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12/08/11 - NNHS Newsletter -
Feast of the Immaculate Conception

“We never give more honour to Jesus than when we honour his Mother,
and we honour her simply and solely to honour him all the more perfectly.
We go to her only as a way leading to the goal we seek - Jesus, her Son.”

- Saint Louis Marie de Montfort
(31 Jan 1673 - 28 Apr 1716)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   This is our third observation of this Catholic Holiday:

BONUS - - O Gloriosa Virginum, 2008



     Happy Birthday tomorrow to Shirley Smith Langston ('57)!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

10 -     John Murden ('60) of VA AND   Glen Davenport ('63) of VA;

12 -   Mary Massey Lyle ('61) of NJ AND      Marcus C. Higgins ('65) of AZ AND       Tom Norris (Hampton HS - '73) AND   My #2 Daughter-in-Law, Bethany Winona Harty (Siuslaw HS, OR - '94) of TX;

13 - Kay Davis Smith ('57);

14 - Elizabeth Mitchell Hedgepeth ('57) AND   Kathie Avant Taylor ('64) of GA;

15 - Jewell Hamner Crowe ('57) AND        Buster Vest ('63) of VA!

   Many Happy Returns to You All! 



Sunday, Dec. 8, 1861

As this Sabbath was commendably unmarred by acts of mayhem and militarism, it offers an opportunity to note the actions of an unlikely group of war supporters: The American Bible Society. This group, supported entirely by private donations from individuals and churches, released a remarkable report today. Less than a year from the time the War began, they were already to the point where they were printing, shipping and distributing more than 7,000 copies per day of the New Testament to soldiers in the field. A soldier was likely to carry two items of about the same size: his Testament and a pack of playing cards. One, however, was often found dropped on the field when fighting started. There was a common belief that going to meet one’s Maker with gambling paraphernalia on one’s person did not enhance the chances of the gates of Heaven opening.

Monday, Dec. 8, 1862

There has never been a general in any army of any nation anywhere in recorded history who thought he had sufficient men in his army. This was certainly the case of every army in the Confederate States of America, and the man in the middle who had to do the juggling act was President Jefferson Davis. Robert E. Lee had sent another letter requesting more troops, and Davis wrote back to him today that he had none to send, and if he did have surplus soldiers, they would most likely be sent to the Western Theater where the need was becoming dire. “In Tennessee and Mississippi the disparity between our armies and those of the enemy is so great as to fill me with apprehension,” he wrote today. He also mentioned that he was leaving immediately on a trip West to see what could be done about the situation.

Tuesday, Dec. 8, 1863

It was Abraham Lincoln’s turn to offer a State of the Union address to his Congress today, as it had been Jefferson Davis’ duty to his yesterday. Lincoln’s message, needless to say, was considerably more upbeat than his Confederate counterpart’s had been. After the usual reports on foreign relations (good) and military matters besides the War (good aside from some difficulties with Indians), he got to the heart of his message: a Proclamation of Amnesty and Reconciliation. The key provisions of this were that anyone who had participated “directly or by implication” in the Rebellion against the Union could return to lawful citizenship simply by taking an oath of allegiance. Exceptions were military officers who had renounced their oaths to serve the Confederacy, high-ranking members of the CSA government, and anyone who had treated Union prisoners of war, black or white, in an “other than lawful” manner.

Thursday, Dec. 8, 1864

Being unable to muster anything near the manpower to directly give battle to Gen. William T. Sherman’s army as they marched from Atlanta to the Sea, desperation forced a resort to weapons both sides really considered illegal: buried “land torpedoes” which exploded when stepped on. What would today be called land mines were considered lawful to use around forts, but not in open roadways. After Sherman came across a young soldier who had had his foot blown off by such a mine, he confirmed an order by Maj. Gen. Frank Blair Jr. that Confederate prisoners should march in the lead to dig up these bombs. These men protested that they had not buried the bombs and had no idea where they might be. Sherman, blunt as ever, told them that if someone had to be blown up, he would rather it be them than his own men.


