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10/05/11 - NNHS Newsletter - Rescue Me

“Humor does not rescue us from unhappiness, but
enables us to move back from it a little. ”

- Mason Cooley
(1927 - 25 July 2002)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates, 

   Today's Newsletter theme was obliquely suggested by       Phil Hammond ('64) of FL (stay tuned...).

   Thanks, Phil!

BONUS #1 - - Rescue Me - Fontella Bass

BONUS #2 - - Rescue Me - Aretha Franklin - with hilarious lip sync by a couple of girls enjoying their holiday

BONUS #3 - - Rescue Me Organization   


"Rescue Me" is a song written by Fontella Bass, Raynard Miner and Carl Smith. In 1965, it was released as a single by Fontella Bass. It would prove the biggest hit of Bass's career, reaching #1 on the R&B charts for four weeks and placing at #4 on the Billboard Hot 100.[1] "Rescue Me" also peaked at number eleven on the UK Singles Chart.

Bass recorded the song in three takes at Chess Studios in Chicago; Minnie Riperton provided background vocals. This most popular of versions is often miscredited to Aretha Franklin; in fact, Bass delivered her fiery vocal on "Rescue Me" three years prior to Franklin's revelatory artistic and commercial breakthrough with "I Never Loved a Man (The Way I Love You)..."


   Happy Birthday today to George Pipkin ('57) AND    Butch Ragland ('63) of CO!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to Nancy McCormick Nicholson ('57) AND   Renee Helterbran Benton ('59) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

07 - Ellen Anas Smith ('57) AND Dale Parsons ('69) of HA;

08 - Tippy Rowe ('57) AND           Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA AND    Richard Cantor ('65) of KY;

09 - Norma Wilson Mitchell ('57) AND    Linda Alfrey Walker ('61) of VA;

11 -   Judy Phillips Allen ('66) of VA AND        Carol Anne Comer Cutler ('70) of VA;

12 - Charlotte Spade Wilkins (Warwick HS - '65) of NC!

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!


   Hit # 109,500 was made on Tuesday, October 04, 2011 at 7:25 PM by       my cousin, Jean Atkinson Mallory (Warsaw HS / Rappahannock HS / John Marshall HS - '65) of VA - who called me on the spot to let me know as it was so unbelievable!

   Congratulations again, Jean!



Saturday, Oct. 5, 1861

Anyone who has read the Washington “Post” and the Washington “Times” on the same day will be aware that newspapers in a nation’s capital can take decidedly different views of the same matter. Such was the situation today for newspaper readers in the capital of the industrialized world. The editorial writer for the London “Post” came out to advocate that his government extend official recognition of the Confederate States of America. On the other end of Fleet Street, the London press district, the good grey London “Times” did not say so right out, but gave a much stronger appearance of backing the cause of the Union.

Sunday, Oct. 5, 1862

Federal Gen. Edward Otho Cresap Ord and his men were patrolling near the Hatchie River in Tennessee, not far from the tiny hamlet of Pocahontas. They were not expecting much in the way of action until, quite without warning, the Confederate troops of Gen. Earl Van Dorn came by. They had been under rather casual pursuit by Rosecrans’ Unionists ever since the battle of Corinth, but Rosecrans was moving slowly enough that Van Dorn wasn’t expecting a battle either. When it arrived, though, both sides proved up to the challenge and fought viciously for awhile. Van Dorn broke it off and pulled his forces back towards Holly Spring, officially ending the Corinth Campaign.

Monday, Oct. 5, 1863

The blockade was strangling the Confederacy, and nowhere worse than Charleston Harbor. Almost any plan or device that promised even a hope of breaking the blockade would be tried, and one of the odder vessels of the War sailed today. Not exactly a submarine, but very low in the water rode the CSS David. She had a 10 foot spar on her bow, to which was attached a 60-pound bomb. Sailing in the evening twilight she headed for the USS New Ironsides, getting very close before being spotted. She rammed, the bomb exploded, and a huge column of water jumped out of the harbor, falling directly back down...on the David, extinguishing her boiler and nearly swamping the boat. The captain and most of the crew, assuming the ship was doomed, leaped overboard and were picked up by Union ships. The engineer, named Tomb, stayed aboard because he could not swim. In all the excitement he got the boiler relit and sailed David back to safety. The New Ironsides was damaged badly enough to have to leave the blockade for repairs.

