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11/30/14 - NNHS Newsletter - If We Make It Through December

A man willing to work, and unable to find work, is perhaps the saddest sight
that fortune's inequality exhibits under this sun.”

Thomas Carlyle
(04 Dec 1795 - 05 Feb 1881)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,  

   How about a Merle Haggard classic to wind up November?

BONUS #1 - - If We Make It Through December - Merle Haggard, 1974

BONUS #2 - - If We Make It Through December - Merle Haggard, 1985


"If We Make It Through December" is the title of a song written and recorded by American country music singer Merle Haggard. It was released in October 1973 as the lead single from album, of the same name. The song was included on Haggard's Christmas album released that year. In the years since its release, "If We Make It Through December" — which, in addition to its Christmas motif, also uses themes of unemployment and loneliness — has become one of the trademark songs of Haggard's career.

Written in 1973, it treats with Haggard's characteristically simple poetry the desperate optimism of a working-class man dealing with economic hardship. Having been laid off from his factory job just prior to the holidays, the man becomes depressed over his predicament during what normally should be a "happy time of year." At one point, he observes that his little girl "don't understand why Daddy can't afford no Christmas cheer."

The chorus, "If we make it through December/Everything's gonna be alright I know" expresses hope, the protagonist telling himself that hope exists if he wants to deal with "the coldest time of winter" and the cold, lonely feeling he experiences while watching the snow fall ("and I shiver when I see the falling snow").

While Christmas is a prominently theme of this song, writer Tom Roland said the song is not considered a "pure" Christmas record, as the subject of economics was also explored.[1]

"If We Make It Through December" was received positively by a review panel with Billboard magazine. In the review published October 13, 1973, they wrote, "Another change of pace by Haggard, who keeps surprising with his various styles, and does so well with all. He is a complete artist."[2]

The song spent four weeks at No. 1 on the Billboard Hot Country Singles chart in December 1973 and January 1974, and cracked the Top 30 of the Billboard Hot 100. "If We Make It Through December" was the No. 2 song of the year on Billboard's Hot Country Singles 1974 year-end chart. [2]

   Today is also the first Sunday in Advent.



The Advent season marks the beginning of the Christian year across many western churches in the United States. Its length varies from 22 to 28 days, starting on the Sunday nearest St Andrew’s Day and encompassing the next three Sundays, ending on Christmas Day.

Many Christians in the United States attend a church service on the first Sunday of Advent and may engage in activities such as special prayers and contributing to ideas on enhancing peace. Many Advent traditions are observed in the United States in the prelude to Christmas Day. For example, the Advent wreath is becoming increasingly popular in the United States. The wreath can be seen in various churches across the nation around this time of the year.

Advent calendars of all designs are also given as gifts at this time of the year. The calendars feature openings in the form of windows or doors that are numbered to count the days to Christmas. Calendars may contain chocolates, toys, or candy and are given to children as a fun way to observe the Christmas countdown. Some traditional Advent calendars show 24 days but many Advent calendars showing 25 days, with the last opening on Christmas Day...


   Happy Birthday today to
      Rip Collins ('65) of TN AND      Sandi Bateman Chestnut ('65) of VA!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to      My Daughter of Other Parents, Megan Fulmer Mansfield (John Marshall HS, TX - 2002) of TX!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

02 -   Ann Lillaston Wilson ('57) AND Jimmy McDonald ('57) AND    George Konstant ('65) of VA;

03 - Barbara Woods Spiers ('61) of VA AND The late  Barbara Nell Howard Floyd ('67) (deceased 10/01/88));

04 - William D. Dangler ('57) of VA AND    Howard Williamson (Hampton HS - '63) of VA;

05 - Eugene Peters ('57) AND the late    Gene Peters ('57) (deceased - 07/24/09) AND        Melody Clendenin DeBerry (Warwick HS - '66) of VA;

06 - Frances Scheinman Berkman ('57);

07 -   Jay Styles ('68) of VA AND  Janice Pratt McGrew (Hampton HS - '67) of VA AND    Tim Parsons ('73) of VA!

   Many Happy Returns, One and All! 


November 30, 1939 - Winter War: Soviet forces crossed the Finnish border in several places and bombed Helsinki and several other Finnish cities, starting the war.

November 30, 1942 - Guadalcanal Campaign: Battle of Tassafaronga — A smaller squadron of Japanese destroyers led by Raizo Tanaka defeated a US cruiser force under Carleton H. Wright.

November 30, 1943 - At the Teheran Conference, an agreement was reached on Operation Overlord by U.S. President Roosevelt, British Prime Minister Churchill and Soviet leader Josef Stalin. The operation was the Anglo-American invasion across the English Channel.


Monday, November 30, 1964 - Wrestler and mixed martial artist Jushin Thunder Liger was born Keiichi Yamada in Hiroshima, Hiroshima Prefecture.

   From Rochelle Spooner ('63) of NY - 11/29/14:

What can I do to make you better?