   Don't forget - The Army Navy Football Game will be telecast on CBS on Saturday, December 10, 2011 at 2:30 PM ET:

   GO, NAVY!

       From Dave Spriggs ('64) of VA - 12/07/11 - "Exotic locations":

I enjoyed    Eva Ellis Madagan’s ('61 - of FL) travelogue of rarely visited and exotic locations. There is one I would like to add.

I have never been in Flagrante:

During the Renaissance, Italian noblemen often took mistresses and went to great lengths to keep this fact from their wives. They would arrange to meet their lovers in the remote and beautiful seacoast village of Flagrante on the Adriatic Sea. Eventually, the wives learned of this deception and would travel to the village in order to catch their husbands in the act. As the betrayed wife burst into the room to discover her husband in the arms of his paramour, she would shout, “AHA … I have caught you in Flagrante!!!”

     Well, I am delighted to learn that, Captain! Thanks so much!

      From Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA - 12/07/11 - "Cover Shot":


Here is a cover photo of a little book that is freely given to all area businesses and doctor's offices that has ads and coupons relating to young children. My youngest granddaughter --
  April Stokes -- is on this year's cover for December with a photo of her from last year's Christmas shoot.  She was about 15 months when this photo was taken.

Be careful, we're everywhere!!

"R">Proud Grandfather!!

   WOWZERONI! How cool is that?!? She is SOOO adorable! Thanks so much for sharing this with us, Wayne Honey!

  From Ivan Anker ('67) of VA - 12/07/11 - "Chanukah Music":

Hi Carol,

Happy Holidays to one and all no matter what the religions are. You were asking for more Chanukah music for those of us that are Jewish. My suggestion is to Google "Chanukah music". Surely they have a mini library of them to help you.

My recovery from bypass surgery is going great. This is the best I've felt in years and my weight keeps falling. Both are things to be thankful for this year.


   Thanks, Ivan! This is a wonderful time of year when we all have something to celebrate - and that's as it should be!  

   Googling is how I originally located the songs I have in my files - and it seems I really do have four - Hanukkah, Oh Hanukkah, S'vivon Sov Sov Sov (Dreidel Spin), Mi Yemalel? (Who Can Retell?) and I Have A Little Dreidle.  I just didn't want anyone wondering, "Why doesn't she ever play my favorite song?!?"

   If I had a specific title, I might do better finding a particular treasured song...

   I'm so delighted to hear about your health, Ivan - that is just SUPER! Enjoy your holidays - you have much to celebrate!

    From Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 12/06/11 - "One pound deer":

One pound deer---5 days old---he is beautiful.

This tiny deer was delivered by Caesarean section at a Wildlife hospital after an auto killed his mother.

Little Rupert, who is so small he can fit in an adult's hand, was born after vets failed in their battle to save his mother.

At just 6" tall and weighing just over a pound, he is now in an incubator in the intensive care unit at Tiggywinkles Wildlife Hospital in Buckinghamshire. He has only recently opened his eyes.

Les Stocker, founder of Tiggywinkles, said, "Rupert's mother had very severe injuries. We brought him out and got him breathing, and then he went into an incubator on oxygen. He is now being fed by a tube."

Staff members are optimistic that Rupert, now 5 days old, will make a full recovery.

"Deer are very, very tricky, but this one has spirit. He's an extremely ballsy ole' boy, and quite pushy he is," Mr. Stocker said.
   AWWW - so cute! What a great story of life and hope and determination! Thanks, Glenn!

    From Stacy Dorn Davis ('64) of CA - 12/07/11 - "IT'S ON ! Weeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!":


IT'S ON !!!!

You can't send this back to me....that's the rules of the game..
Just a reminder Christmas will be here before you know it

~You have just been hit with an e-mail snow ball!~

It's the start of.....

Snow Ball Fight 2011 !!

One rule to this game....

You can NOT hit someone who has
already hit you!


Go get as many people as you can,

Before they get you!

I got you first! And you can't get me back!

Nanee - Nanee - Nanee!

