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11/09/11 - NNHS Newsletter -
As Long As He Needs Me

“Infatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart
as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen,
and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. Love is when you realize that he's
as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as
Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger and nothing like
Robert Redford - but you'll take him anyway.”

Judith Viorst, Redbook, 1975
(b. 02 Feb 1931)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

    I've always been especially fond of this old song.

BONUS #1 - - As Long As He Needs Me - Shirley Bassey, 1964 (no video)

BONUS #2 - - As Long As He Needs Me - Judy Garland, 1964

BONUS #3 - - As Long As He Needs Me - Eydie Gorme, 1969

BONUS #4 - - As Long As He Needs Me - Shirley Bassey, 2009


As Long as He Needs Me is a torch song sung by the character of Nancy in the musical film Oliver!, introduced in the 1960 musical. It is a love ballad about her criminal boyfriend Bill Sikes. The song expresses Nancy's love for him, despite his mistreatment of her.

A reprise of this song towards the end of the show expresses Nancy's affection for young Oliver Twist, implying that she now feels that the child also needs her. This reprise was omitted from the film version.

The song has also been sung as "As Long as She Needs Me," when sung by a male singer, and became a popular song by virtue of its renditions by several popular singers, including Lionel Bart and Shirley Bassey who reached number two for 5 weeks on the United Kingdom charts with the song. Bassey's recording became one of the highest sellers of 1960 staying on the UK charts for 30 weeks, and is still heard regularly playing in the background on the TV show "EastEnders". The song was performed by Nadia Turner and Melinda Doolittle on American Idol.


   Happy Birthday today to Hilton Henderson ('57) of NV and FL AND My Grandson (by My Children of Other Parents),     Jacob Mansfield of NC!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to The United States Marine Corps - 1775 AND Tamsie Warren Ellis ('57) AND David Wittan ('57) AND   Angie Ray Smith ('64) of VA AND   Steve Pullen ('65) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

12 - Barbara Womble Lawson (NNHS / Hampton HS) of VA AND   Jean Pittman Priest ('64) of FL;

14 -   Glenda Stewart Martin Faires ('68) of GA AND    Timothy of DC (son of    Kathy Cooper - '70 - of VA);

15 -    the late Bobbie Whitehurst Canady ('57) (deceased 11/16/07) AND       My Niece, Shari, of VA;

16 -    the late George-Morewitz ('57) (deceased 06/09/08)!

    Many Happy Returns, One and All!



Saturday, Nov. 9, 1861

Actually, the city of Beaufort, South Carolina, was captured without a fight by Federal forces operating out of the new outpost on Hilton Head Island. Although Beaufort was of little military importance itself, the fact that the Union now controlled the waterway between Charleston and Savannah gave Confederate commanders nervous twitches. Speaking of nerves, Gen. William T. Sherman was replaced as administrator of the new Federal Department of the Ohio, which included the states of Ohio, Indiana, Michigan, Tennessee, and Kentucky west of the Cumberland River. Sherman was not a great administrator, nor fond of sitting behind a desk, and the strain on his nerves caused some people to even question his sanity. Gen. Don Carlos Buell was sent in to replace him.

Sunday, Nov. 9, 1862

After five days of paper-shuffling and delays caused by both bureaucracy and the limitations of travel time, it took until today for Gen. Ambrose Burnside to arrive at headquarters and take command of the Army of the Potomac. The handover had to have been somewhat awkward for both the incoming and outgoing commanders: before the War, Burnside had been an employee of the man he now replaced, George McClellan, when they both worked for the Illinois Central Railroad. Further complicating matters was the fact that Burnside did not want an army command and had told Lincoln so when the President offered him the job. He felt it was beyond his capabilities, and many would die in Fredericksburg proving him right.

Monday, Nov. 9, 1863

Abraham Lincoln was not, if truth be told, a great enthusiast for the theater. If he did have to attend a performance to make his wife happy, he preferred a comedy. Tonight’s offering, alas, was more of a melodrama, which the already pressured and depressed Lincoln certainly did not need more of, but the tickets were already bought. The play was one called “Marble Heart”, and it was enlivened by one of the premier actors of the American stage--a certain John Wilkes Booth. The two men were not at this point acquainted.

Wednesday, Nov. 9, 1864

William T. Sherman issued marching orders to his forces today. He started with organizational topics, establishing a left wing (14th and 20th Corps, commander Gen. Henry Slocum) and a right wing (17th and 15th Corps, under Gen. O. O. Howard). These wing structures would be the main maneuvering and attack units of the campaign. Sherman then turned to the supply situation. The lines of wagons carrying food, drink, ammunition, and all the other essentials for a mobile force stretched for miles and often slowed the march greatly. Sherman ordered that there would be only one wagon allowed per regiment, and that only to carry ammunition. The policy of live-off-the-land was now established.


 From Mark Friedman ('65) of VA - 11/08/11 - "A Marine and His Son":

This is a heartbreaker.

This is Landon Carpenter - born one month after his dad paid the price in Afghanistan. It is clearly one of the most moving photos I have seen representing the sacrifice of our Marines and other military branches in this conflict.

