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06/29/08 - NNHS Newsletter
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"But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly
poison." |
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Dear Friends and Schoolmates,
If I didn't plan to issue a Newsletter yesterday, I certainly did
not today, but as it's Sunday, I do believe I shall repent and preach a sermon.
I've said this before, but it's time for me to repeat it.
There were a dozen men among our readers who, either through their
service to our country or their extraordinary kindness to me or both, have
earned the right to say anything they want here and I will print it, no
questions asked. Maybe you know who you are; perhaps you do not.
My Darlin'
Herbie (Hice) died in April, and
now there are eleven. Call it Editor's Bias, if you will.
I understand that more than a few readers have taken exception to
words which were printed here this week, and that is our universal right, not to
agree with all that we read. Some, even those who understand my bias as stated
above, have wondered why I chose to print such things. In view of my failing
health, I have chosen in recent months not to print any material which discusses
illegal aliens, political viewpoints, and generally materials of a religious
bent (except as it pertains to the holiday at hand). I simply do not feel up
to soothing the squabbles which might ensue. I'm a coward by nature, and tend to
run and hide when the going gets tough. This reaction is more than doubled in me
when I'm feeling less than my best as I do now; the stress it produces in me is
just a bit more than I can bear. But this is a subject dear to my heart, so I'll
try to explain once more.
I printed the aforementioned comment, not to inflame, but to
illustrate how poorly chosen words, thoughtlessly spoken, can fester in a human
heart for more than 50 years. As my life has progressed, I find that my deepest
regrets are not only for the things I did not do and cannot recapture, but for
the careless words I have spoken and cannot recall.
I posted it for the same reason that I will often post forwards with incorrect information, having checked them through snopes.com and highlighted the faulty passages in red. I posted it for the same reason that yesterday I printed detailed instructions on the correct way to send forwards. Sometimes things just are not right, and they need to be addressed. Sometimes there's a better way. Sometimes we need to learn from mistakes, both our own and those of others. I posted it not to be nasty or to speak ill of the dead. I posted it so that we might all learn to watch and be aware and learn and better ourselves. Otherwise, what point is there for our existence?
HOMEWORK:
"He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city." (Proverbs 16: 32)
“He that hath knowledge spareth his words. …” (Proverbs 17: 27.)
“Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.” (Proverbs 21: 23.)
“Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him.” (Proverbs 29: 20.)
"But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment" (Matthew 12: 36 ).
“Be swift to hear, [but] slow to speak.” (James 1: 19.)
“Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things.
Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
“For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile.” (1 Pet. 3: 10.)
In Shakespeare’s Hamlet, he has Polonius instruct his son Laertes to “give thy thoughts no tongue. … Give every man thine ear, but few thy voice: Take each man’s censure, but reserve thy judgment.” (Act I, Scene 3.)
BIRTHDAYS
- TODAY AND UPCOMING:
Happy Birthday
today to 
Carolyn Frizzelle Hogge ('61) of VA
AND
Jimmy Smith ('62) of VA!
Happy Birthday
tomorrow to
Blaine Crum ('57)!
Happy Birthday this week to:
01 -
Julius Benton ('58) of VA
AND
Linda Ray Letchworth Enochs ('60) of TX;
02 -
Fred Mays ('60) of VA !
http://www.nnhs65.00freehost.com/Happy-Birthday.html
Many Happy
Returns,
One and All!
From
Me
('65) of NC - 06/29/08 - "Selected Thoughts from Others Wiser Than I":
"Perhaps the greatest charity comes when we are kind to each other, when we don’t judge or categorize someone else, when we simply give each other the benefit of the doubt or remain quiet. Charity is accepting someone’s differences, weaknesses, and shortcomings; having patience with someone who has let us down; or resisting the impulse to become offended when someone doesn’t handle something the way we might have hoped. Charity is refusing to take advantage of another’s weakness and being willing to forgive someone who has hurt us. Charity is expecting the best of each other.
"None of us need one more person bashing or pointing out where we have failed or fallen short. Most of us are already well aware of the areas in which we are weak. What each of us does need is family, friends, employers, and brothers and sisters who support us, who have the patience to teach us, who believe in us, and who believe we’re trying to do the best we can, in spite of our weaknesses. What ever happened to giving each other the benefit of the doubt? What ever happened to hoping that another person would succeed or achieve? What ever happened to rooting for each other?"
- Marvin J. Ashton, “The Tongue Can Be a Sharp Sword,” Ensign, May 1992, 18
"Speak softly. It is far better to rule by love than fear.
