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12/01/11 - NNHS Newsletter -
Once Upon a December

Yesterday is but today's memory, and tomorrow is today's dream.”

Kahlil Gibran
(06 Jan 1883 - 10 Apr 1931)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,  

   It's time for another great crybaby song.  One day I'm going to listen to this with breaking down and sobbing like a baby.  Not today, of course, but one day.....  

BONUS - - Once Upon a December - Liz Callaway, 1974

   Today is World AIDS Day.



   Happy Birthday today to
My Daughter of Other Parents, Megan Fulmer Mansfield (Marshall HS, TX - 2002) of NC!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to   Ann Lillaston Wilson ('57) AND Jimmy McDonald ('57) AND    George Konstant ('65) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

03 - The late  Barbara Nell Howard Floyd ('67) (deceased 10/01/88);

04 - William D. Dangler ('57) of VA AND  Howard Williamson (Hampton HS - '63) of VA;

05 - Eugene Peters ('57) AND the late    Gene Peters ('57) (deceased - 07/24/09) AND      Melody Clendenin DeBerry (Warwick HS - '66) of VA;

06 - Frances Scheinman Berkman ('57);

07 -   Jay Styles ('68) of VA AND  Janice Pratt McGrew (Hampton HS - '67) of VA AND    Tim Parsons ('73) of VA! 

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!



Sunday, Dec. 1, 1861

President Abraham Lincoln prepared yet another message to be sent to Gen. George McClellan, commander of the Army of the Potomac since the 20th of August. McClellan had maneuvered, schemed and backstabbed his predecessor to get this job, and Lincoln knew it. McClellan had also delivered an exceedingly blatant social snub on his President a couple of weeks ago. Now it was payback time. He had his army, and Lincoln wanted to know “just how long would it require to actually get [it] in motion?” Little Mac was learning just how long it was going to take to get this command trained and in shape to wage war. It would never be fast enough for Lincoln.

Monday, Dec. 1, 1862

In these days the State of the Union message was delivered earlier than it is today. Lincoln addressed Congress, beginning with the usual reports on foreign relations, taxes, revenues and the like. He then proposed three constitutional amendments to accomplish the end of slavery gradually, none of which were enacted and are mostly forgotten today. The language with which he ended his address, on the other hand, is one of the immortal quotes of the English language. “As our case is new, so we must think anew, and act anew,” Lincoln said. “We must disenthrall ourselves, and then we shall save our country. Fellow-citizens, we cannot escape history.....We shall nobly save, or meanly lose, the last, best hope of earth.”

Tuesday, Dec. 1, 1863

The problem of gathering supplies was becoming increasingly difficult for all Southern armies, and the commanding generals were pleading with Jefferson Davis for assistance for the men now mostly in winter camp. Gen. Joe Wheeler, however, commanded a cavalry unit, and he took the approach that God helps a force which helps itself. The difficulty was, his men were helping themselves to the property of their fellow Confederate citizens of North Carolina. Fed up, Gov. Zebulon B. Vance sent a letter of his own to Jeff Davis today, complaining severely about the depredations. “If God Almighty had yet in store another plague for the Egyptians worse than all others, I am sure it must have been a regiment or so of half-armed, half-disciplined Confederate cavalry!” Vance thundered.

Thursday, Dec. 1, 1864

All U.S. Gen. John Schofield had been trying to do for some time was get back to the main Union fortifications at at Nashville and rejoin Gen. George Thomas. He had been forced to stop and fight the Battle of Franklin, Tenn., yesterday, and the damage inflicted on the Army of Tennessee had been disastrous. Nevertheless, Schofield withdrew and proceeded on, and reached the Tennessee capital today. The Union fortifications there were already substantial, and with the addition of Schofield became well-nigh impregnable. Hood was still in pursuit with the shattered remains of his force, but was too late. His only choices now were to settle in and put Nashville under siege, or bypass it and head North with a huge Union threat at his back.