Wednesday, Oct. 5, 1864

The Army of Tennessee under Maj. Gen. S.G. French was locked in combat with the Federal garrison under Brig. Gen. John M. Corse at the railroad pass at Allatoona, Ga. With about 2000 men on each side, the fighting was so fierce that the casualty rates were appalling: 706 Union and almost 800 Confederates were killed or wounded. Gen. William T. Sherman could see the smoke of the battle from his headquarters on Kennesaw Mountain, 18 miles away. At the end of the day French received a report that a message had come to Corse from Sherman to hold on because a large relief force was coming to hit French in the rear. The report was false but French could not know this, and pulled out. An evangelist, P. P. Bliss, on hearing the story of this battle wrote a hymn, “Hold the Fort, For We Are Coming” which was popular for decades after the war.

      From Phil Hammond ('64) of FL - 10/04/11:

So I do have a gentle side to me.  My daughter, Jennifer, is a Petco surrogate to homeless cats.  This one was found in a refrigerator, two weeks old and must be bottle fed.  She has her own heated blanket!


   AWWW! What an adorable little ball of grey fluff! Your Jennifer is a good woman! Thanks for sharing these images with us, Phil!

    From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 10/04/11:

Hi, Carol:
The drive from Tampa to Hampton was well worth the effort to be able to see so many friends and associates.
Even the hostess greeted me!!!

It was certainly a pleasure to see Coach "Lefty" at Buckroe Beach.

TYPHOON Regards,
Joe Madagan ('57) of FL
Joe Madagan ('57) of FL and
Evelyn Fryer Fish ('58) of TX
Joe Madagan ('57) of FL and
Lefty Driesell (Granby HS - '50) of VA

   WOWZERONI!       Dimples (Dinwiddie Prichard - '58 - of NC) called me the other day and told me that you and    Eva (Ellis Madagan - '61 - of FL) were able to attend Evelyn's Birthday Party for All of Us (as she and I were not).

   I'm so sorry to have missed you - once again! I'm glad you had such a great time! Thanks, Adonis!

    From Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 10/03/11 - "THE 40'S":


These are such good pictures. I enjoyed them for the history.

   OOOH! Thanks, Glenn! I had seen postings of this type from the thirties before, but not from the forties!

From - 10/03/11 - "Angry People":

How To Deal With Angry People: A Survival Guide

By Dr. Tony Fiore

Dealing with angry people in our society is becoming increasingly challenging. Some days, it seems anger surrounds us at home, in the workplace, on the roadways, and at sports events. It is easy to get caught up in an escalating spiral of angry exchanges which usually upsets everyone and does nothing to improve communication or solve the problem at hand.

As an alternative, this survival guide is designed to provide practical tips on how to deal with two types of angry people in your life: (1) explosive people who might be dangerous and (2) people who are chronically angry toward you.


1. Do not respond in kind. Hostility often begets more hostility.
Respond instead with a non-hostile message to defuse people who are behaving in a hostile manner toward you. The classic example of this is in when simple inconsiderate driving or even aggressive driving suddenly escalates into road rage due to two drivers ratcheting up hostility in response to the other's hostile acts, words, or gestures.

Please remember that in these and other hostile situations, you contribute somewhat to the outcome by your decision to return hostility or not.

2. Take their upset seriously and validate their feelings.
Listen to what they have to say and hear them out; ignoring them or minimizing their feelings will tend to escalate their anger further. There have been untold numbers of workplace violence incidents that could have been averted had supervisors or managers listened with empathy to disgruntled employees rather than responding in an insensitive, or uncaring manner.