Speak softly. Let no harsh words mar the good we may do here. "
-- Isaac Watts
"..... We all need to learn the value of trying to speak the way we want to be—that is, not as a substitute or mask for our sincere feelings (which is hypocrisy) but as a means of helping us develop those feelings.
"Sometimes we are blasphemous or profane or sarcastic because we seek attention or too much let our associates influence us, or are merely lazy and careless. Some reflection about whose opinion we really care most about—God’s or our peers’—and how much it matters to find and be our own true selves would, I believe, help us begin to change. We sometimes flatter—and encourage flattery in others—because we forget that our first loyalty must be to Christ and the truth, that excessive praise for ourselves or the shallow regard of those we give it to are ultimately ashes in the mouth and that to be eternally happy we must care about eternal values more than the honors of men, position, comfort, security, or even safety. Christ rejected flattery, and scathingly rebuked:
“'Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their fathers to the false prophets.' (Luke 6:26.)"That example and consciousness of our own priorities can help us begin to be more courageous in speaking and requiring the truth".
- Eugene England, “‘Speaking the Truth in Love’,” Ensign, Apr 1976, 51–52
"Teach your child to hold his tongue; he'll learn fast enough to speak."
-- Benjamin Franklin
"In contrasting the importance of some of the weightier things of the kingdom with the dietary code of ancient Israel, Jesus told His disciples: “Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man.
“… Those things which proceed out of the mouth come … from the heart; and they defile the man” (Matt. 15:11, 18). Our words and external expressions are not neutral, for they reflect both who we are and shape who we are becoming.
"... What we say and how we present ourselves not only betray our inner person but also mold that person, those around us, and finally our whole society. Every day each of us is implicated in obscuring the light or in chasing away the darkness. We have been called to invite the light and to be a light, to sanctify ourselves and edify others."
- Robert S. Wood, “‘The Tongue of Angels’,” Ensign, Nov 1999, 83
"If you first gain power to check your words, you will then begin to have power to check your judgment, and at length actually gain power to check your thoughts and reflections (DBY, 267–68).
"You should succeed in bringing your tongues into subjection, so as never to let them speak evil, so that they will perfectly obey your judgment and the discretion God has given you, and are perfectly obedient to the will of the holy Gospel (DBY, 268).
"We often hear people excuse themselves for their uncouth manners and offensive language, by remarking “I am no hypocrite,” thus taking to themselves credit for that which is really no credit to them. When evil arises within me, let me throw a cloak over it, subdue it, instead of acting it out upon the false presumption that I am honest and no hypocrite. Let not thy tongue give utterance to the evil that is in thine heart, but command thy tongue to be silent until good shall prevail over the evil, until thy wrath has passed away and the good Spirit shall move thy tongue to blessings and words of kindness (DBY, 266).
"If any are in the habit of taking the name of God in vain, cease doing so today, tomorrow and throughout the coming week, and so continue, and you will soon gain strength to overcome the habit entirely; you will gain power over your words (DBY, 268).
"There is an old maxim, and in many cases an excellent one. It is, 'Think twice before you speak, and three times before you act.' If we train ourselves to think what we are about to do, before we do it, and have understanding to know, and power to perform the good, we can thereby avoid … evil (DBY, 268).
"It is also a precious gift, that some people seem to be possessed of, to have knowledge enough not to talk until they can say something to advantage and benefit to themselves, or others, or both (DBY, 268)."
- Brigham Young
"A cynic can chill and dishearten with a single word."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
"You can't know too much, but you can say too much..... You know, I have found out in the course of a long public life that the things I did not say never hurt me. "
- Calvin Coolidge
Boys flying kites haul in their white-winged birds;
You can call back your kites, but you can't call back your words.
"Careful with fire" is good advice, we know;
"Careful with words" is ten times doubly so.
Thoughts unexpressed will often fall back dead.
But God Himself can't kill them, once they are said!
- Will Carleton, "The First Settler's Story"
"Among my most prized possessions are words that I have never spoken."
-- Orson Scott Card
"We must be so careful in speaking to a child. What we say or don’t say, how we say it and when is so very, very important in shaping a child’s view of himself or herself. But it is even more important in shaping that child’s faith in us and their faith in God. Be constructive in your comments to a child—always. Never tell them, even in whimsy, that they are fat or dumb or lazy or homely. You would never do that maliciously, but they remember and may struggle for years trying to forget—and to forgive. And try not to compare your children, even if you think you are skillful at it. You may say most positively that “Susan is pretty and Sandra is bright,” but all Susan will remember is that she isn’t bright and Sandra that she isn’t pretty. Praise each child individually for what that child is, and help him or her escape our culture’s obsession with comparing, competing, and never feeling we are “enough.”
