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07/12/11 - NNHS Newsletter - I'm Sorry

“When you realize you've made a mistake, make amends immediately.
It's easier to eat crow while it's still warm.”

- Dan Heist

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   I was rather astonished that we'd not used this golden oldie from 1960 before!  The song, though, seemed a natural to use today, seeing that I'm running sooo far behind: 

BONUS #1 - - I'm Sorry - Brenda Lee

BONUS #2 - - I'm Sorry - Brenda Lee - poor sound quality, but fun vintage video

BONUS #3 - - I'm Sorry - Brenda Lee - better audio, but with stills


"I'm Sorry" is a 1960 hit song for then-15-year-old American country pop singer Brenda Lee. It peaked at number one on the Billboard Hot 100 singles chart in July 1960. Allmusic guide wrote that it is the pop star's "definitive song", and one of the "finest teen pop songs of its era". It was written by Dub Albritton and Ronnie Self.[1] On the UK Singles Chart, the song peaked at number twelve.

According to the Billboard Book of Number One Hits by Fred Bronson, Brenda Lee recorded the song early in 1960 but her label, Decca Records, held it from release for several months out of concern that a 15-year-old girl was not mature enough to sing about unrequited love. When the song finally was released, it was considered to be the flip side of the more uptempo "That's All You Gotta Do." Although "That's All You Gotta Do" was a chart success in its own right, reaching number six on the Hot 100, it was "I'm Sorry" that became the smash hit and the standard.[2] On other charts, "I'm Sorry" peaked at number four on the R&B chart and "That's All You Gotta Do" peaked at number nineteen on the R&B charts.[3]

Although it was never released to country radio as a single, "I'm Sorry" would in time become accepted by country fans as a standard of the genre. The song — a fixture on many "country oldies" programs — was an early example of the then-new "Nashville Sound," a style which emphasized a stringed-instrumental sound and background vocals.[citation needed]

Ben Vaughn referenced it in his song "I'm Sorry (But So Is Brenda Lee)".


   Happy Birthday tomorrow to James Stidham ('57)!

    Happy Birthday this week to:

15 -   Robert Fulcher ('64) of VA;

17 - Marilyn Payne Springfield ('66) of VA AND        My Oldest Granddaughter, Elizabeth Harty (Collinsville HS, IL - '12) of IL;

18 - Bill Queensberry ('57) AND Mary Ellen Brewer ('57);

19 - Dale Chestnut (Nakina HS, NC - '54) of VA AND Mannie Smith ('57) AND    Sylvia Midgett Mullins Brown ('70) of VA;

20 - Harlan Hamby ('57) AND Alan Jecmenek of TX!

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!


   Hit # 107,000 was made on Tuesday, July 12, 2011 at 2:54 PM by an unknown user.



Thursday, July 11, 1861

It was in the hilly country of Western (but not yet West) Virginia that the major action occurred today. Some 2000 Federal troops, technically McClellan’s but in fact under command of Maj. Gen. William Rosecrans pulled a most unusual sneak attack on Confederate Lieut. Col. John Pegram’s men on Rich Mountain. The area was a hotbed of Union sympathizers, so it is not surprising that Rosecrans was guided to a semi-secret mountain path. This enabled him to catch Pegram’s left completely by surprise. The effects were two: after fighting a couple more days Pegram and 550 fellow Southerners were compelled to surrender, and the way for a Federal march to Beverly, VA, now stood wide open.

Friday, July 11, 1862

One of the problems on both sides in the War Between the States was finding competent commanding generals. It was hard enough to find those who knew how to fight, but even more difficult to find those who could administrate the overall effort. Both Lincoln and Davis had a tendency to try to do this job themselves, but one improvement at least on the Union side occurred today. Gen. Henry Halleck was appointed to the office of General-in-Chief of all United States land forces. Halleck’s nickname was “Old Brains”, in honor of the fact that he was known to be quite intelligent. He was also famous for being fussy, jealous and a procrastinator, as well as a perfectly dreadful field commander. Fortunately he was a top-rate administrator and contributed immeasurably to the Union war effort.

