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07/22/11 - NNHS Newsletter
Pack Up Your Troubles in Your Old Kit Bag

“Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love,
a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”

- Mother Teresa
(26 Aug 1910 - 05 Sept 1997)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

                  My mama (the late Maxine Frix Buckley - John Marshall HS - '25) (19 May 1908 - 15 Feb 1999) learned all these WWI songs when she herself was a little girl, so it was only natural that she used to sing them to       my sister (Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky - '59 - of NC) and me as lullabies when we were little girls.  This one she sang at other times as well to teach us a valuable lesson about bearing our burdens gracefully.  It still comes to my mind whenever I need to refresh that thought.

BONUS #1 - Up Your Troubles 

BONUS #2 - - Pack Up Your Troubles - Judy Garland in For Me and My Gal (1942)

BONUS #3 - Pack Up Your Troubles - Spike Jones, 1942

BONUS #4 - Pack Up Your Troubles - The Andrews Sisters and Dick Haymes


"Pack Up Your Troubles in Your Old Kit-Bag, and Smile, Smile, Smile" is the full name of a World War I marching song, published in 1915 in London. It was written by George Henry Powell under the pseudonym of "George Asaf", and set to music by his brother Felix Powell.[1] A play presented by the National Theatre recounts how these music hall stars rescued the song from their rejects pile and re-scored it to win a wartime competition for a marching song.[2] It became very popular, boosting British morale despite the horrors of that war. It was one of a large number of music hall songs aimed at maintaining morale, recruiting for the forces, or defending Britain's war aims


    From the Head Flagtwirler of 1965, Janice McCain Rose of Northern VA - 07/21/11, 6:09 PM - "I've won a contest from WJLA-TV":

I was just notified that I have won an audition for Washington's WHO WANTS TO BE A MILLIONAIRE.  I will have my audition on Monday, July 25th at the Marriott Inn & Conference Center at the University of Maryland.

   WOWZERONI-RINI-ROONI! That's fabulous, Janice! Congratulations and Best Wishes! Keep us posted!


   Happy Birthday today to Harlan Hamby ('57) AND Alan Jecmenek of TX!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to The Lucado Twins,   Gail and   Dale ('68) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

22 - Jerry Saunders ('57) AND     Bryce Bartel ( Brighton High , UT - '04) of UT;

23 - Newell Blayton ('57) AND Bettie Bracey Gosner ('57);

25 - Janey Roane Harper ('57);

26 -       My Sister, Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky ('59) of NC AND     Bill Roady ('60) of VA;

27 - Harry Horace (Crystal River HS, FL - '65) of FL AND My Granddaughter (by My Children of Other Parents),     Katelyn Mansfield of NC!

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!



Sunday, July 21, 1861

This was it. The battle that would settle, and thereby end, the Civil War. Near the little town of Manassas, Virginia, where the creek called Bull Run flowed, Gen. Irwin McDowell marched through the night to attack the Confederate left, hoping to roll up the flank. They bounced off Thomas J Jackson instead, who got the nickname “Stonewall” this day from Bernard Bee, who was soon shot dead. This afternoon the Confederate attack on the Union left had better success and amateur soldiers began to retreat through sightseers who had come out from Washington to view the spectacle.

Tuesday, July 21, 1863

Since the end of the battle of Gettysburg, Robert E. Lee’s major interest had been getting his battered army into the safety of Virginia behind the shelter of the Blue Ridge Mountains. They were now there but McClellan was close by. Only the furious fighting of the cavalry in the numerous mountain passes kept him at bay. Lee began to be concerned that the Union army would soon be between him and Richmond.



Monday, July 22, 1861

Bad enough to lose a big battle; worse yet to lose one in front of many witnesses just outside your nation’s capital. Gen. Irwin McDowell’s career as head of the Union armies was over, despite the fact that the loss was due more to untrained troops than bad planning. Gen. George McClellan’s mastery of the art of self-promotion was about to pay off with a major career move.