".....I suppose it goes without saying that negative speaking so often flows from negative thinking, including negative thinking about ourselves. We see our own faults, we speak—or at least think—critically of ourselves, and before long that is how we see everyone and everything. No sunshine, no roses, no promise of hope or happiness. Before long we and everybody around us are miserable."
- Jeffrey R. Holland, “The Tongue of Angels,” Liahona, May 2007, 16–18
Hey,
Charis
(Bean Duke
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Governor Thomas Johnson HS,
MD - '85 - of NC)!
Tell David if he should suddenly find himself short a speaker some
Sunday, I have a talk practically prepared!
From My #2 Son,
Brent Harty (Hillsboro HS,
IL - '90) of OH - 06/28/08 - "Wise Advice ....":
Some nice common sense thoughts to reflect upon...bh
Brent Harty
Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance.
Thank you so much, Brent
- such interestingly
timely advice!
From Judy Phillips Allen ('66) of VA - 06/28/08:
Jerry (Allen - '65 - of VA) just received hugs and kisses from you through
me. He really appreciated it. Of course, he never lacks for hugs and kisses.OH, GOODY-GOODY!!! Hugs and kisses!
Thanks,
dear Judy!
From Jimmy Smith ('62) of VA - 06/28/08 - "
CAROL,
AFTER RECEIVING SEVERAL PHONE CALLS CONCERNING JIMMY PARKER'S LETTER, IT MUST BE
NOTED THAT
COACH HELMS
DID NOT START AT NNHS UNTIL
1958. MAYBE, JIMMY HAS GOT SOMETHING ELSE CONFUSED.
The first Anchor in which Coach Helms' portrait appears is the 1958, which may or may not indicate that he did not begin teaching at NNHS until in the fall of 1957. At least two of my teachers taught me in years before their photos were included in the yearbook. I do not know the answer. After more than 50 years, specific details may tend to blur - and understandably so. The attendant feelings generally remain crystal clear.
Thanks, Jimmy - and Happy
Birthday!
From Frances Goodson Wang ('65) of MD - 06/28/08 - "Day in Photos -
washingtonpost.com":
Thanks for this link, Frances!
I saw a great many interesting and fascinating things here;
I'm not really certain which one specifically you had in mind, but I enjoyed
them!
A DINNER HONORING PAULINE ALLEN MITCHELL
Dear Classmates of NNHS Class of 1947:
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Tonight, there was a Dinner at the 17th Century "Citie of Henricus", a few miles down the James River from Richmond, honoring our own Pauline Allen Mitchell, who is retiring after 25 years of promoting historical recognition and significance of the Henricus site, and she is presently Chairman of the Board. Pauline reported a gala gathering; her brother Bobby (NNHS 1951) and his wife, Annette, were among those present. | |
Let me tell you a bit about the "Citie of Henricus". (When we took US History, it had not been re-discovered ~~ largely because Pauline Allen was still at NNHS with us and Nellie Newport!) Henricus was founded by Sir Thomas Dale in 1611 as an alternative to the swampy and dangerous area around Jamestown Settlement. It was named for Prince Henry, son of King James I. Thus it was the second English city in the New World, and at the time was one of the westernmost outlying developments from the fortified Jamestown Settlement. Henricus was near where Pocahontas grew up among the Appomattox Tribe, where she was converted to Christianity, and where she and John Rolfe fell in love and were married in 1614.
The early 17th Century settlers tried to start what would have been the first institution of higher learning in the British colonies. A royal charter was obtained for founding the University of Henrico, and land was set aside for its use. However, nothing more than a school for the Native Americans had actually come into existence by 1622, when the town was destroyed in the Indian Massacre of 1622, and it was not rebuilt. Virginia then had to wait until 1693 for the Charter that established the College of William and Mary.
The exact location of Henricus was lost over time until the late 20th Century, when the site was rediscovered (Henricus Historical Park), and partial restoration began. And that is where Pauline came into the picture.
Wouldn’t the NNHS History faculty of our day (Mrs. Hurt,
Miss Free, Miss Folkmann, Mr. Loop) be proud?
Congratulations, Pauline, for a great job well done!
WOWZERONI-RINI!!! Thank you, Bob - and warmest congratulations and sincere appreciation, Pauline!
