling up with love and contentment! This was made even better when I started receiving replies to my texts... I was rather bemused by the whole thing and then suddenly realized the words of Eric Dodge's 'A Christmas Wish' were running through my head: 'Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me...!' I realized that this is what had happened - I wanted and needed love and instead of waiting to get - I gave it instead and as a result received it back threefold. What a wonderful thing! I feel like I've been hit over the head with a God-breeze and such a great one that I would like to pass it on... Best wishes and peace to all of you for this holiday season!!

FlyBaby B


FlyLady here; You are so right! It is up to us to get the ball rolling. If we want love we have to give it. It all starts with a phone call, text or simple little note dropped in the mail. You will receive what you give.

I am listening to Eric's Christmas Wish right now. It warms my heart. You can go listen to it too on our website.

From - 12/16/11 - "Food For Thought: Clutter Free Food Gifts":

Dear Friends,

There is never a time where food isn't appreciated. And in today's tough economy, there couldn't be a better gift for the holidays, nor could there be one that's just a little easier on the wallet! Add to that the convenience of holiday shopping at your grocery store and leaving the mall to the teenagers. Can I hear an amen?

So you know what that means: yes, I'm going to give y'all another list. This one is my top 5 holiday gifts to give. I've done presents like these for years gifting many an appreciative soul and now I'm going to share the secret to making edible gifts!

1) Flavored Vinegars. Very easy to make, two methods; you can see me make them here!

2) Candy Cane Hot Cocoa. Easy and festive to make. Mix together 2 cups each powdered sugar and powdered milk, plus 1 cup of unsweetened cocoa. Add 1 cup of mini chocolate chips for extra chocolatey decadence. Now place 4 ounces into a ziplock, then place the portioned bags into dollar store mugs. Wrap with cellophane and place a candy cane into each ribbon atop of the mug. Give as an individual gift (with the recipe attached and instructions to use the candy cane to stir with) or a whole set in a basket for someone special. To make cocoa, fill mug half full with mix and top with boiling water, stir with enclosed candy cane, enjoy! Makes about 4-6 servings.

3) Salsa is a great gift! To make chop tomatoes, red onions, fresh cilantro, jalapenos if you dare and add a touch of cumin and a little salt. You could add garlic if you like. Play with this recipe and make it your own. Put a tag on there that reads, "When you're hot, you're hot!" for fun. You can give this fresh (keep refrigerated) or cook it and can it (see instructions on your canner for specifics).

4) Popcorn and a Movie. Easy, fun gift! Give a classic movie (It's a Wonderful Life comes to mind), placed in a huge plastic bowl from the dollar store, with a big bag of gourmet popcorn, tied up with cellophane and a raffia bow. One year, I used a paint pen to decorate the bowl with drawn on popcorn (not hard to draw!) and the personalized it, ie; Smith Family Movie Night. How easy is that?

5) Freezer Meals! Nothing says lovin' like something from the oven. What if you gave the gift of a week's worth of dinner, all frozen, ready to thaw and cook up fresh in their ovens? Check out SavingDinner's freezer menus and give the gift of dinner! If you did the Now and Later menu, you could make dinner all this week, make up and freeze those same meals one at a time and give them all as a gift!

Food is indeed a great gift, clutter-free and something everyone needs!

This year, shop from your grocery store and make food gifts that will bring a smile to everyone's face! For more food gift ideas, gift certificates and moneysaving food ideas, go to

Leanne Ely, Your Dinner Diva
Saving Your Dinner Since 2001 Come & Get It! Fr*ee Menu-Mailer when you get our Daily Dish!

From - 12/16/11 - "Pampering #15":

Hello FlyLady & Crew,

I have pampered myself this month by purchasing some of your wonderful tools from the FlyShop -- most particularly the Office in a Bag. I have hot spots of paper seemingly everywhere I turn in my home. I've gotten much better about tossing my papers but the piles are still accumulating (Is there a magnet that attracts paper to non-metal surfaces?? LOL) I'm very excited to begin using my OIB! I've realized -- just this month after a year of fluttering here and there -- that the best gift I can give myself is a clean and tidy home.

I find myself migrating to the room(s) that are cleanest that day when I come home. It's made me realize that I love having a clean home and a few minutes a day can help keep me happy -- in a strange pampering kind of way! lol!

Fluttering Carrie in CT

Kelly here: Our habit this month is pampering.

You deserve to do something nice for yourself!

I am so proud of you.


- 12/16/11:

Two buddies are fishing, but they haven’t caught anything all day. Then, another fisherman walks by with a huge load of fish. They ask him, "Excuse me, but where did you get all those fish?"

The other fisherman replies, "If you just go down the stream until the water isn't salty, there are a ton of hungry fish."

They thank him and go on their way. Fifteen minutes later, one fisherman says to the other, "Fill the bucket up with water and see if the water is salty."

He dips the bucket in the stream and drinks some. "Nope. Still salty."

Thirty minutes later, he asks him to check again.

"Nope, still salty."

One our later they check again.

"Nope. Still salty."

"This isn't good," the fisherman finally says. "We have been walking for almost two hours and the water is still salty!"

"I know," says the other. "And the bucket is almost empty!"


1. Thursday, January 5, 2012 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

3. Wednesday, February 8, 2012 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

4. Friday and Saturday, October 5 and 6, 2012 - Class of 1962 - 50-Year Reunion - Crowne Plaza Hotel, Hampton on the Water. More information after the Holidays. Meetings are second Tuesday of each month. CONTACT: Brenda Amos Williams at 

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White Is in the Winter Night

Written and recorded by Enya (b. 17 May 1961), 2008

Have you seen the mistletoe, it fills the night with kisses
Have you seen the bright blue star, it fills your heart with wishes
Have you seen the candlelight, it shines from every window
Have you seen the moon above, it lights the sky in silver

Green is in the mistletoe and red is in the holly
Silver in the stars above that shine on everybody
Gold is in the candlelight and crimson in the embers
White is in the winter night that everyone remembers

Have you heard the boys outside, when all the girls are skating
Have you heard their sweet hearts cry for all this time they're waiting

Green is in the mistletoe and red is in the holly
Silver in the stars above that shine on everybody
Gold is in the candlelight and crimson in the embers
White is in the winter night that everyone remembers

Have you seen the children playing, tiny hands are frozen
Have you seen them hurry home, when suddenly it's snowing

Green is in the mistletoe and red is in the holly
Silver in the stars above that shine on everybody
Gold is in the candlelight and crimson in the embers
White is in the winter night that everyone remembers

Have you heard that bells are ringing, ringing out their story
Have you heard the choir singing, Glory, Glory Glory

"White Is in the Winter Night" lyrics courtesy of - 12/16/11

Image of Mistletoe courtesy of - well, I cannot seem to locate that information, but it's been in my files since 12/12/06

Holly Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 08/12/04

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Coast Guard Seal clip art courtesy of - 10/03/07

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated BOO-HOO courtesy of Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 08/28/09
Thanks, Glenn!

Animated Ringing Christmas Bell clip art (designed by Art Holden) courtesy of - 12/08/05

NNHS65 Home Page Banner created by my #5 Son, Nathaniel Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL - '97) of IL - 06/06/02
Thanks, Nathaniel!

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