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11/21/11 - NNHS Newsletter - Without a Song

“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and
go to the grave with the song still in them.”

Henry David Thoreau
(12 July 1817 - 06 May 1862)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   Without a song - that's where I was the other night when I heard Frank Sinatra sing this on the radio!

BONUS #1 - - Tommy Dorsey Orchestra with Frank Sinatra, 1941

BONUS #2 - - Frank Sinatra on a TV Show from the Fifties

BONUS #3 - Frank Sinatra, 1961


"Without a Song" is a popular song with music by Vincent Youmans and lyrics by Billy Rose and Edward Eliscu, published in 1929. It was included in the musical play, Great Day.

... Lawrence Tibbett, Nelson Eddy and Frank Sinatra recorded versions of the song with what appears to be the original lyrics, including the line, "A darkie's born, but he's no good no how, without a song." In subsequent recordings, Sinatra didn't use the term "darkie", and later recorded versions included the altered text "a man is born, but he's no good no how, without a song..."[1]


   Today would have been the 64th Birthday of my best friend,    Rose Woodard Groff ('65) had she (like so many of our friends) not succumbed to breast cancer on October 14, 1984 at the age of 37.  I'm thankful for the love and friendship we shared for so many years.

   Happy Birthday this week to:

23 -   Sandra Ray ('61) of VA AND   John Howard ('66) of VA AND Peggy Cooke Wolfley ('71) of VA AND the late Fayetta Covert Stansbury (NNHS / Ferguson HS - '72) (deceased 06/03/10)!

24 -     Sharon Hilsdon Bryant ('68) of VA;

25 -   Donnie Satisky ('56) of OR AND    Michael Sisk ('63) of CA;

26 -   Betsy Goodson Covert (June '37) of MD AND   Donna Price Devers ('66) of NC AND    Diana Price Carter ('66) of WV;

27 - Gayle Fallin Harris ('57) AND   Domi O'Brien ('64) of NH! 

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!


  From Mary Blandford McGehee ('62) of LA - "new grandson!":

Hi Carol,
Carruth and I have a new grandson, Michael Carruth.  I spent 5 days with Matt, Katherine and baby Michael in October, and Carruth and I are going to see them in North Carolina for Thanksgiving. 
Take care, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Mary (Blandford) McGehee

   Oh, how wonderful!   What a great Thanksgiving this will be for your family! Thank you for letting us know, Mary - and congratulations to one and all!



Wednesday, Nov. 20, 1861

Most discussion of the Civil War centers on the great battles of the Eastern Theater--Fredericksburg, Chancellorsville, Gettysburg. Further contemplation brings to mind the Western Theater: Vicksburg, Island No. 10, Secessionville, Chickamauga. Way down the obscurity list are the battles of California. One such began today: Daniel Showalter and a band of 17 fellow Confederates incurred the wrath of Federal authorities in Southern California. They set out in pursuit, and the chase was on. It took over a week, but the Federals never gave up. The Showalter party was finally captured Nov. 29 at a place known as the Warner Ranch, southeast of Los Angeles.

Thursday, Nov. 20, 1862

The road to war had been a rocky one in Tennessee. The sentiment to leave the Union was not universal, with a distinct divide between the pro-Federal east and the pro-Confederate western part of the state. The decision having been made, however, it was evidently time to get organized to take part in the war which was swirling around them. In furtherance of this goal, there was formed the Army of Tennessee, which would prove to be one of the finest fighting forces on either side, although cursed with dubious leadership. The structure was changed today to consist of three corps, under Generals E. Kirby Smith, Leonidas Polk, and William Joseph Hardee. The overall command was held by Gen. Braxton Bragg, who was very popular with Jefferson Davis.

Friday, Nov. 20, 1863

At yesterday’s dedication ceremony of the new National Military Cemetery at Gettysburg, Edward Everett, the noted orator, had spoken for some two hours. He was followed by President Abraham Lincoln, who spoke for less than two minutes. The newspapermen in attendance, not all of whom had even been able to hear the President clearly, had been exceedingly lukewarm in their opinions of the talk. Today, however, it was Everett who sent Lincoln a letter of congratulations on his speech. Lincoln had better grasped “the central idea of the occasion,” he said. Lincoln, modestly, wrote back to Everett his thanks. “I am pleased to know that, in your judgment, the little I did say was not entirely a failure.”