     Thank you so much, Mark!

Landon Carpenter

From - 11/08/11 - "5 Keys to Networking":

5 Steps to Creating a World-Class Social Network in Any City

By Dr. Alex Benzer

One of the secrets to success in life is having a web of friends and associates. I've moved around a fair amount in my life, and one thing that my friends have noticed is that I quickly get to know a large number of people within a short time after moving to a new city. In fact, it seems that I know more people within days of my arrival in a new city than most of my friends who have lived there for years.

How does this work? And how can you can learn and use this yourself? It certainly helps to have an outgoing personality. However, if you implement the following steps, you stand to get results in leaps and bounds beyond what you have been getting so far. The following protocol works especially well if you've just landed in a brand-new city, knowing hardly anyone at all. If you've lived someplace for a little while, you just have to pretend like you're a newcomer and implement the same steps.

Step 1: Have an attitude of openness and interest
First, it's important to internalize the key determinant of your social success: an attitude of openness and interest. People tend to find interested people interesting. If you show genuine interest in the people you meet, they tend to reciprocate by showing genuine interest in you. Also, an attitude of openness generally works better than one of "I wonder what I can get out of this person." If spiritual law says that the world tends to reflect your attitude back to you, then if you approach a person thinking how you can enrich the person's life, you tend to get that back in return.

Step 2: Honor all invitations
An invitation is an act of humility. Someone has opened his door and heart to you and has requested your company. Honor that. An invitation is a gift in an intangible form and should be treated with the same amount of reverence and consideration that a tangible gift merits.

Let me elaborate a little bit on what I mean by accepting all invitations. The event could be anything: a birthday party, a dinner, a baby shower, a professional networking event, a gallery opening, a free event, or a pay event. Show up. There will be times when you don't know the host very well. Show up. There will be times when the event seems a little too far away. Show up--you just never know who else is going to be there and what could happen. Get the machinery of fate in motion. At other times you may feel that you won't know many people at the event. That means you should show up--if you avoided meeting strangers, you'd stay in your living room for the rest of your life. Remember that there are only two kinds of people: friends and future friends. And if you said you would show up, show up, even if you don't fully feel like it at the last minute. Be impeccable with your word because your word is your honor.

Of course, there will be times when you have conflicts and can't attend the event, and that's acceptable. Decline politely, express your regrets, and do your best to attend the next event.

Step 3: Honor all contacts
Now that you've shown up, you'll speak to a variety of people. Some may not initially catch your attention. That's okay--honor the contact anyway. If you speak to someone, no matter how briefly, exchange contact information with that person, making sure to get his or her e-mail address. Each friend you make increases your potential for meeting even more people, so be inclusive. Nobody has enough friends, and you're no exception.

Step 4: Follow up on all contacts
Now you have e-mail addresses from a bunch of people. Most people wait until there's something pertinent to contact that person about. And 99 percent of the time, that means they will never contact that person again. Not you. You will send a note to all the people that you meet within 48 hours of meeting them. I prefer to do it the day after, just because that way I know I'm not missing anyone, and I'll remember them well. If you wait a week, you will usually forget entirely, and after that they may not remember who you are. So do it the next day. It doesn't have to be anything fancy--just say it was nice meeting them, mention something about your conversation, and close by saying that you look forward to keeping in touch.

Step 5: Give back
Now that you have accepted all these fabulous invitations, it's time to issue some of your own. The absolutely best way to do that is to host an event. You have compiled all the contacts you have made over the past few months into an e-mail list, and now you will send them all a witty invitation. For a big party I like to have at least 120 invitees (about a quarter will show up). For a dinner party I invite about 40 to get 10 guests. I like to throw my parties on a Saturday night to maximize attendance since many professionals are too tired to party on a Friday night. I recommend four weeks' advanced notice for your event (and two weeks at the absolute minimum). That way, people can block out that Saturday evening beforehand, and you get priority over any other events that may be going on that night.

Your party will be a reflection of who you are, so have a compelling theme. The more you make people dress up and do things for the event, the more compelling your event will be, and the more likely it will be that they will show up. An interesting aspect of human psychology is that the more effort people have to put in to attend your event, the more committed they will be to attending, and the more they will enjoy it once they show up. Two concurrent themes are even better than one. One of my most successful events was when guests were asked to dress in pajamas and bring a funny poem.

So be open, show up, meet, follow up, and give back. Like everything else in life, the more you participate and give, the more you can expect to meet new people and expand your social circle.

About the Author:

Dr. Alex Benzer is the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man's Guide to Success With Women and the companion booklets The Tao of Sexual Mastery and The Tao of Social Networking. His works blend Eastern wisdom and Western science to create spiritually oriented, practical guides to greater fulfillment and success. Dr. Benzer has degrees from Harvard, Cambridge, and UC San Diego School of Medicine and is a clinical hypnotherapist in Los Angeles. The aforementioned works are available at The Tao of Dating for women is expected in summer 2006. Dr. Benzer can be reached at

** This article is one of 101 great articles that were published in 101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life. To get complete details on "101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life", visit

From - 11/08/11 - "Morning Musing: Who Decided I was Wrong?"

