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11/04/10 - NNHS Newsletter - Helplessly Hoping

On with the motley, the paint and the powder,
The people pay thee and want their laugh, you know.
If Harlequin thy Columbine has stolen,
Laugh, Punchinello, the world will shout 'Bravo!'

Go hide with laughter thy tears and thy sorrow,
Laugh and be merry, playing thy part,
Laugh, Punchinello, for the joy that is ended,
Laugh for the pain that is breaking thy heart.”

Ruggero Leoncavallo
, from the opera I, Pagliacci, 1892
(23 Apr 1857 - 09 Aug 1919)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   I heard this song recently on the radio and thought it might make a good Newsletter theme for us.

BONUS - - Helplessly Hoping - Crosby Stills and Nash


   Happy Birthday today to the ever gorgeous    Mike Jeffers ('61) of VA!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to   Patsy Blackard Hallett ('65) of VA AND My Grandson,      Tom Harty of TX!

06 - Marion Timberlake Gitchel ('57)
AND Maria Velma Vidales Scott ('57) AND       Pam Smith Arnold ('65) of VA;

07 -     Pam Larmer Traugott ('62) of VA;

08 - Lawson (Buddy) Sparrow ('53) of VA AND Woody Hudson ('57) AND     Joe Madagan ('57) of FL AND David McCoy ('67) of VA;

09 - Hilton Henderson ('57) of NV and FL;

10 - The United States Marine Corps - 1775 AND Tamsie Warren Ellis ('57) AND David Wittan ('57) AND

  Angie Ray Smith ('64) of VA AND   Steve Pullen ('65) of VA!

    Many Happy Returns, One and All!


November 3, 1941 - Japanese Ambassador John Grew warned that the Japanese may be planning a sudden attack on the U.S.

November 3, 1942 - The Koli Point action began during the Guadalcanal Campaign and ended on November 12.

November 3, 1943 - 500 aircraft of the U.S. 8th Air Force devastated Wilhelmshafen harbor in Germany.

November 3, 1944 - Two supreme commanders of the Slovak National Uprising, Generals Ján Golian and Rudolf Viest were captured, tortured and later executed by German forces.


November 4, 1939 - U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt ordered the United States Customs Service to implement the Neutrality Act of 1939, allowing cash-and-carry purchases of weapons by belligerents.

November 4, 1942 - Second Battle of El Alamein – Disobeying a direct order by Adolf Hitler, General Field Marshal Erwin Rommel led his forces on a five-month retreat. It was a major victory for the British.

November 4, 1944 - Bitola Liberation Day


Wednesday, November 3, 1965 - Novelist Ann Scott was born in Paris, France.


Thursday, November 4, 1965 - Actress and singer Malandra Burrows was born in Woolton, Liverpool, England.

Thursday, November 4, 1965 - Musician Pata was born Tomoaki Ishizuka (石塚 智昭) in Chiba, Japan.

Thursday, November 4, 1965 - Musician Jeff Scott Soto (Yngwie Malmsteen, Journey) was born in Brooklyn, New York.

Thursday, November 4, 1965 - Musician Wayne Static (Static-X) was born Wayne Richard Wells in Muskegon, Michigan.

  From Norris Perry (Warwick HS - '59) of VA - 08/05/10 - "Vote for Grace (REPEATED)":

  This is my daughter Laura's dog in a contest to be on the cover of a bag of dog food.

Vote every day for Grace. Thanks.

   Oh, Laura is your daughter, Norris! Well, that makes it all the more important!


 YIKESARONI-RINI-ROONI!   Grace's ratings have dropped considerably since I left town and stopped nagging you!!!  The last time I checked Grace had 4052 votes and Dollar had 6516 votes. This just cannot be allowed to continue!!! Y'all "git back to work!"

   Vote early, vote often (or at least cast your allotted daily vote)!!!

      From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of IL - 11/02/10 - "    Stan Musial":

Stan Musial served in the Navy during WWII.  Do you have him listed in Famous Sailors?

    Of course! I think... Lemme check.....

   GASP! NO!!!

   Well, he is now! Thanks, Dools!

   He's wearing his Cardinals uniform instead of his military uniform, but hey - a uniforms's a uniform, right?

  From Norris Perry (Warwick HS - '59) of VA - 11/03/10 - "NUN IN A CAB":

A cabbie picks up a Nun.

She gets into the cab, and notices that the VERY handsome cab driver  won't stop staring at her.

She asks him why he is staring.

He replies: "I have a question to ask you but I don't want to offend you."

She answers, "My son, you cannot offend me. When you're as old as I am and have been a nun as long as I have, you get a chance to see and hear just about everything. I'm sure that there's nothing you could say or ask that I would find offensive."

