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06/11/13 - NNHS Newsletter -
That Was the Week That Was

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...”

- Charles Dickens
, A Tale of Two Cities, 1859
 (07 June 1812 - 09 June 1870)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

    I really liked this quotation by    Elder Holland the first time I heard it six years ago.  Today when I "chanced" upon it, it made me laugh out loud.  In a week of unparalleled "highs", were my lows really so low as to cause me to whine??

  * Wednesday, June 05, 2013 - While running errands, I stopped at my doctor's office just to ask a question regarding insurance. I was unexpectedly seen, and even more unexpectedly given shots in my knees, painlessly, instantly, and delightfully restoring my mobility to 2006 levels!  "Look, Ma, no cane!"

* Thursday, June 06, 2013 - Our fourteenth grandchild (and seventh granddaughter) was born in Massachusetts to Dale and Diana!  My cousin, Cheryl, arrived in Fayetteville for a quick visit!

* Friday, June 07, 2013 - Tropical Storm Andrea changed the day's planned Big Adventure, so after a bit of our usual Fun and Games, Eleanor and Cheryl departed for Virginia (Cheryl to her home, and Eleanor to visit with her daughter and family in the Great State of Northern Virginia. Our sixth son, Dale, called us on a Google Plus Hangout, and we were able to "see " our newest darling grandbaby for the first time! Our second son, Brent, was supposed to be driving up from Swansboro, North Carolina for a weekend visit, but the storm delayed his departure for a day.

* Saturday, June 08, 2013 - Brent arrived for his weekend visit just in time for us to make it to the last session at the Raleigh NC LDS Temple! When we returned home, Paul and Brent were able to make it to the auto parts store just in time to buy a new starter for our car - which had ceased to function at the end of the day on Thursday, May 30, 2013.

* Sunday, June 09, 2013 - Brent was able to attend our Sunday meetings with us.  When we returned home, he fixed the speakers on Paul's computer, hung one of my hammered aluminum trays in the kitchen for me in just the right spot (which I'd been meaning to do for about a year) - and then we noticed that the air conditioning had also stopped working.  We had a fabulous visit nonetheless.

* Monday, June 10, 2013 - Dale remotely installed a new anti-virus system on my computer, through the marvels of TeamViewer.

* Tuesday, June 11, 2013 - The very nice air conditioning man had our systems restored before noon!  Our car remains broken (along with our clothes dryer which broke on Saturday, October 13, 2012 ).

I'd say the highs have it!


BONUS - - That Was the Week That Was Theme


   Happy Birthday tomorrow to Cynthia Clontz Mears ('57)!

     Happy Birthday this week to:

14 - The United States Army - 1775 AND     Rosalee Will Jecmenek ('65) of TX AND Cindy _____ Konstant of VA (Wife of   George Konstant - '65 of VA) AND     Linda McKenna Sivilich of PA AND        My Grandson, Buckley Harty of MA;

16 - Jane Hoffman ('57) AND   Kay Walker Gray ('57) of VA AND        Nancy Dearing Berry ('62) of TX;

17 - Dino Vretos ('57) AND   Roberta Hilsdon ('70) of GA;

18 - The late  Mimi Weger Green ('40) (deceased 15 Mar 2010)  AND    Tim Whitt ('66) of VA AND    Mike Leonard ('68) of VA AND the late     Mark Wilson ('68) (deceased 04/19/11) AND Kathy McDaniel Adams ('71)

   Many Happy Returns to You All!


June 11, 1934 - The Disarmament Conference in Geneva ended in failure.

June 11, 1940 - The Italian Air Force bombed the British fortress at Malta in the Mediterranean.

June 11, 1942 - The United States agreed to send Lend-Lease aid to the Soviet Union.

June 11, 1943 - The Italian island of Pantelleria surrendered after a heavy air bombardment.

June 11, 1944 - USS Missouri (BB-63) the last battleship built by the United States Navy and future site of the signing of the Japanese Instrument of Surrender, was commissioned.

June 11, 1947 - The U.S. government announced an end to sugar rationing.


