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11/02/11 - NNHS Newsletter - All Souls Day

“Death is a commingling of eternity with time; in the death of a good man,
eternity is seen looking through time.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
(28 Aug 1749 - 22 Mar 1832)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   Some years we observe this day together; some years we don't.....

BONUS #1 - - Herr, lehre doch mich - Wiener Symphoniker, Thomas Hampson, baritone solo; Nikolaus Harnoncourt, conductor, Vienna, 1988

BONUS #2 - - Herr, lehre doch mich - Munchner Philharmoniker | Chor des Bayerischen Rundfunks, Christian Gerhaher, baritone solo; Christian Tielemann, conductor



All Souls’ Day is a day of alms giving and prayers for the dead. The intent is for the living to assist those in purgatory. Many western churches annually observe All Souls’ Day on November 2 and many eastern churches celebrate it prior to Lent and the day before Pentecost.

What do people do?

In many Catholic countries, people attend churches, which are appropriately draped in black, and visit family graves to honor their ancestors. All Souls’ Day is connected with All Saints’ Day, which is observed on the day before, where people take the time to decorate the graves of deceased loved ones and light candles in their memory.

All Souls’ Day in Mexico is a national holiday called Día de los Muertos (Day of the Dead). Many people believe that the spirits of the dead return to enjoy a visit to their friends and relatives on this day. Long before sunrise, people stream into the cemeteries laden with candles, flowers and food that is often shaped and decorated to resemble the symbols of death. Children eat tiny chocolate hearse, sugar funeral wreaths, and candy skulls and coffins. But the atmosphere is festive. In the United States Día de los Muertos is celebrated in areas such as Los Angeles where there is a large Latin American population.

The Day of the Dead is a popular time to see performances of the Ancient Spanish drama, Don Juan Tenorio, about a reckless lover who kills the father of a woman he tried to seduce and then erects the statue of his victim. According to this fictitious play, the statue comes alive and drags Don Juan to hell for account of his crimes.

In Italy Il Giorno dei Morti begins at dawn with a solemn Requiem for the dead. Church bells toll and people decorate the graves of deceased family members with flowers and candles. But this day is not an entirely solemn occasion. In Sicily the children who pray for the souls of the departed leave their shoes outside doors and windows. These shoes are then filled with gifts. In Rome some young people may announce their engagements on All Souls’ Day. The man sends the engagement ring to his fiancé in a small white box. It is then packed in an oval container filled with fave dei morti (beans of the dead), a type of cookie.

... All Souls’ Day is not a nationwide public holiday but is observed in some Christian churches in countries such as Australia, Canada, the United Kingdom and the United States.


All Souls’ Day was first instituted at the monastery in Cluny in 993 CE and quickly spread throughout the Christian world. People held festivals for the dead long before Christianity. It was Saint Odilo, the abbot of Cluny in France, who in the 10th century, proposed that the day after All Saints’ Day be set aside to honor the departed, particularly those whose souls were still in purgatory. Today the souls of the faithful departed are commemorated. Although All Souls’ Day is observed informally by some Protestants, it is primarily a Roman Catholic, Anglican and Orthodox holy day.


The skull, which is the symbol of death, is used for All Souls’ Day in many cultures. For example, candy in form of a sugar skull, which can also made with chocolate, are made for the day. In Sicily, crunchy, clove-scented cookies called "bones of the dead" are made for All Soul's Day...


   Happy Birthday today to   Russ Stephenson ('57) of MD AND   Colin Faison ('58) of VA!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to   John Clark ('57) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

04 -   Mike Jeffers ('61) of VA;

05 -   Patsy Blackard Hallett ('65) of VA AND     My Son of Other Parents, Joe Mansfield (Stanton College Prep School, FL - 2002) of NC AND My Grandson,   Tom Harty of TX;

06 - Marion Timberlake Gitchel ('57)
AND Maria Velma Vidales Scott ('57) AND       Pam Smith Arnold ('65) of VA;

07 -     Pam Larmer Traugott ('62) of VA;

08 - Lawson (Buddy) Sparrow ('53) of VA AND Woody Hudson ('57) AND     Joe Madagan ('57) of FL AND David McCoy ('67) of VA;

09 - Hilton Henderson ('57) of NV and FL AND My Grandson (by My Children of Other Parents),     Jacob Mansfield of NC!

