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11/16/13 - NNHS Newsletter - It's Not for Me to Say

“Don't be dismayed at goodbyes. A farewell
is necessary before you can meet again. And
meeting again, after moments or lifetime,
is certain for those who are friends.

- Richard Bach
(b. 23 June 1936)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,   

   Mmmm -  I love this dreamy song; it always makes me want to dance!  

BONUS - - It's Not for Me to Say - Johnny Mathis, @ 1957


"It's Not for Me to Say" is a 1957 popular song with music by Robert Allen and lyrics by Al Stillman. It was written for the 1957 movie Lizzie (starring Eleanor Parker), and was sung by Johnny Mathis.

A recording by Johnny Mathis, arranged by Ray Conniff was the most successful version of the song, reaching #5 on the Billboard Top 100 singles chart.


    Happy Birthday today to     the late George-Morewitz ('57) (deceased 06/09/08)!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to Ronald Creech ('57)!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

18 -   Joe Drewry ('58) of VA AND    Jane Coltrane Leonard ('64) of VA AND   Ann Allen ('65) of NC;

21 - June Veneris Collie (Hampton HS - '62) of VA AND   The late Rose Woodard Groff ('65) (deceased 10/14/84);

23 -   Sandra Ray ('61) of VA AND   John Howard ('66) of VA AND Peggy Cooke Wolfley ('71) of VA AND the late Fayetta Covert Stansbury (NNHS / Ferguson HS - '72) deceased 06/03/10)!

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!


November 16, 1940 - In response to the leveling of Coventry, England by Nazi Germany's Luftwaffe two days before, the Royal Air Force bombed Hamburg. Due to bad weather the accuracy of the attack was minimal and 233 German civilians were killed. By the end of the war, the total death toll in Hamburg from British attacks was near 50,000.

November 16, 1940 - Holocaust: In occupied Poland, the Nazis closed off the Warsaw Ghetto from the outside world.

November 16, 1943 - American bombers struck a hydro-electric power facility and heavy water factory in German-controlled Vemork, Norway. 160 bombers were used in the attack.

November 16, 1944 - Operation Queen, the costly Allied thrust to the Rur, was launched.

November 16, 1944 - Dueren, Germany was destroyed by Allied bombers.


Saturday, November 16, 1963 - Drummer and producer Steve Argüelles was born Stephen Argüelles Clarke in Crowborough, Sussex, England.

Saturday, November 16, 1963 - Former professional tennis player Zina Garrison was born in Houston, Texas.

Saturday, November 16, 1963 - Actress Meenakshi Seshadri was born in Sindri, Jharkhand, India.

      From the Incomparable Charis Bean Duke (Governor Thomas Johnson HS, MD - '85) of PA - 11/14/13 - "Another Premiere":
If Spain isn't to your liking, how about Hong Kong? I just learned my work for flute, viola, and clarinet titled, "This is not a piece" will be premiered in Hong Kong on November 28...

   WOWZERONI-RINI! Congratulations again, Charis!

        From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 11/15/13 - "Die Maiers Trapeze Act":

This is funny!

The Maiers (Germans) unique trapeze act

     Thanks, Haul Party!

From - 11/11/13 - "Supercharge Your Social Skills":

5 Tips to Help You Improve Your Social Skills

By Laurie Wilhelm

There are many different social skills and the impact they have on other people varies. Acting on two or three "easy" skills isn't enough. The best results are achieved when several skills are used in combination with one another. The expression "the total is greater than the sum of its parts" resonates loudly with respect to social skills. When individuals combine various skills such as listening, making small talk, giving compliments, maintaining eye contact, greeting others warmly, and many others, they will experience more social success in many different situations.

Strong social skills include (among others):
- active listening
- knowing how to greet others
- conversing and making small talk
- building a friendly rapport
- complimenting others
- offering praise and encouragement
- showing support and understanding
- acknowledging others
- saying 'thank you'

Techniques and methods are available to develop all social skills. Knowing what to say and how to act are basic social skills that anyone can learn. Here are five tips for improving social skills:

1. Start with the skills that feel the most comfortable to you.
There is such a wide variety of social skills to learn that you can begin with the skills with which you feel the most comfortable.

It can be as simple as constructing a meaningful "thank-you," a compliment or using a technique to remember names. Practicing these skills in situations where a comfort level already exists builds confidence and, as more skills are added, begins to establish good interpersonal relationships.

2. Work on your social skills before you're in a situation where you really need them.
When you're using skills such as giving quality feedback or negotiating, it's better to have established a rapport, whenever possible, with the individuals involved prior to beginning these discussions. These kinds of situations have the potential to be difficult and intimidating, so having positive interactions before these situations come up will make them much easier to approach.

