11/29/08 - NNHS Newsletter - Margaret Buckley Margaret Ann Buckley (06 Aug 1935 - 28 Nov 2008)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,
  The sad news continues to compound.  Margaret Buckley, older sister of        Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky ('59) of NC and        Carol Buckley Harty ('65) of NC, aunt of        Shari D. Chapman of VA, and first cousin of           Cheryl White Wilson (John Marshall HS - '64) of VA,     Stuart Atkinson (Warsaw HS - '63) of VA        Jean Atkinson Mallory (Rappahannock HS / John Marshall HS - '65) of VA, and     Jim Atkinson (John Randolph Tucker HS - '77), passed away in Madison Heights, Virginia on Friday, November 28, 2008 at 12:25 AM at the age of 73.

1937 - Richmond, VA	1937 - Richmond, VA	1937 - Richmond, VA	1939 - Richmond, VA
Margaret Buckley	Margaret and Robert Buckley	Margaret Buckley	Robert and Margaret Buckley
1941 - Richmond, VA	March 18, 1942 - Richmond, VA	March 18, 1942 - Richmond, VA	1944 - Richmond, VA
Margaret, Maxine, and Eleanor	Margaret, Eleanor, and Maxine	Barrett Disney, Margaret Buckley, and Randolph Church	Eleanor and Margaret Buckley
1945 - Richmond, VA	1946 - Richmond, VA	1946 - Richmond, VA	Saturday, August 3, 1985 Colony, VA Margaret's 50th Birthday Party
Maxine, Eleanor, and Eleanor	Margaret	Maxine and Margaret	Maxine, Eleanor, Margaret, and Carol

    From John Murden ('60) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sincerest Condolences":

Carol, 

Please accept our sincerest condolences on the loss of your sister.

Having lost my brother in June, I can feel the loss you are enduring. It is a shock when someone who has been around for you all of your life is suddenly not there.

Please take the time you need for yourself; we understand and share your concerns at this time.

God bless you for all you do for us NNHSers. 

John

   Thank you, John.

  From Ron Miller ('59) of NC - 11/28/08:

Carol -- sorry for your loss of your sister. (Didn't know you had another sister -- always thought it was just you and       Eleanor).

 

Ron

   Thank you, Ron. In one sense you were correct; the three of us never lived at home together.  Margaret left home exactly a year and a day before I was born.  But the connecting bond was real and remained, if only in my mind for now, but always in the eternities.

From Carrie Forrest Fox ('52) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sister":

   Thank you, Carrie. I'm so sorry for your loss!  I will keep you in my prayers as well.

  From the President of the Class of 1965, Joe Wingo of NC - 11/28/08:

Dear Carol,

Please accept my sincere condolences over the loss of your sister.

While she had a full life I’m sure, we are never fully prepared for the parting of a loved one.

Know I will hold you and your family in my prayers tonight.

God Bless,

Joe

   Thank you, Joe. I really appreciate that.  I like to believe that Margaret's life was full in its own way; I know she enriched the lives of others.

  From Joyce Lawrence Cahoon ('65) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sorrow for Your Loss":

Dear Carol,   My heart breaks for you at the loss of your beloved sister Margaret.  I pray God gives you and your family peace, comfort and strength to endure this very emotional period.  I wish I could do more to help other than to tell you how sorry I am.  I have one sister, Mary Lively, who is 70 and I would be devastated if I should lose her.    Please feel free to email me if you just need someone to listen.  I'm a very good listener.   I so wish there was more I could say or do to help.  Just know my love and sympathy are with you and your dear family.  With deepest regrets,  Joyce Cahoon

   Thank you so much, Joyce.

        From Sydney Dearing ('56) of TN - 11/28/08 - "Margaret Buckley":

   Thank you very much, Sydney. I appreciate that so much.  As we were not raised together, and indeed had very limited contact with one another except in the repetition of treasured family memories, it would be easy to assume I really feel no loss - especially not when compared to that felt by Eleanor or Shari, or our cousin,  Clarke Booth (Wakefield HS - '57 - of FL), who were all very close to her.  Yet somehow, that is not the case.  I suppose that's because in my childhood fantasies, we all lived together - as one day we will again..

