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06/22/09 - NNHS Newsletter -
Open Arms

“Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love
you will find that you are left holding only yourself.”

- Leo Buscaglia
(31 Mar 1924 - 11 June 1998)


Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   Today's theme song was suggested by my tellybision one day recently.

BONUS #1 - - Open Arms - Journey

BONUS #2 - - Open Arms - Journey (live version)


   From Judy Phillips Allen ('66) of VA - 06/21/09, 11:26 PM - "  Jerry (Allen - '65),      Monty (Phillips - '62 - of VA), and Howard (Hodnett - '45 - of VA) update":

Just a quick update on three of my boys;

Jerry's knee surgery (Friday) went very well.  The doctor told me that he repaired medial and lateral meniscal tears and cleaned up a lot of calcium deposits.  He is having a much better time than last year when he ended up in the hospital with blood clots.  We are looking for great results and trip back to OBX soon.  We are so thankful on this Father's Day!

Monty sounded good this afternoon.  I will take him Wednesday for chemo #6.  He is handling it well.  He hasn't lost any more weight.  His blood work showed some anemia, but his liver function has improved a lot.  He feels well enough to take    Cousin Cookie (Phillips Tyndall - '64 - of VA) to the rifle range for target practice.  I pity anyone who tries to break into her house or give her any trouble.  Monty is impressed with "Annie Oakley".

Howard (Jerry's dad) continues to do well.  The pacemaker and adjustment on meds seems to have done the trick for him.  I went to church with him today and he spent the afternoon with us.  I fed my men a meal they enjoyed.

Again, thanks for prayers and concern!


PS - I am doing great!  Very thankful!

    SUPER-DE-DUPER! Thanks for this report, Dearest Judy!

   That Cookie ROCKS!


   Happy Birthday today to   Jim Cobb ('66) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

24 -     My Cousin, Jean Atkinson Mallory (Warsaw HS / Rappahannock HS / John Marshall HS - '65) of VA;

25 - David Lundquist ('57) AND     Glenn Dye ('60) of TX AND      Jean Poole Burton ('64) of RI;

26 -  Fred Eubank ('64) of TX;

27 - 
  Jimmy Dick ('65) of FL AND     My #1 Daughter-in-Law, Mary Bennett Harty (Litchfield HS, IL - '89) of IL;

28 - Andrew Puckett ('57) AND    Henry Hoyle ('65) of Northern VA;

29 - Carolyn Frizzelle Hogge ('61) of VA AND     Jimmy Smith ('62) of VA!

   Many Happy Returns, One and All!

        From My #2 Son, Brent Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL - '90) of TX - 06/21/09 - "06/21/09 - Father's Day":

Nice newsletter, of course, Mom.  Glad you found some of the comments useful.  Love bh

Brent Harty
"You may be whatever you resolve to be."  General Thomas "Stonewall" Jackson

   Thanks, Brent! And I'm glad you enjoyed it! 

  From Patti Johnson Stowe ('62) of FL - 06/21/09 - "Victor Borge & Dean Martin - Musical Phonetic Punctuation":

We (especially my father) used to love this when I was a kid.  For those of you who are younger I hope you will enjoy this as much as we did and I still do.  I can't stop laughing.

Patti/Mama/Nana - Victor Borge & Dean Martin - Musical Phonetic Punctuation

   OHHH, Patti, I used to watch Victor Borge on the Ed Sullivan show with       my own daddy, (the late Robert Buckley - John Marshall HS - '25)!) Thanks so much for this clip! 

    From Jean Poole Burton ('64) of RI - 06/21/09 - "Kay Gillespie '64 is in CA":

San Gabriel I believe...I do not have her e-mail address...but I had contact awhile back.  Her brother Cho is in Hawaii.  Cho was in our class in the 8th grade but I believe he went to military school after 8th grade.  Kay was very gracious in her reply.          David (Spriggs - '64 - of VA) might have her e-mail addy.

   Thank you, Jean, I'll check soon. Meanwhile, from the Class of 1954, I've found Tom Doughty in Corona and Dave Joye in Huntington Beach.  I'll be forwarding their contact information to    Fred (Field - June '45 - of CA) and   Ronnie (Glasofer Margolis - '63 - of CA) when I've made a more valiant effort.....

   From Fred Field (June '45) of CA - 06/21/09 - "WPA Describes NN":

Hello Carol,        Sun. June 21, 09
Thanks for publishing the epics about Camp Stuart, the armories and skating rinks.
I mentioned a WPA source of info. about Newport News (and other VA cities) compiled as a WPA project before 1940.
Might be useful to mention and identify the URLs.
The basic source starts at site:


A Guide to the Old Dominion

Compiled by
Workers of the Writers' Program
of the Work Projects Administration
in the State of Virginia

Virginia State Library and Archives

The particular NN Segment is at:

Newport News

Railroad Station: 23rd St. and River Rd. for Chesapeake and Ohio Ry.