Pocahontas and John Rolfe were
my 14th great-grandparents, so I'll admit to yet another bias in this subject
matter.
From Dave Spriggs ('64) of VA
The problem with being a philologist, even an amateur one, is the curse of
often hearing two different meanings come out the same words. One of my first
experiences of this phenomenon occurred 1952 or 1953, when I was 6 or 7, and it
involved the song, "You'll Never Walk Alone".
At that time, before the Salk polio vaccine was approved in 1955, the media
often showed heartbreaking photographs or film of children stricken with polio
and struggling to walk with cumbersome braces and crutches. I seem to remember
fund-raising telethons and the use of this song, which was surely intended to
tug at the heart strings and purse strings of the viewers.
Now, children often take words literally. I had already heard my parents tell me
that I was not permitted to cross the street alone, that I was not permitted to
remain home alone ... a litany of dangerous things that I was not permitted to
do alone. So, when I first heard this song accompanying the images of these
crippled children, my little brain took it to mean that they would never walk
alone, i.e. never walk without physical assistance. I thought that to be an
exceedingly cruel thing to sing to a child. Only years later, when I understood
the lyrics, did I realize that it meant nothing of the kind, that it was
positive spiritual statement, not a negative orthopaedic one.
Still, you can understand how a 6 year old could misinterpret the title of the
song.
What a poignantly charming
story! Thank you so much, David!
From Cheryl Mays Howard ('66) of VA - 06/28/08 - "Song":
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I remember that stunning performance quite well, Cheryl! Your voices blended
beautifully!
Thanks for the reminder! |
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From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 06/28/08 - "Newsletter
Theme featuring Richard Rodgers":
Oh, thank you, Joe!
Those are excellent examples! Israel especially has been one of our family's
favorite singers for years - what a beautiful, soothing voice he had! And
his interpretation was certainly unique!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Israel_Kamakawiwo'ole
BONUS - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2A2Jt4WOxN8 - Israel Kamakawiwo'ole - Somewhere Over The Rainbow
PRAYER ROLL (arranged alphabetically, but not necessarily complete):
1.
Connie Bloxom Thompson ('66) of MD - multiple heath and financial
issues; needing cataract surgery to prevent inevitable blindness ASAP;
Connie
Bloxom Thompson
2237 Hunter Chase
Bel Air, MD
21015
2.
Betty Brockwell McClure ('58) of VA - broken hip - early this year; still
recovering and in pain;
update of 06/17/08 - SEE:
3.
Clyde Bryant ('58) of PA - heart replacement surgery - 12/13/07
4.
Jimmy DeBerry ('64) of VA - stroke on 06/17/08;
update of 06/25/08 - SEE:
06/26/08
5
. Emily (daughter of
My
Niece Shari) of VA - advancing scoliosis; surgery 03/11/08;
update
of 03/12/08: surgery went well, running slight fever;
update of 03/18/08: had some ups and
lows, but is home again;
update
of 04/14/08 - still in pain, running a fever;
update of 04/18/08 - SEE:
04/18/08;
update of
05/05/08 - "finally getting better. Her hamstring stretching is painful, but
making a big difference. She has years of physical therapy ahead of her, but is
doing soo much better";
update of 05/13/08 - has had a
setback; going to see the surgeon in Richmond on 05/15/08;
update of 06/15/08 - SEE:
06/17/08
6.
My second granddaughter,
Rachel Harty of IL - broke her ankle/leg in 3 places on 05/17/08; clean
breaks, no surgery required, but located in a tricky place for a growing
girl, so proper healing is essential; update
of 05/30/08 - "healing nicely. They put her in a cast below the knee. She
still can't put any weight on it for 2 more weeks. Then she will be in a
walking cast for 3 weeks after that";
update of
06/14/08 - Her leg is healing much faster than the doctor had expected. She
is in a waterproof walking cast now for 3 weeks, then this cast will come
off and she will have physical therapy.
7. Frances Heath Scott ('62) of VA - inflammation of nerves; due to have been
released from hospital on 02/27/08; update
of 04/14/08 -
"at home recuperating";
update
of 05/22/08 - "still at home
recuperating";
update
of 06/09/08 - "still at home recovering. I
am sure they would love receiving cards/notes from NNHS friends."
8.
Bobby Hedrick ('58) of VA - recently
diagnosed with pancreatic cancer; update
of 03/22/08: "doing very well, no pain, just some soreness"; update
of 05/10/08: "continues to do well since the surgery for pancreatic cancer and
will now begin the follow-up treatment to be decided upon following the
consultation and evaluation at MD Anderson (Houston)."