Saturday, July 11, 1863

Gen. George Meade had not done badly for a man on the job less than two weeks. Named commander of the Army of the Potomac, he had in one week maneuvered a huge force to Gettysburg and slugged it out with Robert E. Lee and won. The cost, however, had been stupendous, and when Lee began to withdraw, Meade essentially let him go, an action for which he is still sometimes criticized to this day. The criticism certainly started early: Lincoln was having a conniption fit, wanting Meade to pin Lee against the flooded Potomac River and destroy him. What everyone seemed to forget was that the same project had been tried the year before, after the Battle of Antietam, and the pursuing Union troops had been soundly defeated. Today, with the Army of the Potomac back in some semblance of working order, Meade began to move in pursuit.

Monday, July 11, 1864

Jubal Early’s Confederate forces did what no other Southern men accomplished during the entire War: he invaded at least the suburbs of Washington D.C. Silver Spring, MD, suffered the brunt of the attack, with particular attention to what might seem like an unusual military target, the home of the Postmaster General. Nearly forgotten today, Montgomery Blair was an immensely powerful man in the Washington of those times. Both in his own right and through several sons, sons-in-law and nephews he had fingers in a great number of pies, even to St. Louis Mo. Defending the city was Gen. Lew Wallace, better known today as the author of the novel “Ben-Hur”. He was not doing well with his cobbled-together army of cripples and new recruits, and was anxiously awaiting the arrival of the Sixth Corps regulars from City Point, Va.



Friday, July 12, 1861

The Battle of Rich Mountain was not one of the shining moments for the Army of the Confederate States of America. Western Virginia should have been secure, but communities of pro-Unionists assured that this was not to be. Gen. Robert Selden Garnett--not to be confused with his better-known West Point classmate and cousin Richard Brooke Garnett--was one of the few who managed to escape with his dignity, his freedom and most of his men. They came down off the mountain into the valley of the Cheat River.

Saturday, July 12, 1862

Several things were different in New Orleans this year. For one, the town was under military occupation, with the commander of these forces, Gen. Benjamin Butler, being reviled as a tyrant, dis-respecter of women, and general spawn of Satan. For another, though, there was something absent from the town: the usual summertime epidemic of yellow fever. As it happened, Butler had ordered great improvements in public sanitation. In addition, he had, as a make-work project for the unemployed, required that ruts and holes in streets be filled in with dirt and sand. This removed so many puddles that the mosquitoes were unable to breed in their accustomed numbers, thereby reducing the disease rate immensely. As it was not known at this time that the insects were responsible for the sickness, Butler got no credit from anyone for the improvement.

Sunday, July 12, 1863

It had been eight days since the Army of Northern Virginia had begun to pull back from the fields around Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, but they were not yet back to the relative safety of their namesake state. The problem was the Potomac River. The days and weeks of frequent rains that had often plagued both armies during the campaign had driven the river to levels almost never seen in mid-July. Hopes were high on both sides: Lee hoping that the water would have fallen enough to allow a crossing tomorrow, and Lincoln, desperately pushing Meade to attack soon enough to prevent this, possibly bringing an end to war in the East. One of them would be doomed to disappointment.

Tuesday, July 12, 1864

Gen. Jubal Early, CSA, had accomplished what no other Confederate had pulled off during the entire war: attacking the enemy capital. After skirmishing in the suburbs of Silver Spring with the hastily thrown together defensive forces of Gen. Lew Wallace, Early had hoped to assault the seat of Federal power in the center of the city. After examining the area of Ft. Stevens and finding it inhabited by regulars of the Sixth Corps he changed his mind. Joining the regulars to view the situation was Abraham Lincoln. A young Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr., was alarmed when bullets began to hit nearby. “Get down, you damn fool!” he shouted at his commander-in-chief. Lincoln obediently took cover.