Tuesday, July 22, 1862

Abraham Lincoln surprised his Cabinet today with the first draft of his proposed Emancipation Proclamation. He had written it himself without consulting anyone, much less speechwriters. Details included a renewal of his offer of compensation to Union states which adopted emancipation, and set the date of Jan. 1 1863 for “freedom” for slaves in states in rebellion. Upon urgent request of Secretary of State Stewart it was decided to delay the announcement until after a major military victory. This would be a long postponement.

Wednesday, July 22, 1863

Gen. George Meade had been under tremendous pressure since the end of Gettysburg. From Lincoln on down, everyone wanted to know WHEN Meade would be getting around to destroying the Army of Northern Virginia? As Meade and Lee paralleled each other south with only the Blue Ridge between them, the pressure increased again. Today he sent Gen. William French towards Manassas Gap. The plan was to punch through, cut Lee’s spread-out forces in two, and defeat one or both halves.


      From Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA - 07/07/11 - "Gerber Baby Photo Contest -   April Ann Stokes" AND    From Cheryl Mays Howard ('66) of VA - 07/09/11 - "Gerber Baby Photo Contest -  Greyson":

   Here's the deal, Chickadees: we'll carry both babies' links here through the end of the month:

Gerber Baby Photo Contest

  From Domi O'Brien ('64) of NH - 07/21/11 - "Banning the Flag?":

If you'd checked Snopes, you would know that there is no proposal to ban the flag in schools. The inflammatory Fox news poll has been running for over a year, but there was no proposal to ban the flag in schools in the first place. The poll is obviously meant to build traffic to the Fox News site. (That appears to be working). Fox, Newsmax, and a number of other sites do this to raise visibility.

As an SEIU member (though I have retired, I still maintain my union membership; it costs me $6 a year as a retiree, and continues to get me my newsletters and my union discounts), I hadn't heard of this one; no e-mails or tweets for SEIU asking me to go to this poll. I get at least 3 e-mails a week from the union. Since union members are disproportionately veterans compared to the overall US population, it would be unlikely that they would be interested in banning the flag. Police officers and firefighters and corrections officers are among the occupations most likely to be union members. Most of them wear US flags on their uniforms.

I serve on my union's (SEIU Local 1984) Political Education Committee, which consists of a mix of Democrats, Republicans, Independents, and Libertarians. The co-chair of the committee is a Hispanic immigrant who served for 22 years in the US Navy and has now worked for the state of NH for 12 years. She's proud to be a US citizen. Union political action runs on voluntary contributions of union members to union PACs; dues money can't be used. All union finances are Federally audited.

Logically, It would be unlikely that most Hispanic students in the US would be offended by the US flag. Most Hispanics in the US are US citizens, many of them from families who were already here when the United States acquired the South West. That was long before my Irish and French ancestors came to the US. We're all old enough to remember the waves of Cuban immigrants. Some of them are our classmates. PR is Hispanic, and is owned by the US; people born there are US citizens. Hispanics in this country are disproportionately likely to be veterans, too, either to serve what is already their country, or the country they have chosen (service in the US military fast-tracks citizenship applications for immigrants. Both George W Bush and Barack Obama have frequently attended naturalization ceremonies on US military bases. It's one of the nicer, and least-controversial, things a President can do-- welcoming new citizens serving their new country.)

(Colleen Ann Domitilla O'Brien, NNHS '64)
   AHA! Not only did Snopes reveal the truth, but as well:


   This is not the first time I've been bamboozled by a Fox News story, Domi. I keep forgetting that they don't seem to be bound by the same regulations for veracity as I would expect them to be.....

   Thanks for the clarification!

There are several fact check sites. 

It's not just Fox, though they seem to be the worst; even the New York Times, Christian Science Monitor, etc. occasionally get bamboozled...

   Well, there was one great truth in the original item, Domi! Such a poll was indeed posted on the Fox News website!

  From Domi O'Brien ('64) of NH - 07/21/11 - "How old is Grandma?"