Sunday, Nov. 20, 1864

The Confederacy was blessed with quite a number of creative boat designers. While in better times these gentlemen would probably have been turned away as deranged lunatics, desperate times led to consideration of desperate ideas. One such, the torpedo boat called St. Patrick by her designer and commander John P. Halligan, was completed in Selma, Ala., today and launched to take on the Union vessels infesting Mobile Bay. A writer who saw her described St. Patrick: “Length, about 30 feet; has water-tight compartments; can be sunk or raised as desired; is propelled by a very small engine; and will stow in 5 men. It has some arrangement of machinery that times the explosions of torpedoes, to enable the operators to retire to a safe distance.” One hopes the last note was accurate.



Thursday, Nov. 21, 1861

An early round of personnel rearrangements took place in Jefferson Davis' official family today. LeRoy Pope Walker had had the post of Secretary of War since the government was formed. In the opinion of later historians he did not do too badly it it, but even more than other government jobs at the top level, any decision he made was liable to anger far more people than it pleased. Walker therefore departed the job today, apparently either by his own request or at least mutual consent. His replacement was Judah Benjamin, regarded by all as a brilliant man. It was felt he would be better able to cope with the pressure of the office.

Friday, Nov. 21, 1862

It was no doubt coincidence but today saw another change in the occupant of the office of Confederate Secretary of War. This time the mantle fell upon James A. Seddon, a prominent Richmond attorney. The longest-lasting occupant of the position, Seddon is also highly regarded for his abilities in the job. A former member of the United States House of Representatives, he had to leave his present post in the Confederate House of Representatives to take the cabinet position. He was said in appearance to look anything but warlike, which proves that the talents of a secretary of war are not the same as those of a general in the field.

Saturday, Nov. 21, 1863

The Union armies that had been bottled up in Chattanooga since the battle of Chickamauga had reached its disastrous conclusion were about to be idle no longer. U. S. Grant was on the scene and settling the last details of the breakout battle with his commanders. Sherman was to engage in a complicated movement requiring not one but two crossings of the Tennessee River to get to the Confederate right flank. Thomas was to strike the center, a formation known as Missionary Ridge. Hooker, who was doing much better since his reassignment to the west, was to move into the valley below Lookout Mountain then attack the Confederate left.

Monday, Nov. 21, 1864

No one knows how the story got started. Somehow it began to be said that a Mrs. Lydia Bixby had sent all five of her sons to fight for the Union cause, and that all five had died in battle. The word got as far as Abraham Lincoln, and he felt obliged to write to her today. "I feel how weak and fruitless must be any words of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming," it began. The only problem was that the report was wrong. Two of Mrs. Bixby's sons had indeed been killed, but two of the others had apparently deserted and the last was alive and doing well and would be honorably discharged. The original manuscript of the "Bixby letter" has never been found.

    From Linda May Bond Crayton ('66) of VA - 11/19/11/ - "  snow plow":

Hi Carol,

I'm so pleased your headache is better. I hate to hear of you hurting.

Would you please thank
John Patterson ('59) of TN for his inspiration on the snow plow design. My brother doesn't so dishes, vacuum or laundry, BUT THIS looks to be it. Could you modify it with a tin cup on the front ? And do you take installments on that price?

Ha HA HA, what a hoot!

Thanks for making my day.
Linda May '66

  Thanks so much, Linda May!

    From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 11/20/11, 11:50 PM - "    Wade E. Hancock":

Hi, Carol:

Thank you for sending this Memorial Newsletter. When I called Wade to invite him to the first Reunion of the 97th Rifle Company last month, he was excited about attending, and we promised each other we would catch up after so many years. When he did not attend the Reunion, I added his name to my "To Do List" to call and let him know how much we missed him at the Reunion.

Wish I had not delayed making that call now. Rest In Peace, Marine.

Semper Fidelis,
TYPHOON Regards,
Joe Madagan ('57) of FL

   Thank you so much, Joe.  I'm so very sorry for the loss of your good friend.