"Well, I've always had a fantasy to have a nun kiss me."

She responds, "Well, let's see what we can do about that: #1, you have to be single and #2, you must be Catholic."

The cab driver is very excited and says, "Yes, I'm single and Catholic!"

"OK" the nun says. "Pull into the next alley."

The nun fulfills his fantasy, with a kiss that would make a hooker blush.

But when they get back on the road, the cab driver starts crying.

"My dear child," says the nun, "why are you crying?"

"Forgive me but I've sinned. I lied and I must confess, I'm married and I'm Jewish."

The nun says, "That's OK. My name is Kevin and I'm going to a Halloween party.

      Thanks, Norris Sweetie - I needed that laugh!

From - 11/03/10 - "An Article on Self-Worth":

The Test of Trying Times - Being Kind to Yourself When Circumstance Is Not

By Rob Brookler

We've all arrived at those moments when we feel overwhelmed by trying circumstances within our life. We've done all we can, bearing up without great success or relief. And in our frustration and fatigue, we've probably looked up to heaven and asked: "How can you possibly ask more of me?"

If we could hear clearly through our distress, we'd probably hear heaven lovingly reply: "'We' are not."

And this is a most compassionate and instructive answer, for our lessons are never "sent" to punish or defeat us. So when we find ourselves truly anguished by our challenges, we can be sure that it is "we" that need to be reminded we've done enough.

While our circumstances and life-lessons will certainly make demands on us, it is the "added" weight of our own self-judgment -- our impatience with ourselves and our life, our "sense" of failure or injustice, our fear -- that actually depletes our strength and overwhelms us.

Heaven knows that we learn, grow, and heal best when we're balanced and light. This balance and lightness, however, is largely our responsibility. And while there is great "higher" support for us during our times of personal challenge, not even heaven can remove a strain "we" are actively imposing on ourselves.

So when we feel pushed to the breaking point, it is we who must ease up on the pushing.


Now, heaven also appreciates that facing trying times -- uncertainty, loss, wounded feelings -- is disturbing and potentially "unbalancing" for us. But as we grow more powerful, more of the responsibility for maintaining our balance, despite our fear and distress, is given to us -- is "entrusted" to us.

It's a bit like removing the "training wheels" so we may venture out farther and have more freedom of movement. But when we encounter a bumpy road -- when life challenges us -- we must have the discipline and the wisdom to attend first and foremost to our personal balance.

We're not expected to move rapidly or gracefully on this challenging stretch of road. And no one expects us to relish this part of the ride. But we are expected to pace ourselves, monitor our strength, and respect our needs and our limits. And it is the mark of wisdom, not weakness, to stop regularly, get off the bike, and say: "I've done enough climbing for one day. Think I'll rest by the road or walk for a bit."


Likewise, because it's an uphill climb, we simply can't afford to carry the extra weight of self-judgment and blame. Indeed, it's at these challenging times that we must be particularly patient and compassionate with ourselves. We must take deliberate measures to ensure we give ourselves rest, acknowledgement, and other activities that "counterbalance" the strain and pressures these times impose.

When we fail to do this -- when we "push" ourselves to exhaustion and "judge" ourselves into despair -- passages that are meant merely to move us forward become punishing and oppressive, even damaging. So, as much as we would wish heaven to simply "lift" us out of our desperate state, this would actually be a disservice to us.

Why? Because learning to honor ourselves, our needs, and our balance even when we're challenged is a fundamental component of all our lessons and life-passages. It's an incredibly powerful and liberating understanding. And in a time of accelerated growth and change, it's a skill we cannot afford to miss.


In fact, this understanding goes to the heart of who we are. Because how we treat ourselves is our choice and a statement about our worthiness, it's not a power we want to defer or surrender to anyone. And it's a power we can and must exercise on our behalf … in good times and especially in not-so-good times.

Why is this "choice" so critical? Because it's the choice we make at every moment and the only thing we can ultimately control. In other words, as powerful and wise as we may be, we cannot, for the most part, choose our lessons. We cannot choose "not" to have loss or change or past wounding. These are simply realities of life and, like it or not, part of how we learn and progress. Moreover, we cannot even choose not to feel an amount of fear, anger, or sorrow associated with our losses and wounding.

But we "always" have the choice about how we treat ourselves when we encounter these challenges. And this choice means the difference between a merely demanding and a truly painful passage. If we are "unrelenting" with ourselves when circumstances seem unrelenting, we are doubling our burden. On the other hand, if we are patient and supportive towards ourselves when our life seems not to be, we are balancing our burden.


Now, treating ourselves well when the world isn't is no small feat. Nor is it easy to be patient with our lessons and processes when we're experiencing pain or fear. So we must be practical. We must make it a conscious "practice" -- a regular, daily discipline -- to care for ourselves and acknowledge ourselves in equal measure to our challenges.