    From the Head Flagtwirler of 1965, Janice McCain Rose of Northern VA - 11/30/11 - "Senior Discounts....Lots of them!!!!!!!!!!!!":

Senior Discounts (At your fingertips)

108 Stores with Senior Discounts - If you are not a senior...pass it along to someone who is.

Gone are the days of your grandmother’s “early bird special” at the local diner. As our baby boomers reach retirement age, hundreds of retailers are featuring new and improved discounts exclusively for the 60 and older crowd. We have composed a list of senior savings that will help you keep more cash in your pocket. Whoever said getting older was a bad thing, obviously didn’t know about these fantastic senior discounts!

● Applebee’s: 15% off with Golden Apple Card (60+)
● Arby’s: 10% off (55+)
● Ben & Jerry’s: 10% off (60+)
● Bennigan’s: discount varies by location
● Bob’s Big Boy: discount varies by location (60+)
● Boston Market: 10% off (65+)
● Burger King: 10% off (60+)
● Captain D’s Seafood: discount varies on location (62+)
● Chick-Fil-A: 10% off or free small drink or coffee (55+)
● Chili’s: 10% off (55+)
● CiCi’s Pizza: 10% off (60+)
● Culver’s: 10% off (60+)
● Denny’s: 10% off, 20% off for AARP members (55+)
● Dunkin’ Donuts: 10% off or free coffee (55+)
● Einstein’s Bagels: 10% off baker’s dozen of bagels (60+)
● Fuddrucker’s: 10% off any senior platter (55+)
● Gatti’s Pizza: 10% off (60+)
● Golden Corral: 10% off (60+)
● Hardee’s: $0.33 beverages everyday (65+)
● IHOP: 10% off (55+)
● Jack in the Box: up to 20% off (55+)
● KFC: free small drink with any meal (55+)
● Krispy Kreme: 10% off (50+)
● Long John Silver’s: various discounts at participating locations (55+)
● McDonald’s: discounts on coffee everyday (55+)
● Mrs. Fields: 10% off at participating locations (60+)
● Shoney’s: 10% off
● Sonic: 10% off or free beverage (60+)
● Steak ‘n Shake: 10% off every Monday & Tuesday (50+)
● Subway: 10% off (60+)
● Sweet Tomatoes 10% off (62+)
● Taco Bell : 5% off; free beverages for seniors (65+)
● TCBY: 10% off (55+)
● Tea Room Cafe: 10% off (50+)
● Village Inn: 10% off (60+)
● Waffle House: 10% off every Monday (60+)
● Wendy’s: 10% off (55+)
● White Castle: 10% off (62+)

Retail and Apparel
● Banana Republic: 10% off (50+)
● Bealls: 20% off first Tuesday of each month (50+)
● Belk’s: 15% off first Tuesday of every month (55+)
● Big Lots: 10% off
● Bon-Ton Department Stores: 15% off on senior discount days (55+)
● C.J. Banks: 10% off every Wednesday (60+)
● Clarks: 10% off (62+)
● Dress Barn: 10% off (55+)
● Goodwill: 10% off one day a week (date varies by location)
● Hallmark: 10% off one day a week (date varies by location)
● Kmart: 20% off (50+)
● Kohl’s: 15% off (60+)
● Modell’s Sporting Goods: 10% off
● Rite Aid: 10% off on Tuesdays & 10% off prescriptions
● Ross Stores: 10% off every Tuesday (55+)
● The Salvation Army Thrift Stores: up to 50% off (55+)
● Stein Mart: 20% off red dot/clearance items first Monday of every month (55+)

● Albertson’s: 10% off first Wednesday of each month (55+)
● American Discount Stores: 10% off every Monday (50+)
● Compare Foods Supermarket: 10% off every Wednesday (60+)
● DeCicco Family Markets: 5% off every Wednesday (60+)
● Food Lion: 6% off every Monday (60+)
● Fry’s Supermarket: free Fry’s VIP Club Membership & 10% off every Monday (55+)
● Great Valu Food Store: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
● Gristedes Supermarket: 10% off every Tuesday (60+)
● Harris Teeter: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
● Hy-Vee: 5% off one day a week (date varies by location)
● Kroger: 10% off (date varies by location)
● Morton Williams Supermarket: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
● The Plant Shed: 10% off every Tuesday (50+)
● Publix: 5% off every Wednesday (55+)
● Rogers Marketplace: 5% off every Thursday (60+)
● Uncle Guiseppe’s Marketplace: 5% off (62+)