Tuesday, June 11, 2013 - American Civil Rights Movement: Alabama Governor George Wallace stood at the door of Foster Auditorium at the University of Alabama in an attempt to block two black students, Vivian Malone and James Hood, from attending that school. Later in the day, accompanied by federalized National Guard troops, they were able to register.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013 - Buddhist monk Thich Quang Duc burned himself with gasoline in a busy Saigon intersection to protest the lack of religious freedom in South Vietnam.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013 - John F. Kennedy addressed Americans from the Oval Office proposing the Civil Rights Act of 1964 that would revolutionist American society. The bill proposed equal access to public facilities, the ending segregation in education, and guaranteeing federal protection for voting rights.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013 - Diver and coach Bruce Kimball was born in Ann Arbor, Michigan.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013 - Curler Sandra Schmirler ("Schmirler the Curler") was born in Biggar, Saskatchewan, Canada. She died in Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada on 02 Mar 2000 at the age of 36 of cancer.

        From My #2 Son, Brent Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL - '90) of TX (currently on a joint military operation in NC)  - 06/09/13 - "Brent on guitar":


Here are the pics we took just before I left your house.

   Thanks so much, Brent! We certainly enjoyed having you here!  

Sunday, June 9, 2013

          From My #6 Son, Dale Harty, (Hillsboro HS, IL / American School, IL - '02) of MA - 06/10/13 - "June 1 Family Pics":


These images of us outside were taken by      Diana's (Lyons Harty - Portsmouth HS, NH / Eastlake HS, CA - '05) sister, Christie Lyons, five days before the baby was born.

Love, Dale

Saturday, June 01, 2013

    OHHH, I love these! Christie does nice work - and so do you and Diana! Thank you, Dale!

          From My #6 Son, Dale Harty, (Hillsboro HS, IL / American School, IL - '02) of MA - 06/10/13 - "June 6 - Evie's Here!":


Here are the photos of the Big Day - once again captured by Diana's sister, Christie. The "baby-sized" baby actually weighed 7 lbs., 3 oz., and was 20" long.  We decided to go with the name we had selected all along - Eve Celeste - but we'll be calling her "Evey".


   OHHH, thank you so much for sending these, Dale! What precious pictures! Christie did an amazing job - as did you all!    

From My Friend, Susan, of NC - 06/10/13 - "Never Stop Doing Little Things":


 ABSOLUTELY! Thank you, Susan!


From - 06/03/13 - "Quick to Say No":

Quick to Say "No"?

By Jane Cranston

I'm standing on line at the supermarket behind a mother and her five year old son. Bored, tired, and cranky, the child wants out, as does the mother. The boy starts asking questions and for things. "No!" says the mother. "No" is the answer so many time that she is ahead of her son's requests. Finally, in frustration she yells, "Don't even bother asking me because the answer is going to be ‘no.'" We've all witnessed this type of scenario and probably are guilty of participation now and again. For some reason the scene stuck with me.

Later in the day, I was having a coffee with a person interested in knowing about my coaching services and me. Quietly, I started counting the "nos" in his replies. When we agreed, he started his next sentence with "no" or "not really," when the question was neutral there was also a negative response. Despite his seemingly disinterest, to my surprise, he signed on for coaching. Can't say I was thrilled. Were we going to go through the next few months battling? Well, I wasn't and why should he? It made me question
how was this behavior impacting his work life.

That evening I was making a decision about a personal matter, a possible vacation trip. I heard myself rather randomly saying "no" to what easily should/could have been "maybe" at least and "yes" at best.

It got me thinking -- why do even optimistic people sabotage their happiness and potential with negative thoughts and words?

What are the consequences?

"No" is a powerful word and expression. Being in a position of power, as was the mother of the boy, gives many of us a sense of high influence and control. "No one is going to tell me what to do!" and "Surely, I'm not going to let you take charge."

Protective: "No" can also seem to protect us from getting involved, submitting, or entering the unknown, or our fear zone. When we leave our comfort zone to enter our growth zone, we feel energized. Slip into a place of fear, and we often resist. Rather than pull back a little, we shut down all options or fight for position.

Distracted: "No" can often be a way of shutting off stimuli. You're overloaded with requests, challenges, or even physical demands. It's easier to close the door rather than leaving it open a crack. One of the earliest signs of burnout is taking on a universal negative perspective. Monitor it in yourself and those you lead. It's a clear warning signal.

What are some of the costs of no?

Shuts Down Discussion: Nothing ends a conversation faster than the one word answer "no." Even if it is not your intention, it's often the result. I had a manager who too frequently ended her comments with the phrase "period end of sentence." In other words, I am not open to hearing what you think or want, I've decided. Note: her entire team mutinied one day and she was out of the company soon after. Couching the reply with something as simple as, "I'm leaning toward no" shows the listener there's room for persuasion.