We do not stop playing because we grow old;

We grow old because we stop playing.

Never Be The First To Get Old!!!! !
If you see someone without a smile, give him yours.
              Have a GREAT Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

   GIGGLES! Thanks, Stacy!

      From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 12/06/11 - "a helping hand needed":

I mailed a Christmas greeting card to this girl....thought maybe you had an extra card you could send too???

Alright - here goes - I need a favor from all my friends and their friends and so on and so on. As most of you know, our daughter, Anna is 17 years old. She is a great young lady who is stuck between wanting to be like other 17 year olds and watching Dora and enjoying coloring and dolls. She is diagnosed with Lennox Gastaut Syndrome, a very difficult to control form of epilepsy, that has no known cause and no known cure, and is accompanied by intellectual disabilities. She loves loves loves greeting cards. She loves receiving them and opening those that others receive. She keeps cards with her and still has some from last Spring. So - if you can send her a greeting card in the mail, it will make her day. She would love to collect cards from all over the world - so please repost this ..... Cards can be mailed to:

Anna Bryant
2377 Lakeshore Drive
Oneonta, AL 35121

..... Thanks - Keep this going! We love our Anna!.............

   Thank you so much, Shari - what a nice gesture!



Easiest Beef Roast Ever!

FlyCrew: This is about the easiest Crock Pot recipe ever. I used to have a much more complicated one – and one day was out of some of the ingredients and just did this:

One 2 lb. Beef Roast
One regular size bottle Italian Dressing

Put the Roast in your crock pot – set crock pot to low; pour bottle of Italian Dressing over roast, and cook up to 10 hours. That’s it. It is delicious.

From - 12/07/11 - "Young at Heart: Zip-a-dee-doo-dah":

Young@Heart by Pam Young

I live my life around this song of the south!

Zip-a-dee-doo-dah, zip-a-dee-ay
My, oh my what a wonderful day!
Plenty of sunshine headin' my way
Zip-a-dee-doo-dah, zip-a-dee-ay

Mister Bluebird on my shoulder
It's the truth, it's actual
Everything is satisfactual
Zip-a-dee-doo-dah, zip-a-dee-ay
Wonderful feeling, wonderful day!

But what happens when you feel that way and events come around the corner and pull you from your bliss? Well my dears, it's a perfect time to test your truth! The truth that there is a power for good in this Universe and we can know that it works for the good of all concerned.

This weekend Terry and I were submerged in news and information that seemed to try to pull us into the swirl you see when you let the bathtub water out. It pulled us and messed with our internal optimism and our joy to see life as good.

When we put our heavy hearts and heads together to come to a conclusion that reflected our collective joy for life and the knowing that there is a divine plan functioning in each and everyone's life, we got strength. That's what a good marriage does! Yea for those happy couples who have the blend of love as well as law, beauty as well as reason, and feeling as well as intellect. What a divine gift.

Because we were both hit at the same time with devastating news we had to first nurture each other. We had to pull together and acknowledge the hurt we were both feeling and together move forward as one, to do what we could do to soothe and support those who needed our love and good thoughts.

How do you extend your love to a fear-filled mother and father who have to take their five-year-old daughter to the Mayo Clinic for an appointment on Tuesday, December 6 at 8:30 am Minnesota time? This young family lives next door to us and we have grown to love them in the ten years we've been close neighbors. All we could do was convey to the mother and my very good friend, our love for her and her daughter and to tell her it's so easy to see her daughter strong, healthy and happy and to know she is in God's hands. We laughed together when we agreed that we moms don't get to say our children are ours. We both agreed our children are God's children and we are just taking care of them for God.

In addition to our little next door neighbor, Terry got a call from an employee and lifetime friend that he is terminal with stage five lung cancer. We had no idea he was in ill health. This friend has worked for Terry for 15 years and has been a vital link in the success of his business.

A five year-old and a 55 year-old, both in the arms of God and yet to our mortal eyes we can get filled with sadness, grief, worry and fear and forget to know that. Our work then is to know that all is well and that there is a higher power at work and to maintain our joy and knowing that life is good. Zip-a-dee-doo-dah!