    Many Happy Returns, One and All!


From Day/thisday1102.htm - INCLUDING:

Saturday, Nov. 2, 1861

Gen John C. Fremont, military governor of the Federal operations in the District of Missouri, had only been in the job for 100 days. In that short time he had won few friends, although he had influenced many people, mostly to detest him. The orders relieving him of command had arrived yesterday with Gen. Curtis, but Fremont had hidden in his office in Springfield, Mo. and refused to accept them. Then he gave the excuse that he was too busy fighting Sterling Price to step down, but Price was 60 miles away. Finally today he was prevailed upon to accept that he was being replaced by Gen. David Hunter. Fremont’s supporters (yes, he did have a few!) went so far as to encourage him to move West and found his own nation, but nothing ever came of the idea.

Sunday, Nov. 2, 1862

Captain Raphael Semmes and his ship CSS Alabama had created a reign of terror recently in the North Atlantic. Whaling ship after whaling ship had come under his guns, and one after the other had gone up in flames and headed for the bottom of the sea. This, for whatever happiness it may have engendered in the local whale population, was causing conniption fits in the industries dependent on whale oil and bone, not to mention the insurance companies of New York. Captains began to avoid the seas off Nova Scotia, and Semmes was running out of targets. Like any other hunter Semmes knew the solution: go to where the game is. He shifted today to the seas around Bermuda, and the whaling ship Levi Starbuck was his next conquest.

Monday, Nov. 2, 1863

After all the long months since July 4, the small Pennsylvania town of Gettysburg had struggled to cope with the aftermath of the gigantic battle which had take place for three days there. Over days the horses and mules had been buried, occasionally by those caught scavenging for souvenirs on the battlefield. More slowly had proceeded the burial of the soldiers. Those who died on the field had been buried where they fell, by friend or foe. Those who died later in field hospitals, or the immense Camp Letterman compound east of town, had either been shipped home to their families or buried nearby. Finally the National Cemetery had been designed, and the dead were dug up and moved there. A ceremony of dedication was being planned, with the great orators of the North invited to speak. One other invitation was received today, and Abraham Lincoln, taking no offense at being an afterthought, agreed to say a few words.

Wednesday, Nov. 2, 1864

Not all Confederate sympathizers lived in the Confederate States of America, and even those who did had little difficulty penetrating the rather porous borders of the United States at will. While not all plans and schemes which were rumored to be in the works actually had any existence, some rumors were indeed based on facts. Secretary of State William Seward found one such tale serious enough that he today sent a message to the mayor of New York City. There was, he said, a story making the rounds that Confederate agents had infiltrated the city with a terrorist plot: there would be arson attacks all throughout the town with the serious intention of burning it to the ground. The plan was to be carried out on Election Day, thereby accomplishing a double goal of damaging the greatest commercial city of the North as well as disrupting the crucial vote.

    From Linda May Bond Crayton ('66) of VA - 11/01/11 - "moon":

Hello Carol,

Hope all is well at your end. Not hearing too much on your current daily activities as I would like (feel a part of your family). Halloween was soooo fun this year because it seem everyone got into the "spirit".

As you know my brother goes to a program called PACE, so for this day I made bags for all the people who help him and ride his bus. The dollar store provided the bags in orange, yellow and grape. These I stamped with spooky bats, ghosts and trees and HAPPY HALLOWEEN. Filled with mini journals with their names in "vampire blood," nursery rhyme saying and a flower-pen I made! A little candy and it was good to go. Such fun to do for people again.

OK, for those of us still able to see the moon. Is it me or when I was young I could see the MAN-IN-THE-MOON, now all I see is liver spots! Hey, it's a concern!

Love to all,
Linda May '66

   Hey, Linda May! I've missed hearing from you!

