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Dear Friends and Schoolmates,
   I tend to think of this 1931 number as a Billie Holiday song, but guess who also sang it?  That's right - Frank Sinatra! 

THIS WEEK'S BIRTHDAYS:

    We have a Happy Birthday Three-Fer today - Joe Drewry ('58) of VA AND    Jane Coltrane Leonard ('64) of VA AND   Ann Allen ('65) of FL!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

21 -   the late Rose Woodard Davis Ficocello Groff ('65) (deceased 10/14/84);

23 -   Sandra Ray ('61) of VA AND    John Howard ('66) of VA AND  Peggy Cooke Wolfley ('71) of VA AND    Fayetta Covert Stansbury (Ferguson HS - '72) of FL;

24 -     Sharon Hilsdon Bryant ('68) of VA;

25 -   Donnie Satisky ('56) of OR AND    Michael Sisk ('63) of CA;

26 - Betsy Goodson Covert (June '37) of MD AND    Donna Price Devers ('66) of NC AND    Diana Price Carter ('66) of WV!

   Many Happy Returns to You All!

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  From My #2 Daughter-in-Law, Bethany Winona Harty (Siuslaw HS, OR - '94) of OR - 11/13/08 - "New Pic for your Newsletter :)":

		Hey Carol!   Hey, I was looking at your newsletter, and decided that if I'm gonna go through ALL the effort of dieting and losing weight, I might as well look good on the newsletter too - LMBO!  Here's a new "skinny" pic of me - yes, I know I'm vain - ha!   love you TONS!!!!  and miss you guys too!   me :)
Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Bethany Harty
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   WOWZERONI-RINI!!! For a woman with five children - or even without! - you're looking mighty good, Lady! Thanks for the new picture; I updated it on the site:

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   We miss you and yours, too! And of course we love you bunches!

From My Friend, Judy, of IL - 11/15/08 - "Crock Pot Recipes":

This is AWESOME!  JUST CLICK ON THE ONE YOU LIKE.  

  Crock Pot Cooking Index

Food for Thought: Happiness is the place between too little and too much.

Crock Pot - Beef

Crock Pot - Pork

Crock Pot - Poultry

Crock Pot - Fish & Seafood

Crock Pot - Soup, Stew & Chili

   WOWZERONI!!! Thanks, Jude - just in time for the busy holidays!

From http://www.SelfGrowth.com - 11/14/08 - "Personal Accountability":

Attitude - Blame: Two Can Play That Game
By Annette Vaillancourt, Ph.D., Nov. 11, 2008
 

Why do we always look for someone or something to blame when we are hurt, upset or frustrated? Why is laying fault the first thing on someone's mind when bad things happen? Does there always have to be an aggressor and a victim in every interaction that doesn't go the way one or the other party wants it to? Is retribution the best response to harm or hurt? (It seems to me this could apply both to individual persons, as well as entire nations.)

If we could get inside the mind of someone who constantly blames others (whether they are the aggressor or the victim) this might be the unconscious thought process: "I blame you for my choices and deny that I had other options or choices to make. I am going to react and get rid of this awful feeling as quickly as I can. I don't want to acknowledge that I had my part in making this situation go poorly. I don't want to look at my own behavior or own the negative results I get in life. I want to find fault and blame someone else because I don't want to feel bad about myself or have to make difficult changes or face my fears. I don't want to look at the fact that my behavior has hurt another and/or contributed to my own hurt. I want to say, ‘you made me do it!’

So, I will blame you or circumstances for my drinking, overeating, rages, hitting, infidelity, and lying. I justify it to myself by saying, 'If only you wouldn't have done ________, I wouldn't have done what I did. Look what you made me do!'

In my worldview, retaliation for hurt or harm is justifiable. I don't acknowledge that I am hurt and seek solace, comfort or understanding. Maybe I don't know how. Maybe I see that as weak. Nor do I seek to negotiate for a more satisfying outcome, talk to you about how your behavior has affected me, or courageously remove myself from a toxic situation. Instead I blame you and feel like a helpless victim. I label you as "lazy, unloving, irritating, frigid, weak, irresponsible, evil, unfit, stupid, or crazy." I cover up and attempt to assuage my hurt or fear with violence, self-righteous anger, or self-defeating behaviors, instead of forgiveness, understanding or assertiveness.

I wear my victim stature outwardly. I protest is loudly to my friends and family, seeking their sympathy, asking them to choose sides against you and agree with me that you are bad, that YOU are to blame. Everybody thinks I am a saint (except those who secretly think I'm a fool) for putting up with this!”

As I write this I am keenly aware that everybody loses in this kind of interaction. There is no accountability, no responsibility, no integrity. In the “blame game” it becomes difficult to tell the aggressors from the victims after awhile, as both are pointing fingers at the other and saying, “she/he did that to me!! Everybody feel sorry for me!”

Without personal accountability and responsibility, without stopping to consider how your actions contributed to the unsatisfactory outcome you’re experiencing, where that’s the bombing of the World Trade Center or the fact that you just bounced another check in the family checkbook, the cycle just continues. There’s no stopping it until someone takes responsibility for their behavior and says, “Yes, this part was my doing. I did that to you because I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t want to look at myself and acknowledge my hurt, fear, frustration or my incorrect assumptions. I didn’t want to take the time to listen and respond after some consideration of your side. I just reacted."

Seems to me if we all did this, there's be alot more peace in the world!

“All we are saying, is give peace a chance!” - John Lennon and Yoko Ono


Author's Bio

Shrink, Geek, Speak, Coach Dr. Vaillancourt is a serial entrepreneur and Renaissance woman. As owner of EnterTraining Seminars she is a busy motivational speaker, writer, and coach.

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  From Ruth Ann Reece Horace ('67) of FL - 10/31/08 - "++++ MAXINE +++++" (#12 in a Series of 15):

..... More from the gal everyone loves and admires..... Whatever pops into her mind, Maxine says. Ordinarily, folks might be offended. But instead, millions of Americans have identified with the crabby, irreverent Maxine, the popular Hallmark character that lambastes everything from holidays to aging, and does not hesitate to tell it like it is - or as she sees it.....    Thanks, Ruthie!

HOLIDAY REUNION NEWS:  

The NNHS Class of 1958 Gathering and Dinner will be held Wednesday, December 17, 2008 at 6:00 PM at Al Fresco Ristorante, 11710 Jefferson Avenue, Newport News, VA 23606.  CONTACT: Joe Drewry (jwdvt@aol.com, 757-244-4443, ext 4)

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