From Norris Perry (Warwick HS - '59) of VA - 11/28/08:

I am so sorry to hear about your sister.  Older siblings are real comforts in most lives.  You want to talk about it?  Hopefully she is in a better place.

   Thank you so much, Norris. Of that, I am absolutely certain.  Reflecting back, I think the main comfort I felt from Margaret was just knowing she was there - a link to our past and all the other relatives who preceded her.

     From Melody Clendenin DeBerry (Warwick HS - '66) and      Jimmy DeBerry ('64) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sympathy":

   Thank s so much, sweet Melody and Jimmy.

   From Pam Larmer ('62) of VA - 11/28/08 - "The loss of your sis":

Carol;

Did I see correctly that you lost your oldest Sis? It was almost not seen by me. If you did lose your sis, I am so very sorry.
Please know that I am thinking about you.

Love,
Pam Larmer Traugott

   Yes, ma'am, I did - and I really appreciate your thoughts.  Thank you, Pam.

  From Charlie Snead ('64) of NC - 11/28/08:

I'm very sorry about the loss of your sister. Remember you have many friends/classmates who care for you and about your loss.

Charlie

   Thank you so much, Charlie.

    From Jean Poole Burton ('64) of RI - 11/28/08 - "Had no idea you had any other sister than        Eleanor... ":

Why have we never heard about Margaret???  So sorry to hear that you have lost her.  

Love, Jeanb

   I'm sorry, Jean.  I thought I had mentioned her several times in the past when she had threatening health issues, but perhaps I only did that in personal emails, rather than in the Newsletter.  I suppose most of my friends who knew of Margaret have passed on themselves.  Thank you for your note and love.

    From Jerry Blanchard ('62) of VA - 11/29/08:

To the real "Sweet Angel" of this site, I wish to add my deepest regrets on the passing of your sister. Our prayers are with you and your family.

Jerry B.

   What a sweet thing to say!  Thank you so much, Jerry.

      From Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky ('59) of NC - 11/29/08 - "Margaret":

Our mother's sister and nephew,   Alice (Frix Booth - John Marshall HS - '27) and   Clarke Booth (Wakefield HS - '57 - of FL), came to live with us for three years while the "daddies" were in Europe serving in World War II.  Clarke is two years older than I and four years younger than Margaret, and he brought fun with him wherever he went. Our Aunt Alice was so good to Margaret and me that I meant to be calling her my "other Mama", but I really called her my "oven Mama."

   Thank you for sharing your memories, Eleanor.  I love you.

  My own real (as opposed to borrowed) memories of Margaret are limited mostly to our visit in June of 1961 following Clarke's graduation from VMI - and how she sang "God Bless America" through with us without missing a word or a note, having probably not heard it in who knows how many years.

   My other brightest recollection was from the day of her 50th Birthday Party, shown in the above picture.  There were twelve of us together there, and we sang.  We sang every song we could recall that we thought she'd know, happy songs and pretty songs and silly songs, and then we sang all the old hymns (I chose "Abide with Me" for her Newsletter because it was one of her favorites; it always made her cry), and then we sang all the Christmas carols and songs, even though it was early August.  We sang and we sang and we sang - in unison and in harmony - and we laughed and laughed - and it was such a great day!

  From Ruth Ann Reece Horace ('67) of FL - 11/29/08:

   Thank you so much, Ruthie. You're right; it is a great and wondrous blessing and comfort.

From My Friend, Judy, of IL - 11/29/08 - "RE: Margaret Buckley":

   That's so true.  Thank you, Judy-Judy.

   From the Head Cheerleader of 1958, Evelyn Fryer Fish of TX - 11/29/08:

Dear Carol,
 
I am so sorry for your loss of your sister. 

Lv, ev

   Thank you so much, Sweet Ev.

    From Brownie Shaffer Haracivet ('62) of VA - 11/29/08 - "Loss of Sister":

   Thanks so much, Brownie.

    From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 11/29/08:

   Thank you, Sweet Adonis. That is a great comfort to us both.

      From Dimples Dinwiddie Prichard ('58) of NC - 11/29/08:

Carol,
I  am so very sorry to hear about  the passing of your sister, Margaret.  You and        Eleanor have my prayers.  She is long last at well deserved peace in the arms of her maker !

Dimples

   That's exactly so, Dimples - thanks so much.

    From Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 11/29/08:

   Thank you so much, Glenn.