Fuels the Conflict: Anyone with an adolescent in his or her life knows the easiest way to escalate a disagreement is to grind in your heels and stop the conversation, and demand compliance. While adolescents' brains may not be fully set, they do have and are entitled to an opinion. Just having the option of voicing why they disagree with you, even though it may not change your decision, surely deescalates the battle.

Damages the Relationship: If you can predict what I'm going to say, before we even have a discussion, how often do you think I will continue coming to the conference table? How does that build on our relationship? When do we find common ground? What happens when we have to collaborate and cooperate? Avoidance? Splittering of loyalties? Looking outside the relationship for someone with a broader more open mindset? All of the above?

No can be a decisive and useful word when used at times a clear, concise response is required. "No you can't jump off the high board," or "No, you can't fudge the numbers to make the sales look better" -- in general, starting with no gets you quickly to nothing. It closes options, minds, and relationships. It can feel like power, ease, or protection, though this is generally short-lived and a bit naive.

Here's the challenge:
For one day, monitor your language and thoughts. See when you are quick to start with or jump to the negative. Ask yourself, "How is this useful in finding the best solution?" and "How might there be another agenda at play?" Search for options and opportunities. Practice them. What is the new result?
(c) Jane Cranston.

About the Author:

Jane Cranston is an executive career coach. She works with success-driven executives, managers and leaders to reach their potential, better manage their boss and staff, as well as develop a career strategy to reach goals and aspirations. Jane is the author of Great Job in Tough Times a step-by-step job search system:
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BONUS CROCHET RING PATTERN: - Glamorous Crocheted Ring - "On Monday he gave me no beautiful things, On Tuesday, no diamonds, On Wednesday, no rings..."



From - 06/10/13:

A farmer picked up an American Indian hitch hiking. The Indian was a man of few words, but eventually looked at the brown paper bag in between them and asked, "Mmm, What in bag?"

The farmer said, "It's a bottle of wine that I got for my wife".

The Indian thought for a moment and said, "Mmm, good trade".

Wednesday, June 12, 2013 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

2. Thursday, July 4, 2013 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

3. Wednesday, August 14, 2013 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

4. Friday and Saturday, October 4 and 5, 2013 - The NNHS Class of 1963 will hold their 50-Year Reunion at the Crowne Plaza Hotel, Hampton on the Water. Friday night will also be open to the Classes of 1962 and 1964. SEE: The website which has been set up for their class at; CONTACT: Frank Gibson,, Joyce Williams Nettles,, or Susie Overton Jones,; FORM: Registration-Classes-of-1962-and-1964-B.docx

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 Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                   Love to all, Carol





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Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309



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That Was the Week That Was

Theme song from That Was The Week That Was  (1962–63)

Music and Lyrics by Ron Grainer
 (11 Aug 1922 - 21 Feb 1981)

Sung by Millicent Martin (b. 08 June 1934)

That was the week that was,
It's over, let it go.
That was the week that was,
It started way above par,
Finished way below.
That was the week that was,
It's over, let it slide.
That was the week that was,
I took him at his word,
He took me for a ride....

That was the week that was,
It's over, let it go.
That was the week that was,
I've got a lot to say
But nothing left to show.

On Monday he gave me no beautiful things,
On Tuesday, no diamonds,
On Wednesday, no rings,
On Thursday he failed to add gold to my stack,
On Friday, no mink found its way to my back,
Saturday is known to be my best shopping day,
But I soon found out that he
Was giving nothing away.....

That was the week that was,
It's over, let it be.
That was the week that was,
It may have been all right for you,
But not for me.
That was the week that was,
It's over, let it go.
Oh, what a week that was
That was the week that was.....

"That Was the Week That Was" lyrics (partially) transcribed by Webmistress - 06/11/13

Animated Flower
Divider Line clip art courtesy of - well, I cannot locate that information at the moment, but it's been in my files for many years.

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Animated Army Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of - 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

American School Logo courtesy of - 09/05/06

Eastlake High School Logo courtesy of - 10/17/07

Animated Big Hugs Smiley clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 06/19/09
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Animated Kissing Smiley clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 11/07/07
Thanks, Al!

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