  From Bill Hobbs ('66) of Northern VA - 11/19/11 - "Just Stay":

Just Stay

A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.

"Your son is here," she said to the old man. She had to repeat the words several times
before the patient's eyes opened.

Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine
standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened
fingers around the old man's limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.

The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night
the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man's hand and offering him
words of love and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile.

He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious of her and of the night
noises of the hospital - the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members
exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly
to his son all through the night.

Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding
and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.

Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her.

"Who was that man?" he asked.

The nurse was startled, "He was your father," she answered.

"No, he wasn't," the Marine replied. "I never saw him before in my life."

"Then why didn't you say something when I took you to him?"

"I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just
wasn't here. When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how
much he needed me, I stayed.

"I came here tonight to find a Mr. William Grey. His son was killed in Iraq today, and I was sent
to inform him. What was this gentleman's name?"

The nurse with tears in her eyes answered, "Mr. William Grey............."

The next time someone needs you ... Just be there. Stay.








     Thanks so much, Bill!

THANKSGIVING RECIPES: - Martha Stewart's Cornbread Dressing - Martha Stewart's Green Beans with Lemon Butter

CROCHET PATTERNS: - Sugar'n Cream - Seasons Greetings Wreath - Five-Minute Christmas Bell - Cylinda Mathews' Holiday Bells

From - 11/20/11 - "Thanksgiving Dinner Shortcuts!":

Dear Friends,

Are you running out of time and need some shortcuts for Thanksgiving? Are you new at all this planning and don't know what to do? Here are some easy hints and ideas to help you with time and if you are a beginner. Trust me you can pull off Thanksgiving dinner!!

There are so many options out there to help you save time and energy. We all would like to be the one that can prepare everything from scratch and impress our families with these beautiful dinner presentations but for those of us that need some help and time savers; let's explore what is out there.

In the freezer section of the grocery store there are
turkeys that are sold in a bag that you cook the turkey in FROZEN! I am not kidding, you do not have to thaw the turkey, you take it from the freezer, put it into a roasting pan and put it in the oven. They sell these three different ways - whole turkeys, turkey breasts and boneless turkey breasts. They even come with gravy packets and a pop up timer. These turkeys are almost fool proof and a huge convenience. I always use the Jeannie-O brand - I have used them for Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. They are fool and goof proof! I LOVE them!

Staying in the freezer section there are some fabulous frozen
vegetables out there right now that are so easy to prepare. They come in bags that you pop into the microwave, the vegetables steam in the bag and voila in less than 5 minutes you have a vegetable that you can "dress" up as though you have slaved all day. An example would be to cook the green beans in the bag and then toss with a bit splash of lemon juice and top with some slivered almonds. Quick and easy! These are sold in green beans, broccoli, cauliflower, a medley, carrots and corn. You can mix and match and provide a tasty and wonderful vegetable for your family very easily without pots and pans. There are also fresh vegetables in the produce section that come in steaming bags. Again an easy way to provide veggies with very little work or dishes to clean up. If you don't like heating in plastic, just dump them into microwavable serving dishes and cover before cooking.

One of my favorite ways to provide a basket of steaming
rolls for the table is to buy frozen yeast rolls, these come in a pan that you pop in the oven and then place in a basket for the table. MMMMM fresh and hot yeast rolls that taste like you were mixing a yeast dough all day and oh so easy! Again no dishes or pans to scrub.

Keep an eye on that freezer section there are a ton of new and helpful things even gluten free choices! You will be surprised at what you can bless your table with that saves you time and makes you look like you slaved all day! SShh - I'll keep your secret!

Mashed Potatoes can be made in a number of ways without spending two hours peeling potatoes, boiling water, cooking, and mashing. My particular favorite shortcut to mashed potatoes can be found in the meat or dairy section of the grocery store. There are several brands of mashed potatoes that are already made and waiting for you in plastic tubs that only have to be heated in the containers. You can jazz them up with cheese or garlic if you want. You pop them in the microwave, dump them into a serving dish and bam! You have mashed potatoes that have great texture and taste with out the pots and pans. Again - if you don't like heating in plastic, just put the potatoes microwave safe dishes and presto!