  From Jean Baker Howell ('69) of VA - 11/29/08:

Carol,

So sorry to hear about your sister. You and your sister are in my prayers.

Take care, Jean Baker Howell '69.

   Thank you, Jean.  We very much appreciate that.

  From Patsy Bloxom Meider ('57) of NC - 11/30/08 - "Your sister Margaret Buckley":

Carol,
I am so sorry to hear about your sister, I sure know what you are going through, because I am still going through it after my sister   Connie (Bloxom Thompson - '66) passed away.  My prayers are with you and your family at this time. 

 

Patsy Bloxom Meider  (class of 57)

   Thank you so much, Patsy. I'm still in shock over Connie's passing myself, though obviously not in the same way nor to the same extent you are.

  From My Friend, Joseph Mansfield, of CA - 11/30/08 - "Re: Margaret Buckley":

My condolences on the passing of Margaret. I hope all is well.

   Thank you, Sweetie.  I appreciate that.

          From My #6 Son, Dale Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL / American School, IL - '02) of MA - 11/30/08 - "Margaret":

Mom and Aunt Eleanor,

Wow, I'm a little taken aback at the news of Margaret's passing.  By all accounts I'm sure she is far happier now in paradise with friends and family and freedom from impairment.  I know that doesn't necessarily make it easy to cope with, but it is a great blessing knowing what we do about God's plan of salvation. 
I was at the (Boston LDS) temple on Friday night doing an endowment session and some sealings with   Diana (Lyons Harty - Portsmouth HS, NH / Eastlake HS, CA - '05 - of MA) .  We got to seal some children to their parents, family files - the submitters were there, but allowed us to sit in proxy for the parents.  The spirit there was beautiful.  Such a pervading calm and peace; a brightness of hope and love fills every space of the temple, but nowhere quite so tangibly as in the sealing rooms.  Diana and I were the witness couple for the session, and I beat her through the veil and was waiting for her in the Celestial Room.  As I waited, I wondered what it would be like to wait in heaven for her.  As time ticked by, I began to anticipate her arrival more and more.  I got excited knowing that very soon she would appear and I could take her in my arms.  Finally she crossed the threshold and I smiled at her and said, "Hello, my sweetheart", as I took her in my arms.  As I held her she told me that she had just been imagining the very same thing as I as she walked into the room and saw me waiting. 

I can only imagine the reunion that took place in heaven on that very night.  The unspeakable joy at reunion at even the thought of her meeting her waiting parents makes my eyes a little inexplicably damp.  I love you, and I'll be praying for the both of you.

Love,
Dale

   Thank you so much, my Sweetie-Weetie. I'm so thankful you had that experience at that very time.

  From George Helliesen ('61) of MI - 11/30/08:

   Thank you so much, George.  I deeply appreciate your words.  Several of us now have had spiritual experiences related to Margaret's death within the last few days and hours, sure affirmations of her joyous reunions, and our faith is holding and being promoted nicely.

   From Cheryl Mays Howard ('66) of VA - 11/30/08 - "Sympathy":

   Thank you, Cheryl. That scripture is a favorite of mine.

  From Jay Styles ('68) of VA - 11/30/08:

   Thank you so much, Jay Sweetie.

From My Friend, Leslie King Penrod (St. Charles HS, MO - '66) of NC - 11/30/08:

Carol,

I’m sorry to hear about your sister’s death......  I’ve got a sister who is 73 also, and she may not live much longer as she has pancreatic cancer, and she has not done very well since it was diagnosed about 9 months ago.  She’s trying hard to hang in there, though.

Leslie

   Thank you, Leslie. I had not heard of your sister's illness; I'll keep her in my prayers.

From My Friend, Susan Thomas of NC - 12/01/08:

Carol and Eleanor,

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your sister Margaret.  May your fond memories of her comfort you during this time of sorrow.

Love to both,

Susan

   Thank you so much, Susan.

  From Jo Ann Stewart ('64) of Northern VA - 12/01/08:

Carol--I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister.

Jo Ann Stewart

   Thank you, Jo Ann.

  From Michael Jeffers of VA - 12/01/08 - "Your Sister Margaret":

Michael
   Michael Darlin', I was still numb and reeling from the news of your dear sister   Susie's (Jeffers Garrett - '63) passing when my own sister died eight days later.  Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers; you still have mine as well.