   Here's the deal, Chickadees: we'll carry both babies' links here through the end of the month:

Gerber Baby Photo Contest

   Thanks, Wayne Honey - and Cheryl!

      From Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA - 07/07/11 - "Gerber Baby Photo Contest -   April Ann Stokes" AND    From Cheryl Mays Howard ('66) of VA - 07/09/11 - "Gerber Baby Photo Contest -  Greyson":

   From Fred Field (June '45) of CA - 07/10/11 - "Virginia Gall":

Hello Carol,        Sunday, July 10, 2011
Back in March   Jamey (Douglas) Bacon ('66 - of VA) had a brief input to the newsletter (3-4-11), briefly describing Virginia Gall, a nice lady who delivers Meals On Wheels to her on Wednesdays, and who is also a NNHS grad..
I recognized the name and sent you a note for you to forward to Jamey.  Subsequently some warm communication was begun, and which slowly evolved into a nostalgic summary.  We finally put it together together as a joint statement to send to you. - see Attachment 1.
Attachment 2 is the page from the 1948 yearbook which shows a good PDF photo of Virginia.  I'm sure you will do a better job trimming it than I could.  Billy Gross is also on the same page.  He is mentioned in Virginia's segment.
Yesterday Jamey sent word by phone text message that her computer was badly damaged in a storm earlier in the week.  Sorry, don't have a phone no. for her. 
Nostalgic best wishes,

   WOWZERONI! Thanks so much, Fred - and Jamey!  Unfortunately, converting .pdf files through PhotoShop seems to be "a bit" over my head.

           My #5 Son, Nathaniel (Harty - Hillsboro HS, IL - '97 - of IL) (who is a Certified National Smart Person) is going to help us (over the phone) when he gets home tonight (about midnight, our time) hook up our TV (we've been roughing it all month, being entertained instead by various singing birds, crickets, and cicadas...), and I shall ask for his assistance then.  Stay tuned.....

      From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 07/11/11 - "how to remove the pesticides":

The biggest concern when buying non organic produce is how to remove the pesticides. While organic fruit is preferred, not everyone can afford to purchase organic fruit 100% of the time. With a few ordinary household ingredients, consumers can effectively remove most of the pesticides and bacteria from non organic produce.

You will need;
Vinegar (white or apple cider vinegar)
Spray bottle
Hydrogen Peroxide
Scrub brush
Plenty of cold water

1. Fill the spray bottle with a vinegar/water mixture. Add one part vinegar to 3 parts water.

2. Spray an ample amount of the vinegar water mixture on the fruit and vegetables to be cleaned. It's best to do this over a sink because it could get very messy.

3. Wash the fruit thoroughly in cold water to remove all of the vinegar and traces of bacteria and pesticides. Using the vinegar water solution alone is an effective way to remove the majority of the harmful pesticides and bacteria. However, it doesn't stop there.

4. Fill a large bowl with cold water and approximately a half cup of hydrogen peroxide. Place the newly washed fruit in the bowl and let it sit for a minute or two.

5. Scrub the fruit with the toothbrush. While the fruit is in the bowl, use the toothbrush to scrub the fruit. Be careful when brushing delicate fruit as you don't want to bruise it.

Author--D. Dee

   GOOD TO KNOW! Thanks, Shari!

From - 07/05/11 - "Perfectionism":

3 Simple Steps to Calm Your Inner Perfectionist

By Abigail Steidley

Just about once or twice a day, my tendency toward perfectionism rears its head. It's a trait I've had from birth, according to my mother. I've become well-acquainted both with its usefulness and how it often gets in my way.

When I first read Dr. John Sarno's book, The Mindbody Prescription, I recognized myself in his personality traits list -- the list that describes those of us who have a tendency toward mind-body pain syndromes (or what he calls TMS). It immediately made sense to me that perfectionism only increases my internal stress. With all that self-pressure, it's not a big leap to make from loads of stress to physical tension to pain.