Constant maintenance of good relationships builds a strong foundation so there's a better chance of weathering challenging times. These interactions can be very simple - from greeting colleagues in the elevator to acknowledging others on the workshop floor to making small talk at staff meetings. Over time, these small interactions make a big difference in your relationships and ongoing success.

3. Make a point of interacting with others in familiar situations.
When you've learned some techniques, start practicing your new social skills in your daily life. This could be at a work meeting where you speak to someone you haven't talked to before or to someone with whom you've never had any significant conversation. You could be at your vet's office talking to another pet owner about their pet or picking up your child from daycare and beginning a conversation with another parent.

These situations are based on common ground so a topic for discussion already exists and you're not trying to establish one. As well, you'll meet up with most of these people again - at work, in another meeting, the next day at daycare - so you can start to establish a friendly rapport with them.

4. Attend Events, Accept Invitations and Join Clubs or Associations
Once you have learned a few social skills techniques, challenge yourself by attending events or social gatherings to try out your new skills.

It's probably easier and less stressful for the beginner to go to an event where there is a main attraction - such as a keynote speaker, panel discussion or performance - so that the pressure to interact is lessened, but the opportunity to meet people and to interact is still there. If the occasion focuses solely on the interaction between guests, such as a dinner party, it may put more pressure on the beginner to be "on" for the entire evening.

Alternatively, if you're already comfortable in the company of others, a dinner party would be ideal to practice your social skills and reunite with friends and acquaintances, make new friends, have good conversations and simply have a good time with everyone else.

Membership in clubs and associations brings together individuals who share common interests and is a basis for mutually satisfying conversation and ongoing interaction. Implementing social skills in these situations is easier than having to discover areas of interest or expertise from scratch - although this is easy to do when you have the skills.

When working on your skills, it's very important to put yourself in situations where you can act on them - even if it makes you uncomfortable. Keep the techniques in mind, knowing that with practice the skills become easier and easier to use.

5. Practice
The more frequently you interact with others and put yourself in situations where you're meeting, working or getting to know someone, the more your skills will develop and the easier they become. Continual practice as you go about your daily activities is never time wasted - you're building and strengthening your interpersonal relationships as you improve your skills.

Social skills are, and will always be, an important part of ongoing, daily interactions. They're not something learned one day and forgotten the next. They require a continuous, conscious awareness of the various skills. Fortunately, it doesn't take a long time nor a lot of effort to develop good social skills; the rewards are certainly worth it.

About the Author:

Laurie Wilhelm manages the Express Yourself to Success website, a one-stop e-source with information and techniques on interpersonal and social skills, public speaking, networking and conflict resolution. Achieve your success by working effectively with others. Get a free white paper, What Everyone Needs to Know About Social Skills, by going to

      From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 11/06/13 - "Some Things People Regret the Most Before They Die (#11 in a series of 19)":

  AMEN! Thank you, Shari!

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From - 11/15/13:

Two coworkers were talking by the water fountain. One guy said, "Today I got through the first step of getting divorced."

The second guy replied, "Oh, did you go to Mr. Guggenheim? Everyone goes to him for divorces."

The first man answered, "No, I just got married."  

1.Thursday, December 5, 2013 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, December 11, 2013 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.  

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 10/02/13

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Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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It's Not for Me to Say

Lyrics by Al Stillman (26 June 1906 – 1979); Music by Robert Allen (05 Feb 1927 - 01 Oct 2000)

Recorded by Johnny Mathis (b. 30 Sept 1935), 1957

It's not for me to say you love me
It's not for me to say you'll always care
Oh, but here for the moment I can hold you fast
And press your lips to mine
And dream that love will last

As far as I can see this is heaven
And speaking just for me, it's ours to share
Perhaps the glow of love will grow with every passing day
Or we may never meet again
But then, it's not for me to say

And speaking just for me, it's ours to share
Perhaps the glow of love will grow with every passing day
Or we may never meet again
But then, it's not for me to say

"It's Not for Me to Say" midi and lyrics courtesy of - 02/26/07

Image of Lana Turner and Ricardo Montalban from Latin Lovers (1953) courtesy of - 02/26/07

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Animated Coast Guard Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Ferguson High School's Anchor clip art courtesy of Steve Silsby (FHS - '72) of NC - 12/14/05
Thanks, Steve!

Governor Thomas Johnson High School's Logo courtesy of - 06/16/08

 Animated Applause clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 08/18/05 (re-saved 02/27/09)
Thanks, Al!

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated Dancing Teddy courtesy of Sandi Bateman Chestnut ('65) of VA - 03/08/11
Thanks, Sandi!

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