Bus Stations: NW. comer 28th St. and Washington Ave. for Greyhound and Peninsula Transit Lines; SE. corner 28th St. and Washington Ave. for Great Eastern Lines.

Taxis: Fare 10 cents and upward, according to distance.

Streetcars and Busses: Local and interurban; fare 50c. within city limits, 50c. for each zone outside city.

Traffic Regulations: No all-night parking in main part of city, i hr. parking 8-6 on Washington Ave.

Accommodations: 3 hotels; tourist homes.

Information Service: Tidewater Auto Ass'n, Warwick Hotel, 25th St. between Washington and West Aves.

Radio Station: WGH 1310 kc.  Motion Picture Houses: 3, including 1 for Negroes.

Golf: James River Country Club, 5.3 m. W. of city limits on US 60, 18 holes, open by arrangement, greens fee 82; Old Dominion Golf Club, 16th and Chestnut Sts., 18 holes, greens fee $4 for 18 holes, $2.50 for 9 holes.

Swimming: James River Country Club, open 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. daily, guest fee 40 cents.

Tennis: James River Country Club, 5.3 m. W. of city limits on US 60, no fee for guests; Huntington Park, 1 m. W. of city limits on US 60) 4 courts, no fee; Woodrow Wilson School Grounds, Maple Ave. and Kecoughtan St., 1 court, no fee;

Newport News Baseball Park, 28th and Wickham Sts., 1 court, no fee.  Later the site of the NN Recreation Building.

Ice Skating: Old Dominion Skating Rink, near Old Dominion Golf Club, 16th and Chestnut Sts., open 8-11 p.m. in winter, adm. 40 cents. Mistake here - definitely roller skating.

Boating: Boats for hire at piers, S. end of Warwick Ave.

Annual Events: Newport News Regatta, usually in late summer.  This was sponsored by the short-lived NN Yacht Club which was situated at the Old Warwick Machine Pier (absorbed by the Shipyard just prior to WW-II).

More interesting NN narrative follows on this site.

Fred W. Field
Fullerton, CA

   WOWZERS!!! Thanks so much, Fred!

       From George Helliesen ('61) of MI -  06/21/09 - "Sistine Chapel (virtual reality); hope you two can pull this up; Absolutely breathtaking!":

This has to be the best of all times. If you have not been fortunate enough to be in the Sistine Chapel, this comes might close. Take the time to look in every nook and alcove. This is truly incredible!

Sistine Chapel (virtual reality)
Go slowly with the mouse, the computer takes awhile to keep up with your commands, so you can see 360 degrees and vertical views.
Click on the displayed arrow keys to move around the chapel. Don't forget to look at the ceiling. Also, click the right side end button to enlarge the image to full screen.
This is the most incredible scan I have ever seen. Absolutely wonderful and beautiful.
Go up and down and all around. And look at the ceiling from the various alcoves and aisles.
A unique view of the Sistine Chapel.
Click on web site link below:

   OOOH - The Sistine Chapel has always fascinated me! But, um, I wasn't exactly able to access it from the link you sent me, but I did find this page there to see St. Peter's Church in Vienna:

   Thanks so much, George!

From - 06/21/09 - "Apologize Effectively":

Communication Skills and Training - Apologizing isn’t Easy, But it’s Necessary
By Laurie Wilhelm, Apr. 27, 2009


As anyone who has ever made an apology knows, saying "I'm sorry" is no sign of weakness but it can take a great deal of courage. While it can be difficult to accept blame and take responsibility for our offending actions, apologizing to those who are affected by them is an essential social skill and one that helps maintains good relationships.

While it can be embarrassing to admit fault, a sincere and honest apology can begin to repair broken relations and is the first step in rebuilding trust and loyalty. One of the most significant elements of an apology is recognizing that what you did was inappropriate, inconsiderate, thoughtless or careless. A good apology lets the recipient know that you understand how your action made them feel or the negative impact it had on a situation.

It's rarely enough to just say, "I'm sorry." If an apology is in order, it has to be for a specific reason so say what it is. Saying, "My response was curt and unsupportive – I apologize." or "I apologize for neglecting to…" communicates that you understand your wrongdoing.

Don’t try to concoct an excuse to cover up your mistake or make it sound like it wasn’t really your fault. Admit and take responsibility for your words and actions. An apology buried under some seemingly well-thought out excuses destroys its authenticity. It becomes an “I’m sorry but…” which basically implies that you’re innocent and, therefore, do not sincerely regret your actions. Keep it plain and direct – “I’m sorry that I said…” “I’m sorry that I didn’t…” I’m sorry that I assumed…”

You can, however, provide an explanation while you take responsibility for your actions. “I apologize for how I reacted. I was frustrated because my computer just crashed and I lashed out at you. I was really out of line. I’m sorry.”

Finally, when you apologize, know that it must be followed up by an earnest effort not to repeat the offending action.

After the Apology

It’s not as if you can hurt someone and expect that hurt to magically evaporate. While they may have accepted your apology, it takes time to rebuild trust and relationships so give them time to recover. Remember that the time they need is according to their clock, not yours, so only they can let you know when they’re feeling better.