So, for example, if we've spent a difficult day job hunting or building a new business, we must follow this with an activity that gives us joy or rest. And we give ourselves this reward regardless of whether our day's efforts proved immediately rewarding. Indeed, we must be all the more considerate toward ourselves when the world has not been.

This practice applies equally to our "internal" growth and healing. Confronting and processing fear, loss, and wounded feelings require a great deal of our strength. So, during these times, it's our responsibility to balance these "heavy" feelings with activities that "lighten" us, that give us a measure of peace, rest, and expansion.

As well intentioned as we may be to "finish" our healing or "solve" our circumstances, there is definitely a point of diminishing return. When we've pushed ourselves beyond our balance -- when we're simply "struggling" in pain or "stuck" in self-judgment -- we're no longer doing ourselves any good. It's time to stop, rest, and focus not on self-improvement, but on self-care. It is our responsibility -- it is our "lesson" -- to do this.


Whether the struggles are internal or external (or both), we're not meant to "carry" our challenges with us round the clock. Doing so is neither wise nor efficient. Unfortunately, difficult times can make us feel unworthy and somewhat forgotten by the world. And this can lead us to treat ourselves unkindly when we most need to support ourselves. And if life has, for the moment, failed to recognize our value and our needs, we must "not" fail to do this.

Our life-lessons and circumstances are never meant to call into question our value and our worthiness. Again, though they may challenge us, our lessons are never sent to punish us. We are just as worthy, just as whole, just as loved, on the rough road as on the smooth. During difficult times, our power lies in remembering this and practicing it in our lives. And when we do, that extra self-imposed burden and pressure will "magically" lift from us. And heaven will smile seeing that we answered "its" prayer for us.

About the Author:

Rob Brookler is the founder and creator of the Meditations2Go® audio meditation collections and the website. The Meditations2Go® audio meditation CDs and MP3 downloads, meditation FAQs, and original articles -- available at -- are drawn directly from the popular meditation classes Mr. Brookler has taught for the past 27 years in the Los Angeles area.


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  From Jane Chambers of VA - 07/01/09, 02/07/10, AND 07/31/10 - "CNC BOOK BROCHURE & AD" AND 61-62 DECADERS ADDENDA AND DRAMATIC WORKSHOPS STUDENTS: 

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   Thanks, Jane!

1. Thursday, November 4, 2010 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have fiends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Thursday, December 2, 2010 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have fiends in that year, go visit with them.

3. Wednesday, December 8, 2010 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

4. Sunday, December 12, 2010 - Noon to 4:00 PM - Holiday Open House at the Chamberlin Lobby - Go see Brownie!

5. Saturday, April 30, 2011 - The NNHS Class will have a Luncheon. Team Leaders are Mickey Marcella ( - 757-249-3800), Betty Hamby Neher ( - 757-898-5099), and Dr. Harry Simpson ( - 804-694-0346). - CLASS OF 1954

6. Saturday, July 9, 2011 (6:30 PM to 11:30 PM) - The Class of 1971 will hold its 40-Year Reunion at Newport News Marriott at City Center, 740 Town Center Drive, Newport News. For details, contact Richard Rawls at - CLASS OF 1971

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   Y'all take good care of each other! TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                   Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty

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Helplessly Hoping

Written by Stephen Stills (b. 03 Jan 1945)

Recorded by Crosby, Stills & Nash, 1969Helplessly hoping
Her harlequin hovers nearby
Awaiting a word
Gasping at glimpses
Of gentle true spirit
He runs, wishing he could fly
Only to trip at the sound of good-bye

Wordlessly watching
He waits by the window
And wonders
At the empty place inside
Heartlessly helping himself to her bad dreams
He worries
Did he hear a good-bye? Or even hello?

They are one person
They are two alone
They are three together
They are four for each other

Stand by the stairway
You'll see something
Certain to tell you confusion has its cost
Love isn't lying
It's loose in a lady who lingers
Saying she is lost
And choking on hello

They are one person
They are two alone
They are three together
They are four for each other

"Helplessly Hoping" midi courtesy of - 11/03/10

"Helplessly Hoping" lyrics courtesy
of - 11/03/10

Image of Paul Cézanne's (19 Jan 1839 – 22 Oct 1906) "Harlequin" (1888-1890) courtesy of - 11/03/10

Divider Line Bar 48 clip art courtesy of - 11/03/10

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Bad Surprise Smiley courtesy of - 10/21/10

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Embarrassed Smiley clip art courtesy of - 03/01/09

Animated Laughing Frog courtesy of Joyce Lawrence Cahoon of VA - 05/31/08
Thanks, Joyce!

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