Grandma knew that a woman didn't need to have a husband to have a baby. When a teen girl or young woman suddenly vanished from town for months and went to visit Grandma, there was a reason, all through history. 30% of the births in the Massachusetts Bay Colony in the 20 years prior to the revolution were to unmarried women. (And 2/3 of married women had their first child within 5 months of the wedding). 1957 was the peak year in the US for teen births. (American girls are less than half as likely to be pregnant before age 20 today as they were in the 1950's or 60's, and less than one-third as likely to be pregnant before turning 18). What is different today is that pregnancies are unlikely to be hidden, and unwed mothers giving birth are mainly in their late 20's or 30's and choosing to keep their children.

Draft-dodging was rampant during the Civil War, WWI, and WWII. Men who came of age during VietNam were only about one-half as likely to serve in the military as men who came of age in WWII, but that was because fewer troops were needed. Only a quarter of those who served in VietNam were draftees; the rest enlisted. For WWII, 60% were draftees; only 40% enlisted. When the draft for WWII started, only men 21 and over were drafted. Men were so successful at dodging the WWII draft that the age had to be lowered to 18 to get enough troops. (See the book Stolen Valor, or the book, The Draft).

Technology changes constantly. Human nature doesn't seem to much.
Domi O'Brien
NNHS '64

   You're right there, Domi, thanks again! I think (though I may be wrong) that we were all taught in our youth that the standards of the Victorian Age were always and ever a part of our culture. This method includes a built-in guilt factor: "Back then people didn't do things like that!" - the implication that we are uniquely wicked and should be ashamed of ourselves for even entertaining such willful thoughts.

   Later as we read history (outside of the regulation curriculum) we found to our great surprise that that was not the case at all. People have always been people, with the same flaws and foibles as we ourselves possess.

      From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 07/19/11 - "peaceful music and pictures just for you":

Emperor Penguins

   AWWW! Thanks, Dools!

  From Judy Phillips Allen ('66) of VA - 07/21/11 - "The Humming Bird":

The Humming Bird

This was sent to be by a friend....amazing indeed to learn more about another one of God's creatures.

   WOWZERONI! This is fascinating! Thanks so much, Dearest Judy!

      From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 07/20/11 - "The Longest Password........":

During a recent password audit by Microsoft & Google, it was found that one person was using the following password:


When asked why she had such a long password, she rolled her eyes and said:
"Hello!  It has to be at least 8 characters
long and include at least one capital."

       Thanks again, Dools!

   From Eva Ellis Madagan ('61) of FL - 07/20/11 - "tgi Wed the 20th humor":


      BOY HOWDY! Thanks, Eva!

From - 07/20/11 - "Nonverbal Cues":

5 Nonverbal Tips To Influence, Inspire and Build Lasting Rapport

By Sharon Sayler

Have you ever heard things like, "She's nice, but not leadership material," He's just not confident enough for the job," but you know you are confident and leadership material? I know how frustrating that can be -- to be judged before they even know you, maybe even before you've even opened your mouth! Attendees of my trainings tell me those and similar sad phrases that keep them from getting ahead all the time.

Why does that happen?
Because people make snap judgments about you, your skills and even your intelligence all based on a quick glance of your body language. I know, most people don't like to admit it, but we all judge others from the first moment we see them even before they say hello. Here are 5 quick tips to use proactively to "cast-off " those faulty snap judgments others might be making about you:

Tip 1: Breathe Deep.
Breathing low and comfortably is one of the keys to looking intelligent and for building trust and safety nonverbally. Nerves (or habit) can make us breathe rapidly. Breathing high in the chest and rapid is a very common habit -- the problem is the first impression you give is one of anger or panic. Do you ever hear, "Why are you angry?" or "Are you okay?" and you don't know why? Look first at how you are breathing.
Eons ago, when our ancestors were breathing high and rapid, it was a nonverbal signal to the tribe of danger triggering the observer's fight or flight response. Today, we are rarely in mortal danger, yet high rapid breathing still unconsciously hi-jacks our brain with the fight or flight response. It also makes the voice sound high pitched and squeaky, and worse yet, deprives needed oxygen to your brain. Trust me, nobody thinks or communicates clearly when their brain needs more oxygen. Practice breathing slowly, deeply and naturally in all situations is the number one nonverbal tip to show confidence and inspire others to be confident as well. This is often easier said than done at first. It is often a reactive response instead of a proactive approach, but with a little practice it soon becomes natural once again.