Once you’ve made amends, you’ve got to stick to your words. If you’ve apologized and then the next day or the next week you do the same offending action, your apology isn’t worth much. If you’ve recognized that your actions were offensive once, you can be sure they’ll be offensive twice. The second time, however, is exponentially worse because you knew what the potential outcome would be. Determine what you’re going to do be ensure that the mistake won’t be made again.

While apologizing may not be easy, it is essential to maintaining good, long-term relationships.


Author's Bio

Laurie Wilhelm manages the Express Yourself to Success website, a one-stop e-source with information and techniques on communication skills, interpersonal skills, public speaking, networking and conflict resolution. Achieve your success by working effectively with others. Find out how you can boost your career and get a free eBook, What You Need to Succeed: Social Skills.

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I always try to believe the best of everybody -- it saves so much trouble.”

- Rudyard Kipling


       From George Helliesen ('61) of MI -  06/21/09 - "ADAM AND EVE":


To those of us who have children in our lives, whether they are our own, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or students.... here is something to make you chuckle.

Whenever your children are out of control, you can take comfort from the thought that even God's omnipotence did not extend to His own children.

After creating heaven and earth, God created Adam and Eve.

And the first thing he said was,

"Don't what?" Adam replied.

"Don't eat the forbidden fruit." God said.

"Forbidden fruit? We have forbidden fruit?? Hey Eve.. we have forbidden fruit!

"No Way!"

'Yes way

"Do NOT eat the fruit
" said God.


"Because I am your Father and I said so," God replied, wondering why He hadn't stopped creation after making the elephants.

A few minutes later, God saw His children having an apple break and He was ticked

"Didn't I tell you not to eat the fruit
" God asked.

Uh huh," Adam replied.

"Then why did you
?' said the Father.

"I don't know," said Eve.

"She started it
" Adam said.

"Did not

"Did too


Having had it with the two of them, God's punishment was that Adam and Eve should have children of their own.

Thus the pattern was set and it has never changed.

If you have persistently and lovingly tried to give children wisdom and they haven't taken it, don't be hard on yourself.

If God had trouble raising children, what makes you think it would be a piece of cake for you



1. You spend the first two years of their life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next sixteen telling them to sit down and shut up.

2. Grandchildren are God's reward for not killing your own children.

3. Mothers of teens now know why some animals eat their young.

4. Children seldom misquote you.
In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said.

5. The main purpose of holding children's parties is to remind yourself that there are children more awful than your own.

6. We childproofed our homes, but they are still getting in.

Be nice to your kids. They will choose your nursing home one day.


   WILD GIGGLES!!! Thanks again, George!


1. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, September 4, 5 and 6 (Labor Day Weekend), 2009 - The Class of 1969 will hold its 40-Year Reunion at the Point Plaza Hotel, Newport News, VA. For details, see: and contact Jean Baker Howell at

2. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, September 18, 19, and 20, 2009 - The Warwick High School Class of 1959 will hold its 50-Year Reunion at the Marriott Newport News at City Center, Newport News, VA. For details, contact - WHS CLASS OF 1959
3. Friday and Saturday, October 9 and 10, 2009 - The Class of 1964 will hold its 45-Year Reunion
- For details, see: - CLASS OF 1964

4. Friday and Saturday, August 6 and 7, 2010 - The NNHS Class of 1970 will hold its 40-Year Reunion. Friday night they will all meet at RJ's; Saturday night will be at the Kiln Creek Golf & Country Club. For details, contact Carol Comer Cutler at CLASS OF 1970

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 06/22/09

BLOG: - updated 01/09/09

   Y'all take good care of each other!  Buckroe!

                          Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty 

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Open Arms

Words and Music by Steve Perry and Jonathan Cain

(Journey, 1981)

Lying beside you, here in the dark
Feeling your heart beat with mind
Softly you whisper, you're so sincere
How could our live be so blind
We sailed on together
We drifted apart
And here you are by my side

So now I come to you, with open arms
Nothing to hide, believe what I say
So here I am with open arms
Hoping you'll see what your love means to me
Open arms

Living without you, living alone
This empty house seems so cold
Wanting to hold you, wanting you near
How much I wanted you home

But now that you've come back
Turned night into day
I need you to stay.


"Open Arms" midi courtesy of - 06/22/09

"Open Arms" lyrics courtesy of - 06/22/09

"Open Arms" Image courtesy of - 06/22/09

Rainbow Scroll Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 06/22/09

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!

Animated Dancing Snoopy courtesy of Billy Turner ('65) of TX - 11/26/08
Thanks, Billy Turner!

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

John Marshall High School's Justice Scale clip art courtesy of Cheryl White Wilson (JMHS - '64) of VA - 10/13/05 (replaced 02/23/09)
Thanks, Cheryl!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Litchfield High School's Purple Panther Paw Print courtesy of - 06/23/07

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of - 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!

Animated Army Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

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