Since that moment, I have been exploring perfectionism, both to release self-pressure and to help my clients with the same issue. I knew it would benefit me to learn how to slack off, but I couldn't quite release my perfectionism. It's very well ingrained in myself and my clients. What can we do about this? How can we deal with this trait without perfectionism itself popping in and saying we need to handle perfectionism perfectly? See the challenge here?

The good news is, I've learned a lot about perfectionism. I've come up with a few tactics to deal with it so that we can enjoy freedom from pain, less stress, and more creative flow. I'll explain one tactic today, and then I'd love to hear your feedback on how it works for you.

First, it's important to recognize that perfectionism helps just as much as it hinders. Like everything, it's all about balance. Too much perfectionism, or using it on everything in your life, creates blocked creativity, inability to move forward, and piles of stress. No perfectionism, however, creates slipshod work, missed details, and frustration.

Of course, it is important to remember that things actually can't be done perfectly. It's just the innate human experience -- there will be little flaws. Your version of perfect is someone else's version of flawed, and vice-versa. It's a very subjective thing, perfection.

The Three Steps to Calm Your Inner Perfectionist

1) Recognize and Observe...
your mind's desire to make something perfect. This takes a bit of practice.

Notice when you feel stressed throughout the day. Each time to notice stress show up or increase, ask yourself the question: Am I trying to do something perfectly? Really look closely. Peek into the corners of your mind. Your mind might say, "Oh, no, I'm not trying to do it perfectly. I just want to get it right." Er... That's just a sneaky version of perfectionism. I often notice I like to increase my stress by trying to do things both perfectly and in a rush. Gack!

The more you simply observe yourself, the more you will learn. You'll begin to see patterns -- areas in your life where you do put a lot of pressure on yourself to do it perfectly, or specific repeated perfection patterns. Don't underestimate the power of simple observation. It's not necessary to observe perfectly, of course. Simply do it as much or as little as you want. You can write your observations down in a notebook, if that helps.

2) Prioritize your Perfectionism
Once you're aware of perfectionism in this moment, you can employ step two. Since real perfection does not exist, you get to decide how perfectly you actually want to do whatever you're doing right now. First, remind yourself that real perfection is impossible. (Even if your mind disagrees with this, it helps to say it to yourself.) Second, decide if this is a moment where you'd really like to give it your all, or if this is a moment where you could get by with anywhere between 40-60% effort. (Or less!) It is important to prioritize your perfectionism. Not everything really needs every ounce of your effort and your very best skills. Save the big guns for when you really need them, or when you'll enjoy tweaking and playing with something until it's perfect -- in your opinion, of course. Saving your energy for when it's really needed allows you to be far more productive.

3) Break it Down
You only need step three if you've decided to go ahead and give it your all. This is a really useful way to relax your perfectionism, which will actually allow you to do your best work without getting stymied by the desire to do it perfectly.

Break your project into two parts. For the first part, decide that you are going to use 80% of your skills/talents/effort. The first part may be broken down into smaller parts, too, such as drafts or separate pieces of your project. However you do it, only use 80% of your abilities, and shoot for 80% perfection.

For the second part of your project, you can allow yourself to go back and tweak, if you think it's necessary. This is where you can employ the beneficial side of your perfectionism skills. For this last part of your project, you get to look through it and decide if you'd like to shoot for 95% anywhere. Look to see if you want to add to it, edit it, change it, or improve it. However, before you actually make these changes, really do the assessment piece. Can you get by with your 80% work? Does it get the job done? Are you spending more time on this project than you'd like, which means maybe 80% is going to have to do? Get external feedback, if you want. Do others think it's great, and can't see why you'd change it? This will help you find that sweet spot between not enough and over the top as far as effort and time spent goes.