3. Never argue with someone when they are intoxicated.
When someone is drinking or intoxicated, this is no time to try to solve relationship or other problems (especially if you too have had a few drinks). A high percentage of angry confrontations as well spousal abuse arrests occur when drinking is involved by one or both partners. Drinking often impairs judgment, decreases inhibitions (resulting in saying things we don't mean), and distorts your normally astute reasoning ability.

4. Respond to the feelings they are having - not the content of what they are saying.
Try to hear and respond to the underlying hurt or pain the person is experiencing underneath the angry words. Use statements such as "I can appreciate why you feel that way," "It sounds like you are very angry right now," "Many people feel the way you do."

5. On roadway, don't make eye contact with an aggressive driver.
This is the secret signal in the animal world to engage in combat and will frequently escalate things, sometimes into "road rage." Just ignore aggressive drivers and stay out of their way.

6. Allow angry people to physically escape the situation.
Don't block their way or prevent egress, or you may be putting yourself in a dangerous situation. Take off the heat rather than increasing the pressure! Don't insist on solving the problem "now" when the other person is in an agitated state.

7. Don't defend yourself by attacking back at them or their character flaws.
Defensiveness often escalates anger in the other person and, in fact, is one of the predictors of divorce, according to recent marital research. There is a time to present your side, but not when your partner is unable to hear it due to his or her anger.

8. Don't try to solve an emotional issue with logical arguments.
Trying to diffuse an angry person with overwhelming evidence of their thinking errors or mistakes in logic, or facts to the contrary, or reasons for why they shouldn't feel the way they do, or why they should feel differently - usually makes the situation worse.


1. Consider changing your behavior that triggers their anger.
Sometimes the most practical thing to do is to change whatever it is that triggers anger in people close to you. Not that you should go overboard on this, but simple changes can do a lot, especially if they don't lower your self-esteem or don't "cost" you a lot to change.

2. Think about terminating the relationship.
Truth is, some relationships we get involved in are so "toxic" that it is self-abusive to continue in them or to try and repair them. At times, you need to protect yourself from people in your life who create an atmosphere that is not good for your well-being.

3. Limit your time spent with them.
If terminating the relationship is too drastic of a step, consider simply limiting the time you spend with toxic people in your life. Decide you can put up with the person several times a year at the family Christmas party, for instance, or that you will be tolerant toward your angry ex-spouse once a week for the sake of your children.

4. Ask them directly why they are often appear angry toward you.
A straight line is the shortest distance between two points. Sometimes the quickest way to find out why someone appears constantly angry with you is to simply ask them. They may not even realize they were communicating angrily toward you, so your inquiry may open up a great opportunity for dialogue.

5. Communicate clearly how their negativity affects you.
Honestly letting people know how their behavior is affecting you emotionally is often an "eye-opener" to the other person. Start with "I feel" statements rather than "you" or "you should" statements.

6. Adjust your expectations of them.
People may be chronically angry toward you because you communicate that they are disappointing you in some way and they are perceiving you as overly critical. Adjusting those expectations you have toward others may result in their being less angry toward you!

7. Stop trying to solve unsolvable problems in a relationship.
According to some marital researchers, up to 60% of issues in a relationship are unsolvable due to the couple's being "gridlocked" around it. Trying to solve unsolvable problems creates much anger. Instead, find a way to dialogue about the issues and live with each other around them, rather than trying to fix them.

8. Suggest ways to remedy anger, if the other person acknowledges he or she has an anger problem.
If the angry person in your life is open to it, suggest an evaluation by a psychologist or physician to determine what the problem is. There are many underlying problems such as Depression, Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), Bipolar Disorder, and other conditions which can lead to anger problems. Often, anger management classes are recommended in addition to treatment of an underlying problem.