   From Butch ('63) and Ethel Ragland of CO - 12/01/08 - "Ref: Your Sister's Passing":

   Thank you, Butch and Ethel. As always, I am touched by your tender thoughtfulness.

  From My Friend, Emily Adams Bangerter (West HS, UT - '93) of NC - 12/01/08:

Carol, I just got your email about your older sister passing away.  Thank you for sending me the web page you made about it.  I think the world of you and Eleanor - I'm sorry for your loss.

Love, Emily

   Thank you so much, Emily.  We love you, too.

  From Bob ('61) and    Elizabeth Feathers (Hampton HS) Buchan of VA - 12/01/08 - "Your sister Margaret":

Dear Carol,

We are so sorry to learn of the loss of your sister.  Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We hope you will find comfort during this difficult time from the love and concern of your many friends.

Bob and Elizabeth Buchan

   Thank you so much, Bob and Elizabeth. We truly appreciate that.

  From Mary Markiewich Hux ('67) of VA - 12/04/08 - "PASSING OF YOUR SISTER":

CAROL, 

I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR SISTER'S PASSING SO CLOSE TO THE HOLIDAYS.   MY THOUGHTS AND  PRAYERS WILL BE WITH YOU AND YOUR  FAMILY  DURING THIS SEASON.  I  KNOW HOW HARD  IT IS TO  LOSE SOMEONE YOU LOVE.  MY SISTER,  JOAN MARKIEWICH FOSTER, CLASS OF '64, LEFT US ON  DEC. 27, 1996.  I  STILL MISS HER EVERY DAY OF THE  WEEK.  SHE AND I WERE PRACTICALLY JOINED AT THE HIP; OUR HUSBANDS WERE SO  JEALOUS OF OUR CLOSE RELATIONSHIP... WE FINISHED EACH OTHER SENTENCES.  BUT THIS TIME OF THE YEAR IS  ESPECIALLY HARD,  SO KEEP UP THE GOOD MEMORIES AND YOU WILL BE FINE...                                                                                                     
SPECIAL LOVE,  MARY MARKIEWICH HUX  '67

   Thank you so very much, Mary.  I appreciate your tender thoughts, and I'll be thinking of you through this difficult season.

  Y'all take good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                          Love to all, Carol

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Abide with Me

Words by Henry F. Lyte, 1847
Music by William H. Monk, 1861
 

Abide with me; fast falls the eventide;
The darkness deepens; Lord with me abide.
When other helpers fail and comforts flee,
Help of the helpless, O abide with me.

Swift to its close ebbs out life's little day;
Earth's joys grow dim; its glories pass away;
Change and decay in all around I see;
O Thou who changest not, abide with me.

Not a brief glance I beg, a passing word,
But as Thou dwell'st with Thy disciples, Lord,
Familiar, condescending, patient, free.
Come not to sojourn, but abide with me.

Come not in terrors, as the King of kings,
But kind and good, with healing in Thy wings;
Tears for all woes, a heart for every plea.
Come, Friend of sinners, thus abide with me.

Thou on my head in early youth didst smile,
And though rebellious and perverse meanwhile,
Thou hast not left me, oft as I left Thee.
On to the close, O Lord, abide with me.

I need Thy presence every passing hour.
What but Thy grace can foil the tempter's power?
Who, like Thyself, my guide and stay can be?
Through cloud and sunshine, Lord, abide with me.

I fear no foe, with Thee at hand to bless;
Ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness.
Where is death's sting? Where, grave, thy victory?
I triumph still, if Thou abide with me.

Hold Thou Thy cross before my closing eyes;
Shine through the gloom and point me to the skies.
Heaven's morning breaks, and earth's vain shadows flee;
In life, in death, O Lord, abide with me.

"Abide with Me" midi courtesy of http://www.mommydearest.com/midi.html - 06/01/06

"Abide with Me" lyrics and available history courtesy of http://synergy_2.tripod.com/lyrics/abide.html - 06/01/06

Greg Olsen Paintings courtesy of http://gregolsengallery.com – 03/15/05

John Marshall High School's Justice Scale clip art courtesy of Cheryl White Wilson (JMHS - '64) of VA - 10/13/05
Thanks, Cheryl!

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