From - 12/05/11 - "Commitment Checklist":

Commitment: The Essential Ingredient In Your Relationship 

By Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.

Anyone who has run a marathon knows about commitment. To compete, the athlete relies on extensive training and physical fitness. But when the initial enthusiasm wanes and the painful, long-distance realities grip the runner's body, it is sheer dedication--commitment to completing what she started--that sustains the runner's motivation as she reaches for the finish line.

A relationship is a lot like running a marathon. There are highs and lows, challenges and rewards, and times when you may want to give up--when it feels too difficult to continue. What will keep you on track and moving forward when your relationship hits the inevitable rough patch? Will love be enough?

Commitment: Your relationship lifeline

Commitment is a belief in relationship permanence and the understanding that at times your union will need a life-jacket to stay afloat.

When you and your partner are committed to the relationship, the union remains more important than your (and your partner's) individual needs. Without mutual commitment, deep trust will never take root and intimacy will wither. When one person's commitment is tenuous, the very fabric of the relationship is weakened. A lack of commitment reduces the buffer that holds relationships together during times of conflict and stress. Imagine living with the fear that periodic slumps in your relationship can cause your partner to bail.

Trust and deep intimacy will only grow in the soil of commitment.

Commitment has a dual role in your relationship. You can view commitment as the vehicle to help deepen your love, and you can also view it as a safety net of sorts, a way to protect your marriage or relationship during the difficult periods that each and every relationship experiences.
Commitment allows love and intimacy to mature over time. Someone who ends a relationship because the excitement of new love has diminished misses out on the opportunities that relationships bring for individual and mutual growth.

Some erroneously believe that a commitment like "till death do us part" means foolishly locking yourself into a life-time of potential unhappiness. No one should commit to a relationship that cannot meet their needs. Your needs (and your partner's needs) do matter and should be part of the overall commitment equation. But life and relationships are complicated, and there will be stretches of time when your partner does not meet your needs (and you will not meet your partner's needs). Commitment is what will get you through those rough stretches, enabling each of you to get back on track in meeting each other's needs once again.

All couples (married and unmarried) face an enormous challenge: How to stay devoted to one another throughout the life of your relationship, even when early enthusiasm and euphoria naturally wane.

Commitment is a very personal process. Unfortunately, for some it will mean blind dedication to a union that rarely meets their needs; while others eschew commitment and impulsively use the ebb and flow of happiness as the gauge whether to stay or leave. Both of these approaches are flawed. Ideally, commitment will remain in place as happiness comes and goes and your relationship finds its footing along life's shifting terrain.

Commitment checklist:

Commit to ________:

...understanding that love grows and deepens over a lifetime

...acknowledging that all relationships go through ups and downs

...continuously working toward a meaningful relationship that will transcend momentary happiness

...working through problems with your partner (while resisting the temptation to get your needs met outside of the relationship)

...finding solutions that will keep your relationship moving forward

...compromising (even when you think you're right)

...yourself and the relationship

Don't commit to ________:

...anything that feels abusive

...always sacrificing what's most important to you

...the idea that if your relationship requires hard work it means your relationship is flawed

...the mindset that it's acceptable for your needs to continuously go unmet

One of the greatest challenges to commitment lies in the instant-gratification mindset--the idea that you deserve to have what you want when you want it. The settings to our pleasure barometer have been altered and humans are less willing to deal with frustrating circumstances or anything that feels like it stands in the way of immediate happiness. This poses a problem for relationships.

When you make decisions about your relationship based solely on the need to feel happy (all the time), you abandon commitment and the rich opportunities that are essential for your relationship to grow.

I invite you to think about what commitment means to you. What you are committing to in your marriage or relationship?

About the Author:

Richard Nicastro, Ph.D. is a psychologist and relationship coach who is passionate about helping couples protect the sanctuary of their relationship. Rich and his wife Lucia founded LifeTalk Coaching, an internet-based coaching business that helps couples strengthen their relationships.