With love, Rochelle

   AWW, HOW SWEET! Thank you so much, Rochelle! Oh, I dunno, how about a new brain? No. No, then I would lose all of my memories, and I really like most of them. I know, Santa Rochelle, new knees and hips! Ja, that's it, and while you're at it, make my legs 10" longer! Yeah, and throw in a blubberectomy, and skin tucks, and a chin lift, and great lungs, and... OH, WAIT! I know, I KNOW! World Peace!!  YEAH!!!

   Well, I suppose that won't work, will it? So, just keep me in your thoughts and prayers!  Thanks again, Lady! I'm sure I'll snap out of this soon. I have things to do!

      From Jimmy Hines ('64) of VA - 11/29/14 - "Box Full of Kisses":


     Okay, Santa Jimmy, you made me cry. But they were good tears! Thank you so much! Merry Christmas!

From 24/ - 11/29/14 - "Eight States Where Gas Will Drop Below $2":

"...The eight states where gas prices are likely to fall below $2 are Mississippi, Alabama, Louisiana, Texas, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Missouri, and Tennessee..."

  From Barbara Woods Spiers ('61) of VA - 11/28/14 - "Heavenly Divinity":

  Heavenly Divinity - ~Like Mama used to make~


2-1/2 cups sugar
1/2 cup light corn syrup
1/2 cup water
1/4 teaspoon salt
2 egg whites
1 teaspoon vanilla
1/2 cup chopped pecans (optional) or 1/2 cup cherries (optional)


1. In a 2 quart saucepan combine sugar, corn syrup, water, and salt.
2. Cook to hardball stage, (260 degrees), stirring only until sugar dissolves.
3. Meanwhile, as temperature of syrup reaches 250 degrees, beat egg white till stiff peaks form.
4. When syrup reaches 260 degrees, very gradually add the syrup to egg whites, beating at high speed with electric mixer.
5. Add vanilla and beat until candy holds its shape, 4-5 minutes.
6. Stir in the chopped nuts or cherries, if desired.
7. Quickly drop candy from a teaspoon onto waxed paper, swirling the top of each piece.
8. Let cool.
Servings: 40. Enjoy!

   MMM! Thanks, Barbara!

From My Niece-in-Law, Leslie, of NC - 11/29/14 - "Easiest Chocolate Fudge Ever":

Watch What Happens When She Pours The Condensed Milk On Top Of Chocolate Chips

   MORE MMM! Thank you, Leslie!

From - 11/28/11 - "10 Love Lies":

10 Lies We Think Are Love

By Carol Tuttle

When we are born we are completely dependent on others for our survival both physically and emotionally. Most of us grew up with our physical needs being met adequately and emotional needs being met sporadically or not at all.

But when we were little and love was not as available or predictable we learned to live without it. We subconsciously created ways of thinking and behaving that helped us feel safer in what seemed like a random world. You may have tried different things to get more love and support you in feeling more loveable. Some of those ways worked and you did get more attention. To this day you may subconsciously still believe that you need these patterns in order to be loveable.

The 10 Lies We Think Are Love:

1. Food is love.
Our bodies require love through appropriate touch. When that need has not been met we often turn to food to fill us. The root cause of all addictions is the body's need for attention. Food feels good to the body. The body will begin to believe food is love and continually seek it out to get the feeling of sweetness and fullness that the energy of real love gives us when it is open and flowing in our being.

2. Sex is love.
This can play out in a way that supports people in fearing, hating and despising sex, or becoming addicted to it. If you were sexually abused or prematurely affected by sexual experiences, it is common to have the deeper belief of "I can only be loved for sex." Sexual encounters can feel abusive and leave you with a feeling of being used.

Sexual addictions are supported by the bodies need for affection and it has come through sexual encounters. Again the body needs touch and support. If you were sexually abused as a child or that pattern is still alive from generations past, your body may hold the belief of "my body is bad because it feels good." It goes through a cycle of feeling starved for love, getting a quick fix with sex, and then feeling bad for satisfying it's need for love with sex.

3. Money is love.
This pattern can get set up in families with money. When emotional love is not flowing freely, money is often used as a substitute. This can set up the siblings as rivals because they subconsciously know that there is not enough emotional love to go around and they must vie for mom and dad's money and possessions. Mom and dad's money and possessions represent the energy of real love that they have never had. As adults money represents security. Security supports us in feeling safe. This can also feel like love. The more money you have, the more safe you feel, the more loved you feel.

4. I have to be sick or ill to be loved.
If you were given more attention when you were sick or ill as a child, you may still believe that you need this pattern to get noticed. If you were healthy and well you risk the experience of no one caring about you. Doctors can feel like surrogate parents. They give you attention, advice, and hopefully encouragement. All the things you needed as a child. Your sickness may be a way to keep you from living your life fully or taking responsibility for your life because you feel incapable and afraid. It is something to fall back on when you need to escape and want to hide.

5. I have to suffer to get love.
People in abusive relationships are creating this pattern and are not familiar with healthy love and how it operates in a relationship. If you were beaten, slapped, hit, physically punished in your childhood or that pattern has been in your family, you may believe that love is being hurt. You will even sabotage healthy relationships to create this so you can feel your familiar experience again.