● Alaska Airlines: 10% off (65+)
● Alamo: up to 25% off for AARP members
● American Airlines: various discounts for 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
● Amtrak: 15% off (62+)
● Avis: up to 25% off for AARP members
● Best Western: 10% off (55+)
● Budget Rental Cars: 10% off; up to 20% off for AARP members (50+)
● Cambria Suites: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Clarion: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Comfort Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Comfort Suites: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Continental Airlines: no initiation fee for Continental Presidents Club & special fares for select destinations
● Dollar Rent-A-Car: 10% off (50+)
● Econo Lodge: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Enterprise Rent-A-Car: 5% off for AARP members
● Greyhound: 5% off (62+)
● Hampton Inns & Suites: 10% off when booked 72 hours in advance
● Hertz: up t0 25% off for AARP members
● Holiday Inn: 10%-30% off depending on location (62+)
● Hyatt Hotels: 25%-50% off (62+)
● InterContinental Hotels Group: various discounts at all hotels (65+)
● Mainstay Suites: 10% off with Mature Traveler’s Discount (50+); 20%-30% off (60+)
● Marriott Hotels: 15% off (62+)
● Motel 6: 10% off (60+)
● Myrtle Beach Resort: 10% off (55+)
● National Rent-A-Car: up to 30% off for AARP members
● Quality Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Rodeway Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Sleep Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
● Southwest Airlines: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
● Trailways Transportation System: various discounts for ages 50 and up
● United Airlines: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
● U.S. Airways: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount)

Activities & Entertainment
● AMC Theaters: up to 30% off (55+)
● Bally Total Fitness: up to $100 off memberships (62+)
● Busch Gardens Tampa : $3 off one-day tickets (50+)
● Carmike Cinemas: 35% off (65+)
● Cinemark/Century Theaters: up to 35% off
● U.S. National Parks: $10 lifetime pass; 50% off additional services including camping (62+)
● Regal Cinemas: 30% off
● Ripley’s Believe it or Not: @ off one-day ticket (55+)
● SeaWorld Orlando: $3 off one-day tickets (50+)

Cell Phone Discounts
● AT&T: Special Senior Nation 200 Plan $29.99/month (65+)
● Jitterbug: $10/month cell phone service (50+)
● Verizon Wireless: Verizon Nationwide 65 Plus Plan $29.99/month

*Check out our Secret Cell Phone Discounts to view all cell phone discounts available to you!

● Great Clips: $3 off hair cuts (60+)
● Super Cuts: $2 off haircuts (60+)

Since many senior discounts are not advertised to the public, our advice to men and women over 55 is to ALWAYS ask a sales associate if that store provides a senior discount. That way, you can be sure to get the most bang for you buck.

Thanks so much, Janice!

  From Joyce Lawrence Cahoon ('65) of VA - 11/30/11 - "Worth Knowing about Sears.":

Sears  -  Christmas shopping this year.    

I  know I needed this reminder,  since Sears isn't always my first choice. It's amazing when you think of how long the war has lasted and Sears hasn't withdrawn from their commitment. Could we each buy at least one thing at  Sears this year?  

How does Sears treat its employees who are called up for military  duty? By law, they are required to hold their jobs  open and available, but nothing more.  Usually,  people take a big pay cut and lose benefits as a result of being called up for active duty.  

Sears is voluntarily paying the  difference in salaries and maintaining all benefits,  including medical insurance and bonus programs, for all called up reservist employees for up to two  years.  

I submit that Sears is an exemplary corporate citizen and should be  recognized for its contribution. I suggest we all  shop at Sears at least once, and be sure to find a manager to tell them why we are there so the company  gets the positive reinforcement & feedback it well deserves.  

Pass it on.  

I decided to check this before I sent it forward. So I sent the following  e-mail to the Sears Customer Service Department:  

I  received this e-mail and I  would like to know if it is true. If it is, the internet may have just become one very good source of advertisement for your company.  I know I would go out of my way to  buy products from Sears instead of another store for a like item, even if it's cheaper at that store.

This is their answer to my e-mail:

Dear  Customer:  

Thank you for contacting  Sears. The information is factual. We appreciate your positive feedback.  

Sears  regards service to our country as one of  greatest sacrifices our young men and women can make. We are happy to do our part to lessen the burden they bear at this time.   