9.
Pam Pennington Cherry ('58) of VA - congestive heart failure; cardiac ablation procedure - 02/06/08; second surgery on 02/20/08 for aneurysm; update of 03/17/08 - still experiencing difficulty with heart racing, breathing and pressure in her chest; pray that cardiac ablation procedure will not have to be repeated, and that Pam can learn to REST!; update of 05/04/08 - "in about eight months she will indeed have to have the ablation process repeated. "10. Tommy Scott ('61) of VA - update of 04/14/08 - "at home recuperating"; update of 05/22/08 - "still at home recuperating"; update of 06/09/08 - "still at home recovering. I am sure they would love receiving cards/notes from NNHS friends."
Edie Hallett Willett - '63) of VA - 05/05/08 - "underwent a double mastectomy
in 2007, has just completed vigorous chemo and is now undergoing radiation
treatments every day for seven weeks"
12. Jim Wilson ('58) of VA recovering from prostate surgery on 06/02/08
13. All of Us
DATES TO REMEMBER:
1. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, September 26 - 28, 2008 -
NNHS CLASS OF 1968:http://www.nnhs65.00freehost.com/reunion-class-of-1968.html - 03/31/08
2. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, October 17 - 19, 2008
- NNHS CLASS OF 1963:http://www.nnhs65.00freehost.com/reunion-class-of-1963.html - 03/26/08
Y'all take care of each other! TYPHOONS FOREVER! We'll Always Have Buckroe!
Love to all, Carol
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School Thy Feelings
Words by
Charles W. Penrose,
1948
(4 Feb 1832 - 16 May 1925)
Music by
George F. Root
(30 Aug 1820 - 6 Aug 1895)
School thy feelings, O my brother; Train thy
warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother, But let wisdom's voice control.
School thy feelings; there is power In the cool, collected mind.
Passion shatters reason's tower, Makes the clearest vision blind.
School thy feelings, O my brother; Train thy warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother, But let wisdom's voice control.
School thy feelings; condemnation Never pass
on friend or foe,
Though the tide of accusation Like a flood of truth may flow.
Hear defense before deciding, And a ray of light may gleam,
Showing thee what filth is hiding Underneath the shallow stream.
School thy feelings, O my brother; Train thy warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother, But let wisdom's voice control.
Should affliction's acrid vial Burst o'er
thy unsheltered head,
School thy feelings to the trial; Half its bitterness hath fled.
Art thou falsely, basely, slandered? Does the world begin to frown?
Gauge thy wrath by wisdom's standard; Keep thy rising anger down.
School thy feelings, O my brother; Train thy warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother, But let wisdom's voice control.
Rest thyself on this assurance: Time's a
friend to innocence,
And the patient, calm endurance Wins respect and aids defense.
Noblest minds have finest feelings; Quiv'ring strings a breath can move;
And the gospel's sweet revealings Tune them with the key of love.
School thy feelings, O my brother; Train thy warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother, But let wisdom's voice control.
Hearts so sensitively molded Strongly
fortified should be,
Trained to firmness and enfolded In a calm tranquility.
Wound not willfully another; Conquer haste with reason's might;
School thy feelings, sister, brother; Train them in the path of right.
School thy feelings, O my brother; Train thy warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother, But let wisdom's voice control.
"School Thy Feelings" midi and
lyrics courtesy of
http://people.uleth.ca/~anderson/midi-orig.html
and located by Nathaniel Harty (Hillsboro HS - '97) of IL- 06/28/08
Thanks, Nathaniel!
Animated Sparkling Pink Roses clip
art courtesy of
Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/13/06
Thanks, Al!
Animated United States Marine Corps Flag clip art courtesy of http://www.angelfire.com/ny4/KevsGifsGalore/Patriotic.html - 06/18/03
Pink Rose Divider Line clip art courtesy of ? - 04/05/05
Animated Tiny
Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of
Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of
VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!
Army Seal clip art also courtesy of
Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06
Thanks again, Al!
Governor Thomas Johnson High School's Logo courtesy of http://www.tjathletics.org/ - 06/16/08
Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of
http://www.hillsboroschools.net/schools/hhs/activities/music2/Band/bio.html
- 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!
Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late
Herbert Hice of MI - one of my
Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!
Animated Army Flag clip art courtesy of http://www.angelfire.com/ny4/KevsGifsGalore/Patriotic.html - 06/18/03
Navy Seal clip art courtesy of http://www.onemileup.com/miniSeals.asp - 05/29/06