Dear Friends:

Over the years I have heard so many different versions of "doing things the RIGHT way."


If you had done it right the first time, you wouldn't have to do it again.

If you don't take time to do it right, when will you find the time to do it over.

These are just two examples, but what I want to know is who the heck determined the "RIGHT" way for everyone? Who decided for all of us that here is a RIGHT way and a WRONG way? Why do we feel compelled to follow the RIGHT way and feel like we have failed when we don't? Lastly, who decided for me that I do things WRONG?

FlyLady has shared one of the most valuable thoughts to help combat the "RIGHT" way thinkers:

"Housework done incorrectly still blesses your family."

What this means is that no matter how you do a task, just doing something instead of nothing, still blesses your family. Instead of using the old stinking thinking of "I don't have time to do it right so I will wait to do anything until I have time to do it the right way," so the piles grow, the dust gets thicker, and the floor stays unswept.

Just doing something, even if it is not the "right" way is better than nothing. This is where the magic of 15 minutes also comes into play for all of us. The days of our grandmothers spending every Saturday morning scrubbing and polishing are over. We do not have to spend our time slaving. We just need to set our timers for 15 minutes and GO! We do not need to clean our homes, the old fashioned, traditional, RIGHT way. We do it the FLY way! Routines and 15 minutes!

When faced with the kitchen floor that needs mopping, instead of putting it off for another time because you don't have time to do it the "right" way, set the timer for 15 minutes and just do the best you can within that time. You might just find that your very own "right" way is how YOU do it, not anyone's else's way, you know someone's version of the "right" way.

I always say how surprised you will be at what you can accomplish in 15 minutes. When faced with the living room carpet that needs to be vacuumed, don't put it off because you don't have time to move all the furniture and kill yourself doing it the "right" way. Set that timer and just vacuum what you can.

Again, with both of these examples you have gotten more accomplished by doing something, than putting it off and having to live with the mess because you had the stinking thinking of not having the time to do it "RIGHT". Give yourself permission not to follow someone else's version of RIGHT. Allow yourself to bless you and your family 15 minutes at a time. YOU decide what is RIGHT for YOU!

Now grab that timer and go prove that you can do anything for 15 minutes!!!



From - 11/08/11:

An old man was tired from riding his bike, and decided to hitch hike. A guy in his red Corvette pulled up to give him a lift. When the old man brought out his bike that he had leaned up against a tree, the driver said, "I have no room for your bike in my car, but I'd like to help you in someway seeing you standing here in the hot sun." After a few seconds of thought, the driver said, "I know what we can do. I have a rope behind my seat. I'll tie one end of it to the rear end of my car and the other end to the front your bike. You ride your bike, and I'll give you this whistle. If I go too fast for you, just blow your whistle and I'll slow down."

The old guy agreed to it. So off he went down the highway with the old man and his bike in tow. A little ways down the rode, a young lady in a bright yellow corvette pulls up next to them. She gives the guy in the red Vette the High Sign, meaning "you want a drag?" Off they go down the highway, 100 plus MPH, the old man blowing his whistle like crazy.

They zipped by a Highway Patrol cop sitting under a tree. The cop knew he couldn't catch them, so he called ahead to his fellow cop down the rode to intercept. "Car number 2, this is car number 1."

"Go head number 1, what'cha got for me?"

"I got a red and yellow Vette come down your way doing hundred plus, can you intercept?"

"Ten-four, Is there anything else?"

"Yeah, you wouldn't believe this, but there is an old guy riding a bicycle blowing his whistle trying to pass."  


1. Thursday, December 1, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, December 14, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 10/22/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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As Long As He Needs Me

Written by Lionel Bart (01 Aug 1930 – 03 Apr 1999) for Oliver!

Recorded by Shirley Bassey (b. 08 Jan 1937), 1960

As long as he needs me...
Oh, yes, he does need me...
In spite of what you see...
...I'm sure that he needs me.

Who else would love him still
When they've been used so ill?
He knows I always will...
As long as he needs me.

I miss him so much when he is gone,
But when he's near me
I don't let on...

...The way I feel inside.
The love, I have to hide...
The hell! I've gone my pride
As long as he needs me.

He doesn't say the things he should.
He acts the way he thinks he should.
But all the same,
I'll play
This game
His way.

As long as he needs me...
I know where I must be.
I'll cling on steadfastly...
As long as he needs me.

As long as life is long...
I'll love him right or wrong,
And somehow, I'll be strong...
As long as he needs me.

If you are lonely
Then you will know...

When someone needs you,
You love them so.

I won't betray his trust...
Though people say I must.

I've got to stay true, just
As long as he needs me.

"As Long As He Needs Me" midi courtesy of - 11/12/11 (sic)

"As Long As He Needs Me" lyrics courtesy of - 11/12/11 (sic)

Animated True Love title clip art courtesy of - 11/12/11 (sic)

Animated Hearts Divider Line # 63 clip art courtesy of - 02/11/10

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Animated Coast Guard Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

Animated BOO-HOO courtesy of Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 08/28/09
Thanks, Glenn!

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