Bill  Thorn  
Sears  Customer Care <>   

Please pass this on to all your friends. Sears needs to be recognized for this outstanding contribution and we  need to show them as Americans, we do appreciate what they are doing for our military!!!   

It's  verified !  By <>  at: <>  

   WOWZERONI! Thank you so much, Joyce!

      From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 11/30/11 - "What a great idea!":

When filling out your Christmas cards this year, take one card and send it to this address:
A Recovering American Soldier
c/o Walter Reed National Military Medical Center
8901 Rockville Pike
Bethesda, MD 20889-5600
If we pass this on and everyone sends one card, think of how many cards these wonderful, special people, who have sacrificed so much would get.

   ABSOLUTELY! Thanks, Dools!

    From the Head Flagtwirler of 1965, Janice McCain Rose of Northern VA - 11/30/11 - "EVERYTHING You need to know after 60":

Everything you need to know if you getting close to 60 or over 60!
Questions and Answers from AARP Forum
Q: Where can men over the age of 60 find younger, sexy women who are interested in them?
A: Try a bookstore, under fiction.
Q: What can a man do while his wife is going through menopause?
A: Keep busy. If you're handy with tools, you can finish the basement. When you're done you'll have a place to live.
Q: Someone has told me that menopause is mentioned in the bible. Is that true? 
Where can
 it be  found?
A: Yes. Matthew 14:92: 
"And Mary rode Joseph's ass all the way to  Egypt .."
Q: How can you increase the heart rate of your 60-plus year old husband?
A: Tell him you're pregnant.
Q: How can you avoid that terrible curse of the elderly wrinkles?
A: Take off your glasses.
Q: Seriously! What can I do for these Crow's feet and all those wrinkles on my face?
A: Go braless. It will usually pull them out.
Q: Why should 60-plus year old people use valet parking?
A: Valets don't forget where they park your car.
Q: Is it common for 60-plus year olds to have problems with short term memory storage?
A: Storing memory is not a problem, Retrieving it is the problem.
Q: As people age, do they sleep More soundly?
A: Yes, but usually in the afternoon.
Q: Where should 60-plus year olds look for eye glasses?
A: On their foreheads.
Q: What is the most common remark made by 60-plus year olds when they enter  antique stores?
A: "Gosh, I remember these!"

     Thanks again, Janice!

From - 11/30/11 - "Paying it Forward by Salvation Army Bell Ringing":

Dear Friends,

I have set up a virtual Kettle for the Salvation Army. I started this a couple of years ago when thieves robbed the Charlotte headquarters. We raised money to replace the funds that were stolen.

This year let's pay it forward. Please donate what ever you can to help those in need in your area. You can choose where your donation is allocated.

Here is our team kettle.

Merry Christmas!


From - 11/30/11 - "Power of Positive Words":

Dear FlyLady,

I have been working with my 2.5 year old DD on picking up her toys and helping with the cleaning.

She loves to grab a dust rag and do the windows!

I make sure to praise and encourage her as much as I can so that as she gets older, she thinks of these things as habits and not chores.

Well, this weekend I finished mopping my bathroom floor and DD, without being told, put back the trash can and her little potty in the proper places, then gave me a big hug and told me, "Mommy, I'm so proud of you for cleaning the floor!"

I felt pretty proud of myself, too, once I heard those words. It struck me that when I use words of praise with her, she must feel the same way I felt at that moment.

What a great example of the power of positive words with a child.

Lori in Texas

FlyLady here: Words are powerful!

You must be the example for your children. Praise their efforts!! You will see them blossom!

And you will receive their praise.

From - 11/30/11 - "No More Parents Left Behind: Evening Routine":

The purpose of a good evening routine is to get everyone calm and settled enough to get to sleep at a decent hour. When children do not get enough sleep, their school work and school behavior suffers. Sometimes children who haven't gotten enough sleep act tired and groggy, but just as often they act wild and inattentive. School-age children need 9-10 hours of sleep every night to be healthy and mentally alert. That means if your child gets up at 7 a.m., he has to be in bed by 9 p.m. And many parents do not get enough sleep either! You cannot be healthy and take care of your family if you are exhausted.