To discover many practical tips for a stronger relationship, visit Dr. Nicastro's website at and sign up for his FREE monthly newsletter. You will also immediately receive two free reports that can help you build the relationship of your dreams.

From - 12/07/11 - "Pampering #6":

Dear FlyLady,

Just an idea to share with you. I saw your note that you have been flossing as part of your nightly pampering. In a book called Real Age, I learned that flossing regularly adds 6-9 years to your lifespan. This is because the plaque that builds up around our teeth, if not removed, eventually scoots its way up into our brain...Yuck!! (I have enough garbage I'm trying to declutter from my brain LOL) I have not always been the best about flossing so I've added two ideas to help it feel more easy/fun. 1. I buy the easy floss picks. I like to buy cinnamon because it tastes good and feels like a treat. Also, 2. I learned from my dental hygienist that Water Picks and the like are equal to or better than flossing by hand. I do this at least a couple of times per week and usually add Listerine or some other mouthwash to warm water and squirt away. Since I started doing this, my dental checkups have been EXCELLENT! In fact, while I typically had pockets of 3-4 and sometimes even a 5, I now have all 2s. Hope you and others might find this useful!!

A Music City Flybaby

To pamper myself, I use my favorite scent from Bath & Body Works. Shower gel, lotion after shower then body spray. Makes me smell good & feel wonderful

Alisa in WV


Kelly here: Our habit this month is pampering.

Please make time for yourself. You deserve to finally love yourself.

You are not behind! I don't want you to try to catch up; I just want you to jump in where we are. O.K.?


From - 12/07/11:
One friend to another, “My new horse is very well-mannered.”

“That’s nice.”

“Yes, isn’t it? Every time we come to a jump he stops and lets me go first!”  


1. Wednesday, December 14, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

2. Thursday, January 5, 2012 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

3. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 10/22/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

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Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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O Gloriosa Virginum

Ascribed to Saint Venantius Fortunatus, Bishop of Poitiers
(c. 530-c. 600/609)

O gloriósa vírginum,
sublímis inter sídera,
Qui te creávit párvulum
lacténte nutris úbere.

Quod Heva tristis ábstulit,
tu reddis almo gérmine,
Intrent ut astra flébiles,
caeli reclúdis cárdines.

Tu Regis Alti jánua
et aula lucis fúlgida,
Vitam datam per Vírginem,
gentes redémptae pláudite.

Jesu Tibi sit glória,
Qui natus es de Vírgine,
Cum Patre et almo Spíritu,
in sempitérna saécula.


O Queen of all the Virgin choir,
Enthroned above the starry sky;
Who with pure milk from thy own breast
Thy own Creator didst supply.

What man hath lost in hapless Eve,
Thy sacred womb to man restores;
Thou to the sorrowing here beneath
Hast open’d Heaven’s eternal doors.

Hail, O refulgent Hall of light!
Hail, Gate sublime of Heaven’s high King!
Through thee redeem’d to endless life,
Thy praise let all the nations sing.

O Jesu! born of Virgin bright,
Immortal glory be to Thee;
Praise to the Father infinite,
And Holy Ghost eternally.


"O Gloriosa Virginum" midi and lyrics courtesy of - 10/06/09

"O Gloriosa Virginum" English lyrics courtesy of - 12/07/09

Image of Bartolomé Esteban Murillo's (31 Dec 1617 - 03 Apr 1682) 1660 Painting, "The Immaculate Conception", courtesy
of - 12/07/09

Fancy Gold Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 12/17/08

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Air Force Seal clip art courtesy of - 07/07/06

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Siuslaw High School's Viking Logo clip art courtesy of - 12/27/07

Coast Guard Seal clip art courtesy of - 10/03/07

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated Laughing Frog courtesy of Joyce Lawrence Cahoon of VA - 05/31/08
Thanks, Joyce!

NNHS65 Home Page Banner created by my #5 Son, Nathaniel Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL - '97) of IL - 06/06/02
Thanks, Nathaniel!

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