   My daily activities? They're way more jam-packed here than they were in Illinois! Sundays are especially full. We leave home for church at 0830 (or before), get home at 1230 (or after), grab something quick to eat, take a Dr. Who nap (scroll 1/2 way down for definition), then pick up       my sister, Eleanor (Buckley Nowitzky - '59 - of NC) and head over to   the Mansfield's for supper and fun with their growing family.

   On Thursdays or Fridays, I'm apt to be cooking dinner for company (I KNOW! Who'da thunk it?!?), and throughout the week I might baking bread or going out visiting or having surprise company myself (DITTO!) - and crocheting and cross-stitching as always.  I still seem to try to weasel out of leaving home whenever possible, but last week we attended a wedding and put in an appearance, at least, at a Halloween party.

   Thanks, Lady - glad you had great and satisfying fun on Halloween!

  From Ivan Anker ('67) of VA - 11/01/11 - "Missed Opportunity":


You missed the chance of picking two songs for your Halloween edition. They were  "Spooky" and "Monster Mash". Guess we'll have to wait 'til next year.

Ivan '67

   I started to use Monster Mash this year, Ivan, I really did, and would have bet big bucks that I had used it before. Being so far in the hole with the Newsletters, I was in a hurry that day, so rather than checking, I just decided to start recycling the music starting from 2005.  Now that I did check, I see that I never have used Monster Mash - either on the 30th or the 31st (or if I have, I certainly cannot find it now).  I've had Purple People Eater in my file since early October of 2008, but there's no evidence I've ever used it either.  NO! Wait a minute - I DID actually use it - for Halloween of 2004!  I didn't even remember that I was using music very often on the 2004 Newsletters! And according to that Newsletter, the song has been in my files since 10/30/04! Now how can that be?!?

Doc Holliday said in Tombstone (1993), "Well, I suppose I'm deranged."

   Fortunately, I don't bet.....

   I've put your note in my theme line-up for next year.

   Thanks, Ivan!

  From Dale Lucado ('68) of VA - 11/01/11 - "Happy Halloween":

     BOY HOWDY! Thanks, Dale!

      From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 10/31/11 - "LOVELY": - The beauty of pollination

   Lovely? Oh, my, yes - on so many levels! The colors alone are breathtaking! Thank you so much, Shari!

From My Friend, Cheryl, of NC - 11/01/11 - "International Disturbed People's Day":

Today is International Disturbed People's Day. Please send an encouraging message to a disturbed friend... just as I've done.

   I don't care if you lick windows, take the special bus or occasionally pee on yourself..

You hang in there, sunshine, you're friggin' special.

Every sixty seconds you spend angry, upset or mad, is a full
minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Today's Message of the Day is:

Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably,
And never regret anything that made you smile.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance.

   GIGGLES!!! I really like this philosophy of life, Cheryl!  All too often we let minor annoyances rob us of happiness, and life is just too short to empower anything or anyone in that manner! Thanks for the reminder!


From - 11/01/11 - "Food For Thought: Slow Cookers Are Your Friend!":

... Here is a great frugal recipe to try your hand at crockpottery cooking:

London Fog Split Pea Soup
Serves 4-6

2 cups split peas, rinsed and picked over
2 tablespoons olive oil
1 medium onion, chopped
2 medium carrots, diced
1 large celery stalk and tops, chopped
1 teaspoon thyme
10 cups water
1 ham hock or ham bone leftover from Easter (or one smoked turkey leg)
Salt and pepper to taste
Place cleaned split peas in a slow cooker.

In a skillet, heat the oil over medium heat. Sauté onion, carrot and celery for about 3 minutes, then add to slow cooker. Add thyme.

Fill the slow cooker with the water, salt and pepper to taste, and bury the ham hock, ham bone or smoked turkey leg in the peas.

Cook on low heat setting for 8 to 10 hours.

Per serving: 326 Calories; 8g Fat; 20g Protein; 44g Carbohydrate; 18g Dietary Fiber; 18mg Cholesterol; 29mg Sodium. Exchanges: 2 1/2 Grain (Starch); 1 1/2 Lean Meat; 1 Vegetable; 1 Fat.