About the Author:

Dr. Tony Fiore is a licensed psychologist, marital therapist and anger management trainer. His company, The Anger Coach, offer classes, programs, and products to individuals and couples, including an innovative online anger management program. Dr. Fiore can be reached at 714-771-0378 or visit his website at

    From Joan Lauterbach Krause ('60) of VA - 09/19/11 - "Wild shoes!!! (#11 in a Series of 19)":
  Which pair are you going to get??

Wild shoes!!! By Kobi Levi, Israeli shoe designer

   I love these - such fun! Thanks, Joan! Ummm, no thanks, these boots could take me to new levels of dorkarosity, and I'm quite capable of achieving that on my own, so I'll pass on this pair also!



From - 10/04/11:

A young man was walking through a supermarket to pick up a few things when he noticed an old lady following him around. Thinking nothing of it, he ignored her and continued on. Finally he went to the checkout line, but she got in front of him.

"Pardon me," she said, "I'm sorry if my staring at you has made you feel uncomfortable. It's just that you look just like my son, who just died recently."

"I'm very sorry," replied the young man, "is there anything I can do for you?"

"Yes," she said, "As I'm leaving, can you say 'Good bye, Mother'? It would make me feel so much better."

"Sure," answered the young man.

As the old woman was leaving, he called out, "Goodbye, Mother!"

As he stepped up to the checkout counter, he saw that his total was $127.50.

"How can that be?" He asked, "I only purchased a few things!"

"Your mother said that you would pay for her," said the clerk.


1. Thursday, October 6, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, October 12, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Wednesday and Thursday, October 19 and 20, 2011 - The Class of 1956 will hold its 55-Year Reunion. Contact Judy Leggett Elliott at or 757-868-1111. - CLASS OF 1956

4. Saturday, January 7, 2012 - 11:00 AM - The NNHS Breakfast Bunch will host a Breakfast Bunch Brunch at the Warwick Restaurant, 12306 Warwick Boulevard, (across from CNU) Newport News, Virginia 23606. "Please come join them for a Dutch Treat Brunch featuring a lot of 'War Stories' and maybe a lie or two. Everyone is welcome so bring your wife, husband, boy friend, girl friend, class mate, school friend or whomever you choose." Please RSVP to Bill Roady at or call him at 757-595-0716 so they have a head count.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 09/02/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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 Rescue Me

Written by Fontella Bass (b. 03 June 1940), Raynard Miner and Carl Smith (15 Mar 1927 – 16 Jan 2010), 1965

Also recorded by Aretha Franklin (b. 25 Mar 1942)

Rescue me
Oh take me in your arms
Rescue me
I want your tender charms
'Coz I'm lonely and I'm blue
I need you and your love too

Come on and rescue me
Come on baby and rescue me
Come on baby and rescue me
'Coz I need you, by my side
Can't you see that I'm lonely
Rescue me

Come on and take my heart
Take your love and conquer every part
'Coz I'm lonely and I'm blue
I need you and your love too

Come on and rescue me
Come on baby and rescue me
Come on baby and rescue me
'Coz I need you by my side
Can't you see that I'm lonely

Rescue me
Oh take me in your arms
Rescue me
I want your tender charms
'Coz I'm lonely and I'm blue
I need you and your love too
Come on and rescue me
Come on baby, take me baby, hold me baby, love me baby
Can't you see that I need you baby
Can't you see that I'm lonely
Rescue me

Come on and take my hand
Come on baby and be my man
Cuz I love you cuz I want you
Can't you see that I'm lonely?
take me baby
love me baby
need me baby
Can't you see that I'm lonely?

rescue me, rescue me.......

 "Rescue Me" midi courtesy of - 10/05/11

 "Rescue Me" lyrics courtesy of - 10/05/11

Rescue Cat title clip art courtesy of - 10/05/11

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Kitty Cats Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 10/05/11

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Animated Red Flames courtesy of - 05/19/08

Page Hit Counter clip art courtesy of - 03/07/06

John Marshall High School's Justice Scale clip art courtesy of Cheryl White Wilson (JMHS - '64) of VA - 10/13/05 (replaced 02/23/09)
Thanks, Cheryl!

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