Two things have to happen before a family can have a good evening routine. First, the homework routine has to be in place. When evenings are spent in a battle over homework, no one can be calm and settled. Second, there has to be a family policy about outside commitments. If every afternoon and evening is a constant round of activities, there is no time for homework, family dinner, and an evening routine. I suggest that you limit everyone in the family to one or two outside activities at a time. Otherwise our lives get as cluttered as our homes!

Here are some suggested steps for a good evening routine.

1. Everyone gets home from work, sports practice and after-school care around 5:30. While Mom or Dad gets dinner going, the kids work on homework.

2. After dinner, everyone has some time to finish homework, play, talk, read, or watch TV. Do not allow children to get overstimulated with wild play, violent video games, or scary TV shows. Keep it calm and easy. Most elementary school children are supposed to read to a parent every night, and now is a good time to do that.

3. Start the bedtime routine about an hour before bedtime. Have it written down and posted for each child. Each child is responsible for their own routine. Here is an example for an elementary school child:
a. Collect homework and school supplies, get parents to sign whatever needs to be signed, get everything in the backpack, put the backpack by the door.
b. Choose clothes for the next day and lay them out.
c. Get in the tub for a bath, or wash face and hands if it's not a bath night.
d. Brush teeth.
e. Get in pajamas.
f. Get in bed for some quiet time with Mom or Dad. You have to do exactly the same thing at the same time every night. If you do, then your child's body will be trained to fall asleep at the end of the bedtime routine.

Middle and high school kids still need a routine, although it will be different and they have to be part of establishing it. Preparing for the morning is still appropriate, as is some quiet time reading in bed before going to sleep.

Once the children are in bed, it's time to wind down yourself and get ready for a good night's sleep.

Our very own education specialist Alice Wellborn is now a regular contributor at and we are thrilled to share her wise words with all of you. Alice is a school psychologist and the author of the amazingly helpful book No More Parents Left Behind.

CRAFT PATTERN: - Amanda Formaro's A Snowball Fight


From - 11/30/11:
Things to do @ Wal-Mart while the significant other is taking his/her sweet time:

1. Look right into the security camera, and use it as a mirror while you pick your nose.

2. Take up an entire aisle in Toys by setting up a full scale battlefield with G. I. Joe's vs. the X-Men.

3. Ask other customers if they have any Grey Poupon.

4. Switch the men's and women's signs on the doors of the restroom.

5. Dart around suspiciously while humming the theme from "Mission Impossible."

6. Set up a "Valet Parking" sign in front of the store.

7. Hide in the clothing racks and when people browse through, say things like "pick me! pick me!!"

8. If the store has a food court, buy a soft drink; explain that you don't get out much, and ask if they can put a little umbrella in it. 


1. Thursday, December 1, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, December 14, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Thursday, January 5, 2012 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

4. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 10/22/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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Once Upon a December
Sung by Liz Callaway (b. 13 Apr 1961) in Anastasia, 1997

Dancing Bears,
Painted wings,
Things I almost remember,
And a song someone sings,
Once upon a December

Someone holds me,
Safe and warm,
Horses prance through a silver storm,
Figures dancing gracefully,
Across my memory....

Far away,
Long ago,
Glowing dim as an ember
Things my heart used to know
Once upon a December


Someone holds me
Safe and warm,
Horses prance through a silver storm,
Figures dancing gracefully
Across my memory.....

Far away, long ago,
Glowing dim as an ember
Things my heart used to know
Things it yearns to remember

And a song
Someone sings
Once upon a December

"Once Upon a December" midi courtesy of - 11/30/04

"Once Upon a December" lyrics courtesy of - 11/30/04

"Having recovered many, many forgotten and repressed memories in these last five years,
I can almost make it through hearing this song without breaking down and sobbing - almost...."

- Carol Buckley Harty, 12/01/04

Some things simply do not change.

Image of Horse in Snow courtesy of - 12/01/06

 Knotted Blue Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 05/16/06

Crying Baby clip art courtesy of - 09/28/05 (resaved 02/27/09)

Red AIDS Awareness Ribbon Pin Image courtesy of - 12/01/07

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated Laughing Jerry courtesy of Cookie Phillips Tyndall ('64) of VA - 06/14/06
Thanks, Cookie!

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