Tip 2: Posture Perfect.
Your posture is a good indicator of how you are feeling, including your confidence. Others "read" slouching shoulders as a sign of low confidence. Good old mom was right; your posture can determine what others think about you. A client, we will call him Peter, recently was commenting on how much harder it was to make a sale and how he was feeling beaten down. He was blaming the economy, tight money, anything he could think of except taking a look at his nonverbal communication. He was shuffling around with his shoulders drooping forward, his eyes cast downward, and all of his nonverbals said "beaten down". Who wants to hang out with, much less buy from, someone that looks beaten down? Stand up straight just like mom told you; you will be amazed at how quickly the world starts looking different from the change of view good posture gives.

Tip 3: Master the Silent Pause.
The silent pause expresses confidence and trustworthiness. The silent pause adds a strong emphasis to what was just said. Be sure and use a silent pause when you are finished with your most important point. "Uhms", "ahs" and even "you know" are all forms of verbal pauses. They are distracting -- the listener sees you searching for words, which often has the effect of making you look less intelligent -- certainly not the message most of us want to send. Your message will be more effective once you master the silent pause. To add extra emphasis to a silent pause add a hand gesture that remains frozen in place during the full length of the silent pause. Only move the hand gesture when the next words come out of your mouth. The "frozen" gesture says, "Wait, there's more."

Tip 4: Actively Listen.
Many people say they are great listeners, yet few really are. It takes conscious effort to maintain good listening. We can start out with good intentions, yet it is easy to get distracted in today's busy world.
Active listening really is a sign of respect; remember, with active listening it's not about you. Active listening shows you care about the speaker. It is used to confirm to the other person that you are paying attention and gives you important information of not only what the listener wants, but how they are feeling too. Pay attention for consistent themes and the accompanying emotional tone.

Nonverbally, active listening is demonstrated through nodding and eye contact. Verbally, to show you are listening, employ a slight "uh" or "ah" and the use of paraphrase or summary. The purpose of paraphrase is to communicate that you do or are trying to understand what is being said. Paraphrase untangles unclear messages, avoids misinterpretation and can get more information to check out any assumptions. Paraphrase is your chance to pull together, organize, and integrate the major points. Include their words as often as possible as you make statements of the key ideas and possible feelings. Do not assume or add new ideas. Use clarifying phrases such as, "Those are good points. May I take a minute to go over them with you and make sure I have everything correct?" or "I'm curious...", "I'm wondering...", "Let me see if...". Avoid "I'm confused..." as it can leave the speaker subconsciously feeling deficient.

Tip 5: Listen to Yourself.
People are most comfortable hearing a voice that is similar to their own; work to match the other person's tonality and pitch (low to high), speed (how quickly you speak), and volume (loud or soft). Does your audience use a connection or credible voice pattern? The connection voice pattern has a friendly "sing-songy" tone and almost sounds as if they are ending their statement with a question mark. The credible voice pattern is flat and usually drops a note or two at the end, often leaving the impression that the speaker has placed an invisible period at the end of the phrase. Work to match your audience voice patterns including tone, pitch, speed and volume. Now, this is not mimicry -- do not try to match accents. It is about creating a connection. Just think of the last time you heard someone speak a foreign language and remember how much easier it is to hear a voice pattern you are familiar with.

These five nonverbal tips inspire, influence, enhance trust, build rapport and develop positive lasting business relationships all without saying a word. Understanding your nonverbal communication combined with the desire to be interested in your audience is the real key to lasting rapport and relationships.