SERVING SUGGESTIONS: Serve with a big green salad and some whole grain rolls for a satisfying meal.


From - 11/01/11 - "Molina captures another Gold Glove":


November 2, 2011 – St. Louis catcher Yadier Molina has been named a Rawlings Gold Glove Award winner for the 2011 season.

Molina, who committed only five errors in 929 chances for a .995 fielding percentage, was tabbed as the National League Gold Glove catcher for the fourth consecutive season (2008-11).

He is the first Cardinals catcher to have won the award four times, surpassing Mike Matheny and Tom Pagnozzi, who each earned three Gold Gloves.

     Congratulations, Yadi!

From - 10/31/11 - "Today's Problem, Tomorrow's Joke":

Making Today's Problem Tomorrow's Joke: Finding Humor and Peace in Life's Minor Crises

By Richard Carlson

My daughters bought me a rock that says "Today's crisis is tomorrow's joke" engraved on it. I absolutely love it, and it's displayed prominently in my home office. I look at it several times a day to remind me that while it's certainly true that life is chock-full of dramas, it's also true that dramas come and go, and come and go. They always have, and they always will.

Before I go on, please know that when I say "today's crisis is tomorrow's joke," I'm obviously not referring to any of the hundreds of "life-changing" events that can be categorized as a true "crisis." Instead, I'm referring to the virtually unlimited number of relatively minor events that most of us tend to stew about that, in retrospect, really aren't that big a deal.

Have you ever gone to a family or high school reunion and listened to the conversations? It's fun, in part, because the conversations sometimes tie into this bit of wisdom. So many things that used to be seen as "big, giant, huge emergencies" are now the topics of great jokes. They are funny because they are seen with a bit of distance. We may have been furious at someone, for example, for God knows what ... and now it seems so silly and insignificant. So, while we used to get really uptight about it, we now laugh about the very same set of facts.

And I'm not sure about you, but when I think about the way I was behaving just yesterday--running around like a chicken with my head cut off, as if there were not enough time--it seems funny to me now. I see how absurd it was. The trick to getting to the point where life doesn't seem like just one crisis after another is when we can see it as funny, not after the fact, but actually while we're acting a little crazy and taking life a bit too seriously. I've obviously got a way to go, but I'm working on it!

One of my favorite spiritual teachers has a great line. He said, "If you don't have a sense of humor, it just isn't funny." I think that says it all. Without a sense of humor, you're in for a tough ride, no doubt about it. You're going to be super serious. So lighten up, especially regarding taking yourself and others too seriously. Try to see yourself and everyone else not as people who should be trouble-free or perfect, but rather as "characters" on the stage of life. When people act strangely, or when you do, rather than take it personally, try to see the humor in it.

The world is a big, confusing place, and most of us are doing the best we can. It's far easier to develop the perspective that people don't have to be perfect or live up to some made-up set of standards than it is to get all uptight when things don't go according to plan, or when life isn't living up to our expectations.

Lighten up and live a little. It's a heck of a lot more fun and an easier way to live.

Often, though, you might find it difficult to see the humorous side in certain aspects of life--particularly during times when you're feeling harried, frustrated, or angry due to events beyond your control.

One of the most memorable self-help seminars I ever attended was way back when I was a teenager. Since I'm 44 years old now, that was about 30 years ago. One of the main topics the trainer covered was obnoxious drivers.

I'll never forget the conversation because I've rarely been frustrated by bad drivers ever since--particularly those who tailgate and who are aggressive, two of the main components of road rage.

In the seminar, the trainer posed the following question: What would you do if you were being tailgated?

The answers were all over the map, but two that stood out were "I'd put on my taillights so the person behind me would think I was putting on my brakes" and "I'd put on my brakes so that the bad driver behind me would have to slow down."

Both of these answers are terrible ideas in today's world.

As we all know, road rage is a very real thing, and it's very dangerous. The last thing we want to do is make an angry driver even angrier.

Actually, this is one of the simplest strategies I can offer you and one of the easiest ways to get rid of angry drivers who are tailgating you or putting you in danger.

All you have to do is this: simply pull over and let the jerk pass you by. Allow him or her to go and have an accident somewhere else. It's that simple.