6. I have to fix people to be loved.
Many people have a deeper belief that if they are not helping people get better they have no value. If they have no value, they cannot be lovable. The problem with this pattern is if you need to fix sick and dysfunctional people in order to feel loveable, you will continually attract these people into your life and they will not get well. You need them to be "unfixable" so you can stay "loveable."

7. I have to control you to make it safe to let you love me.
Control is one of the biggest patterns in relationships. The deeper belief is "I will control you before you control me." It is common for two controllers to be together in a relationship both only seeing the other in the controlling pattern. I have worked with numerous couples where both are controllers. I will ask them separately "who do you believe controls the relationship?" They will always say, the other one does. Blame is a big part of the controller's experience. Victim energy is at the root of the pattern. At a deeper level if you still believe you are a victim, you may use control to create a feeling of safety to prevent yourself from ever being a victim again.

8. I have to please others to be loved.
This pattern is often the other common opposite of a controller pattern. It is more common for women to play this role in a relationship with a controlling man. In this pattern the person always is thinking of other people before they think of themselves. Everything they think or say is processed with the underlying thought "what will other's think, what do other's want, what do I have to do or say to make sure they are happy." Chronic Fatigue and other energy depletion disorders are common with this pattern.

9. If I let you love me, you will leave me.
Abandonment is at the core of this pattern. If you were abandoned as a child you may fear that the people you love get hurt, die or go away. In order to prevent this from happening you will not let a relationship go very far or you will sabotage it first. It is common to hold the deeper belief "I'll abandon you before you abandon me" because you are still believing that every relationship ends in abandonment so you might as well be in control of it. That way it doesn't hurt as much and it is more predictable.

10. Love hurts, relationships are painful.
This belief will only support you in creating unhealthy, painful relationships. You will continue to attract people that you create a lot of pain with. You will support your relationships in being painful in the way you perceive them, think about them and the choices you make in them. You will go from one relationship to another feeling victimized and hurt wondering when real love will come your way. Or you will believe you're stuck in a relationship that can never work and feel you will never be happy.
What We Can Do To Heal These Patterns...

About the Author:

Carol Tuttle is the author of Remembering Wholeness, A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21st Century. She has assisted thousands in healing their lives through her writings and work as a Master Rapid Eye Therapist.

This article is one of 101 great articles that were published in 101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life. To get complete details on "101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life", visit

        From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 11/22/14 - "FAMILY PORTRAITS (#6 in a series of 18)":

  AWW! Thanks, Dools!

BONUS CHRISTMAS CRAFT PATTERNS: - Dana Pruner's Muslin Angels - Ball Ornament Wreath

BONUS RECIPES (Sorry; not theme-related): - Amish Do It Best Beef Bake - "Though not an official Amish dish, this beef casserole recipe uses simple ingredients, many of which could be pulled from your own garden or farmer's market. A lifestyle that the Amish thrive on. Live simply and make up this Amish Do It Best Beef Bake." - Gluten Free Impossibly Easy Cheeseburger Pie - "Everyone at the table will love you for throwing together a quick, Gluten Free Impossibly Easy Cheeseburger Pie for dinner! This hamburger stuffer is a whole lot of messy pie fun that you can enhance with ketchup, BBQ sauce or salsa!" - Simple Shepherd's Pie - "It doesn't get simpler than this easy ground beef casserole, otherwise known as a Shepherd's pie. This classic favorite never gets old with my family. Make up some Simple Shepherd's Pie for a wonderful weeknight meal."


From - 11/29/14:
An old man went to the Wizard to ask him if he can remove a curse he has been living with for the last 50 years.

The wizard said, “Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the course on you.”

The old man replied without hesitation, “I now pronounce you man and wife.”


1. Thursday, December 4, 2014 - The NNHS Class of 1962 Dinner Get Together - 6:30 PM at Angelo's on J. Clyde Morris Boulevard. CONTACT: Fran Heath Scott at 757-813-0446 or email:

2. Wednesday, January 14, 2015 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 11/27/14

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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Written and Recorded by Merle Haggard (b. 06 Apr 1937), 1973

If we make it through December
Everything's gonna be all right I know
It's the coldest time of winter
And I shiver when I see the falling snow

If we make it through December
Got plans to be in a warmer town come summer time
Maybe even California
If we make it through December we'll be fine

Got laid off down at the factory
And there time is not the greatest in the world
Heaven knows I been workin' hard
I wanted Christmas to be right for daddy's girl
Now I don't mean to hate December
It's meant to be the happy time of year
And my little girl don't understand
Why daddy can't afford no Christmas gift

If we make it through December
Everything's gonna be alright I know
It's the coldest time of winter
And I shiver when I see the falling snow

If we make it through December
Got plans to be in a warmer town come summer time
Maybe even California
If we make it through December we'll be fine 

"If We Make It Through December" midi (Sequenced by Ron Tilden) courtesy of - 11/29/11

"If We Make It Through December" lyrics courtesy of - 11/29/11

"Man on Steps Frustrated" Image courtesy of - 11/29/11

Black Vine Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 02/12/08

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

John Marshall High School's (TX) Rams logo courtesy of - 04/26/13

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Crying Baby clip art courtesy of - 09/28/05 (resaved 02/27/09)

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