Stuffing is something that is always made differently in all families, some like it baked where it is cut into squares and others like it fluffy in a bowl. Some like to make the stuffing from day old bread and others use it from a box or bag. I am going to tell you how I have made it for years and my family goes crazy for it. I happen to not like stuffing and I find it hard sometimes to prepare things that I myself do not eat. I used to make a box mix of stuffing and just get by with that. After reading magazines and recipes I found a way to jazz up a box mix that no one has ever noticed that I do not spend hours slaving making the stuffing. I take a medium to large onion and chop it finely, then 8 stalks of celery and chop finely, sauté in a pan with half a stick of butter, prepare the stuffing mix as the box instructs then add in the sautéed vegetables, loosely pile into a oven safe baking dish and lightly toast the top. Done. I use two boxes of stuffing mix one cornbread flavor and the other turkey flavor. I honestly can't tell you how it tastes because I don't eat it, but the family raves over it! There are many variations to this - use chicken broth instead of plain water, chop up and apple and toss that in as well, and much much more. Use your creativity to enjoy!

We are a family that has a
ham and a turkey for our dinner. Some of us like ham and others like turkey. I purchase a small already cooked and spiral sliced ham from the meat section of the grocery store. I do not bake the entire thing in the oven. I peel off the slices, arrange them on a plate and heat them in the microwave. I place the heated slices on a platter for the table. No one (until now) would ever know that I do not bake the ham myself. This is a huge time saver and again a way to save on roasting pans and also the fight for oven space.

Gravy - there are so many options out there for gravy; canned, jarred or mixes. If you insist on homemade that is great but please have a back up mix in the cabinet just in case.

These are some simple ways for you to save on time and energy for most of the traditional foods that are prepared for Thanksgiving dinners. I love to cook and love to please my family, I want them to have memories of fun and enjoyable dinners, if that means utilizing some shortcuts so that I am not stressed and yelling, I am all for using whatever I need to do to make sure that Mom is still smiling by the time we sit down to dinner. I have used all of these shortcuts for dinners and was amazed at how much easier some of these methods were that allowed me not to be exhausted by the time dinner was over.

FlyLady and I want you to have a season full of peace and joy not one of stress and bad memories because we were too short tempered and ill prepared to enjoy ourselves and our families. Take the time to really look at what you have planned or if you don't have a plan, make one and look at what you can do to save yourself time and energy!



From - 11/20/11:

A man shows up for his doctor's appointment with a piece of celery in each ear and a carrot in each of his nostrils.

He says to the doctor, "Doc, I'm not feeling well."

Whereupon the doctor replied, "Perhaps you're not eating right."


1. Thursday, December 1, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, December 14, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

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Without a Song

Music by Vincent Youmans (27 Sept 1898 - 05 Apr 1946)

Lyrics by Billy Rose (06 Sept 1899 – 10 Feb 1966) and
Edward Eliscu (02 Apr 1902 – 18 June 1998), for the film Great Day, 1929

Without a song the day would never end
Without a song the road would never bend
When things go wrong a man ain't got a friend
Without a song

That field of corn would never see a plow
That field of corn would be deserted now
A man is born but he's no good no how
Without a song

I got my trouble and woe but, sure as I know, the Jordan will roll
And I'll get along as long as a song, strong in my soul

I'll never know what makes the rain to fall
I'll never know what makes that grass so tall
I only know there ain't no love at all
Without a song


I've-a got my trouble and woe and, sure as I know, the Jordan will roll
And I'll get along as long as a song, strong in my soul

I'll-a never know what makes that rain to fall
I'll never know what makes the grass so tall
I only know there ain't no love at all
Without a song

"Without a Song" midi courtesy of - 11/21/11

"Without a Song" lyrics courtesy of - 11/21/11

"Without a Song" Record Label courtesy of - 11/21/11

Musical Divider Line clip art courtesy of - well, I cannot find that information right now, but it's been in my files for a long time...

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Ferguson High School's Anchor clip art courtesy of Steve Silsby (FHS - '72) of NC - 12/14/05
Thanks, Steve!

Animated Cheering Smiley clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 08/18/05 (re-saved 02/27/09)
Thanks, Al!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Animated USMC Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated BOO-HOO courtesy of Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 08/28/09
Thanks, Glenn!

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