You'll be safe, and chances are you'll never see him again. Then let it go, and don't spend another minute thinking about it the rest of the day. Be grateful it's all over.

The best thing to do is to try and remember that while it's true that there are many bad drivers and, in fact, many bad people, it's important to keep it in perspective. I have no idea on the actual percentages, but I'd guess that for every angry, horrible driver on the road, there are probably 50 perfectly courteous and safe ones.

The same applies to people in general. True, there are jerks. But there are so many more nice people.

Try to focus on that instead. When you're driving, notice the thousands and thousands of people who are following the rules and doing the best they can, given the circumstances.

Notice the people who do let others into lanes of traffic or move aside, even when it's not convenient for them.

There will always be road rage, and there will always be jerks. However, there's no rule that says any of that has to bother us one little bit.
So let the jerks--and all of those minor events--pass you by, and you'll have a great day.

About the Author:

Richard Carlson, PhD, is considered one of the world's foremost experts on happiness and stress reduction. His 20 popular books appear in over 100 countries. Dr. Carlson's book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ... and It's All Small Stuff, was the #1 best-selling book in America for two straight years.

The Big Book of Small Stuff, a 10th anniversary compilation of the don't sweat series, and his newest book, Don't Get Scrooged: How to Thrive in a World Full of Obnoxious, Incompetent, Arrogant and Downright Mean-spirited People, will both be published in the fall of 2006. Visit Richard's inspirational and informative website at for more.

Richard lives in California with his wife and two daughters.
This article is one of 101 great articles that were published in 101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life. To get complete details on "101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life", visit


From - 11/01/11:

Wife is the knife which cuts the life but there is no life without a wife. 


1. Thursday, November 3, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, December 14, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 10/22/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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Ein deutsches Requiem (A German Requiem)

- Johannes Brahms, 1865-8
(7 May 1833 - 3 Apr 1897)

III. Herr, lehre doch mich

Herr, lehre doch mich,
daß ein Ende mit mir haben muß.
und mein Leben ein Ziel hat,
und ich davon muß.
Siehe, meine Tage sind
einer Hand breit vor Dir,
und mein Leben ist wie nichts vor Dir.

Ach wie gar nichts sind alle Menschen,
die doch so sicher leben.
Sie gehen daher wie ein Schemen
und machen ihnen viel vergebliche Unruhe;
sie sammeln und wissen nicht,
wer es kriegen wird.
Nun Herr, wes soll ich mich trösten?

Ich hoffe auf Dich.

(Psalm 39, 5-8)

Der Gerechten Seelen sind in Gottes Hand
und keine Qual rühret sie an.

(Weisheit Salomos 3, 1)

III. Lord, make me to know mine end

Lord, make me to know mine end,
and the measure of my days,
what it is:
that I may know how frail I am.
Behold, thou hast made my days
as an handbreadth;
and mine age is as nothing before thee....

Surely every man walketh
in a vain shew:
surely they are disquieted in vain:
he heapeth up riches,
and knoweth not
who shall gather them.
And now, Lord, what wait I for?

my hope is in thee.

(Psalm 39:4-7)

But the souls of the righteous are in the hand of God,
and there shall no torment touch them.

(Wisdom of Solomon 3:1)


The Third Movement of Johannes Brahms' "A German Requiem", "Herr, Lehre Doch Mich",
midi courtesy of ??? - 06/06/02

German Lyrics courtesy of - 01/14/07

English lyrics courtesy of - 01/14/07

Image of William Bouguereau's Painting, "All Souls Day", courtesy of - 11/01/07

Gold Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 11/01/07

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Air Force Seal clip art courtesy of - 07/07/06

Stanton College Prep School's logo courtesy of - 08/01/10

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Animated Silly Bear (designed by AF Artist - Ryan Hagen) courtesy of - 10/04/05

Animated Laughing Smiley courtesy of Janice McCain Rose ('65) of VA - 02/07/05
Thanks, Janice!

Animated Applause clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 08/18/05 (re-saved 02/27/09)
Thanks, Al!

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