By allowing yourself that final piece of perfectionism, you can relax while you're doing your 80% work. This is an important element, because shooting for 150% is practically guaranteed to create stress, stop your creative flow, and stop you in your tracks. 80%, on the other hand, gets it done. However, I've worked with enough clients to know that sometimes it's terrifying to shoot for 80% after a lifetime of trying to nail 150%. This is why you can give yourself the leeway of the two-step plan.

So, to recap, it's 1) Observe 2) Decide whether or not you need your perfectionism skills in this moment 3) Break your project down into two parts -- 80% and then the final check.
This plan will help you to create balance. You're not trying to eradicate your perfectionism. Instead, you are trying to allow it to help you when it can and calm it down when it can't. In the end, you'll find much stress relief as you prioritize your perfectionism instead of working really hard and using tons of mental energy on every single thing you do.

About the Author:

Abigail Steidley is a Mind-Body Master Coach and mind-body-spirit healing expert. She works with clients throughout the US and Europe, teaching mind-body tools to create health and spiritual connection. She is the founder and owner of The Healthy Life, LLC and author of the audio course The Healthy Mind Toolbox: Essential Tools for Creating Your Healthy Life. Her current coaching practice also includes training mind-body coaches in the specific mind-body tools that help clients lose weight, de-stress, relieve pain, and create a deep, lasting connection between mind, body, and spirit. She works with and teaches a variety of healers, applying mind-body-spirit connection techniques, to help them stay healthy, sane, and productive in their own lives and enabling them to effectively serve others and prosper. She can be reached at


From - 07/11/11:

After a lady’s car had leaked motor oil on her cement driveway, she bought a large bag of cat litter to soak it up. It worked so well, that she went back to the store to get another bag to finish the job. The clerk remembered her.

Looking thoughtfully at her purchase, he said, “Lady, if that were my cat, I’d put him outside!”

DATES TO REMEMBER: 1. Thursday, August 4, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2 . Wednesday, August 10, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Friday and Saturday, August 19 and 20, 2011 - The Class of 1966 will hold its 45-Year Reunion at RJ's Restaurant and Pun AND the Warwick Yacht Club, Newport News.  DETAILS:; CONTACT: Dee Hodges Bartram at - OPEN REUNION!

4. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, August 26, 27, and 28, 2011 - The Class of 1961 will hold its 50-Year Reunion. - For details, see: and contact Gary Fitzgerald at or 757-879-2847 - CLASS OF 1961

5. Saturday, September 17, 2011 - Evelyn's Birthday Party for Everyone - Canepa Cottage, Buckroe Beach - 2:00 PM. For details, contact Evelyn Fryer Fish ('58) of TX at - OPEN TO EVERYBODY!

6. Wednesday and Thursday, October 19 and 20, 2011 - The Class of 1956 will hold its 55-Year Reunion. Be on the lookout for "snail mail" in early May. - CLASS OF 1956

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 05/05/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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I'm Sorry

Written by Dub Albritton and Ronnie Self (05 July 1938 – 28 Aug 1981)

Recorded by Brenda Lee
(b. 11 Dec 1944), 1960

I'm sorry, so sorry, that I was such a fool
I didn't know love could be so cruel, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh yeah
You tell me, mistakes, are part of being young
But that don't right the wrong that's been done

(I'm sorry) I’m sorry (so sorry) so sorry, please accept my apology
But love is blind, and I was too blind to see oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh yeah
You tell me, mistakes, are part of being young
But that don't right the wrong that's been done oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh yeah

I'm sorry, so sorry, please accept my apology
But love was blind, and I was too blind to see... (Sorry)

"I'm Sorry" midi courtesy of - 07/12/11

"I'm Sorry" lyrics courtesy of - 07/12/11

"I'm Sorry " title image courtesy of

Cat Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 07/13/09

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Collinsville High School (IL) Logo courtesy of - 09/22/07

Page Hit Counter clip art courtesy of - 03/07/06
Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of - 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!

Laughing Jester Smiley clip art courtesy of Bill Hobbs ('66) of Northern VA - 10/06/09
Thanks, Bill!

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