About the Author:

Sharon Sayler, MBA, is author of What Your Body Says (and how to master the message): Inspire, Influence, Build Trust, and Create Lasting Business Relationships (Wiley, 2010, ISBN: 978-0-470-59916-7, $22.95). As a certified group dynamics and behavioral coach Sharon trains, counsels, and coaches professionals on how to become stronger, more influential communicators and leaders. She teaches people how to communicate with confidence and clarity with simple yet powerful, easy-to-learn ways they can gain the strategic advantage in important situations such as job interviews, negotiations, team meetings -- anywhere the outcome is critical. Sharon is the Official Guide to Business Coach and Business Coaching for and is host of BlogTalkRadio's Beyond Lip Service.


From - 07/21/11:

A man placed an ad in the classifieds: "Wife wanted."

The next day he received a hundred letters.

They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."

1. Thursday, August 4, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, August 10, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Friday and Saturday, August 19 and 20, 2011 - The Class of 1966 will hold its 45-Year Reunion at RJ's Restaurant and Pun AND the Warwick Yacht Club, Newport News.  DETAILS:; CONTACT: Dee Hodges Bartram at - OPEN REUNION!

4. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, August 26, 27, and 28, 2011 - The Class of 1961 will hold its 50-Year Reunion. - For details, see: and contact Gary Fitzgerald at or 757-879-2847 - CLASS OF 1961

5. Saturday, August 27, 2011, NOON - Mike O'Neil's Irish Pub, Warwick Shopping Center - Reunion Luncheon for the 97th Rifle Company, USMC

size="2" id="role_document90314871"> 6. Saturday, September 17, 2011 - Evelyn's Birthday Party for Everyone - Canepa Cottage, Buckroe Beach - 2:00 PM. For details, contact Evelyn Fryer Fish ('58) of TX at - OPEN TO EVERYBODY!

7. Wednesday and Thursday, October 19 and 20, 2011 - The Class of 1956 will hold its 55-Year Reunion. Contact Judy Leggett Elliott at or 757-868-1111. - CLASS OF 1956

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Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





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Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309



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Pack Up Your Troubles in Your Old Kit-Bag

Lyrics by George Henry Powell (27 Apr 1880 - 03 Dec 1951), 1915

Music by Felix Powell (23 May 1878 – 10 Feb 1942)

Private Perks is a funny little codger
With a smile a funny smile.
Five feet none, he’s and artful little dodger
With a smile a funny smile.
Flush or broke he’ll have his little joke,
He can’t be suppress’d.
All the other fellows have to grin
When he gets this off his chest, Hi!

CHORUS: [sung twice after each verse]
Pack up your troubles in your old kit-bag,
And smile, smile, smile,
While you’ve a lucifer to light your fag,
Smile, boys, that’s the style.
What’s the use of worrying?
It never was worth while, so
Pack up your troubles in your old kit-bag,
And smile, smile, smile.

Private Perks went a-marching into Flanders
With his smile his funny smile.
He was lov’d by the privates and commanders
For his smile his funny smile.
When a throng of Bosches came along
With a mighty swing,
Perks yell’d out, “This little bunch is mine!
Keep your heads down, boys and sing, Hi!

Private Perks he came back from Bosche-shooting
With his smile his funny smile.
Round his home he then set about recruiting
With his smile his funny smile.
He told all his pals, the short, the tall,
What a time he’d had;
And as each enlisted like a man
Private Perks said ‘Now my lad,’ Hi!

"Pack Up Your Troubles in Your Old Kit Bag" midi courtesy of - 07/21/11

"Pack Up Your Troubles in Your Old Kit Bag" lyrics courtesy of  - 07/20/11

"Smile" Image courtesy of - 07/21/11

John Marshall High School's Justice Scale clip art courtesy of Cheryl White Wilson (JMHS - '64) of VA - 10/13/05 (replaced 02/23/09)
Thanks, Cheryl!

Animated Smile Row Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 11/13/06

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Brighton High School (UT) Logo courtesy of - 08/02/07

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated Laughing Kitten courtesy of Joyce Lawrence Cahoon of VA - 07/29/08
Thanks, Joyce!

Animated Laughing Kitty courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 10/08/07
Thanks, Al!

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