Dear Friends and Schoolmates,   

   This Newsletter is one I hoped I'd never have to write, and will be heavily amended over the next few hours and days.

   My brother-in-law,   Miles Nowitzky (Granby HS - '50), beloved husband of my sister,    Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky ('59) of NC, passed away at 12:20 this morning in Fayetteville, NC, after an illness of six weeks.

George Miles Nowitzky, Jr.

FAYETTEVILLE, NC - George Miles Nowitzky Jr., 73, of 862 Whispering Pines Road, Fayetteville, died Saturday, May 7, 2005,
in Cape Fear Valley Medical Center.

Mr. Nowitzky was born January 11, 1932 in Norfolk, VA. He was a 1950 graduate of Granby High School and a 1954 graduate
of Virginia Military Institute, where he was named state wrestling champion in 1954. He served with the Army and was employed
as a civil engineer with the corps of engineers. He was vice president of R.D. Lambert & Son before becoming a physical
facilities project manager for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

At the time of his death, Mr. Nowitzky was serving as bishop of the Fayetteville First Ward of the Fayetteville NC Stake of The
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

The funeral will be conducted at 10 a.m. Wednesday, May 11, 2005, in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 6420
Morganton Road, with President Joseph Catlett officiating. Burial will be at 4 p.m. Wednesday in Forest Lawn Cemetery,
Norfolk, VA.

The family will receive friends two hours prior to the service Wednesday at the church.

Mr. Nowitzky is survived by his wife, Eleanor B. Nowitzky, of the home; two daughters, Shari Chapman of Pennsylvania and
Renee Wallace of Virginia; a son, Kevin Dick of North Carolina; and 17 grandchildren.

He was preceded in death by two sons, Herman Miles "Chip" Nowitzky and Norman G. Nowitzky.

Arrangements are being handled by Jernigan-Warren Funeral Home, Fayetteville.

Published in the Fayetteville Observer on 5/8/2005 (amended).

http://www.fayettevillenc.com/obituaries/

1950 - Granby High School, Norfolk, VA	1950 - Granby High School, Norfolk, VA	1954 - Virginia Military Institute, Lexington, VA	1969 - Newly Blended Family, Norfolk, VA	29 Oct 1969 - Halloween Party, Norfolk, VA
Miles Nowitzky	Miles Nowitzky	Miles Nowitzky	Chip, Miles, Kevin, Eleanor, Shari, Renee, and Norman	Miles and Eleanor Nowitzky; Carol and Paul Harty
31 Dec 1977 - New Year's Eve Party, Norfolk, VA	11 June 1982 - Norfolk, VA	25 Dec 1982 - Christmas Morning, Norfolk, VA	13 May 1985 - Mother's Day, Richmond, VA
Paul and Carol Harty; Miles and Eleanor Nowitzky	Miles and Norman Nowitzky	Miles Nowitzky	Miles and Eleanor
1987 - Fayetteville, NC	1987 - Fayetteville, NC	06 June 1992 - Fayetteville, NC	14 Dec 2002 - Christmas Party, Fayetteville, NC	08 Nov 2003 - Fayetteville, NC
Eleanor and Miles	Miles Nowitzky	Miles and Eleanor	"King" Miles	Miles and Eleanor

   Our thoughts. prayers, and deepest sympathies are extended to Eleanor and family and friends at this time.

   Expressions of sympathy may be sent to Eleanor at 862 Whispering Pines Road, Fayetteville, NC 28311, or emailed
to eMiles@iGlide.net.  If that bounces, just send it to me at NNHS65@yahoo.com and I will forward them.

  From Me ('65) of NC - 05/07/05 - WHAT A DIFFERENCE A DAY MAKES.........

   Okay, back to    Miles (Nowitzky - Granby HS - '50).  As you might recall, in the five weeks he's been ill, his condition seemed to swing from good to bad, from hopeful to hopeless, every other day.  On Wednesday, May 4, he had improved to such an extent that his doctor told him that he would probably be released to return home on Wednesday, May 11.  But on Thursday, he developed some horrible breathing problem, the details of which have eluded me, and he was placed back on a ventilator.

   On Friday, May 6, instead of his bouncing right back again as he has in the past, my sister   (Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky - '59) received a 2:00 AM call from the hospital telling her to return immediately.  When she arrived, Miles was alert and well enough looking that she asked the staff why she was summoned.  They told her that his blood pressure had plummeted to dangerous levels.  They enjoyed some real quality time together, and then Miles (who had lost 35 pounds during this ordeal) began to have extreme swelling of his abdomen.  After joking about his "triplets", at 11:00 AM he was taken to exploratory surgery to determine the cause, whether it was an infection or something that could be stitched back together.

   What they found was that his small intestine had deteriorated to such an extent that it could not be repaired - no stitching, no cutting and pasting, it simply wasn't viable.  They stitched him back together, and said that this time, there really was nothing more that they could do, and that his earthly time was very short, and further, that he probably would not regain consciousness.

   Paul and Adrienne and I were at the hospital last night from about 5:00 PM to 10:00 PM, along with a steady stream of Miles' and Eleanor's closest friends.  The hospital staff was marvelous, gracious, and kind to all of us.  They said that even though he couldn't answer, that Miles could hear and understand what we told him - so we did.  We all laughed and cried together, and recited old stories and adventures, and tried to sing him his old silly songs of which only he knew all the words and verses, and told him how much we loved him, and how deeply he had enriched and blessed our lives, and thanked him, and kissed him goodbye.

   Miles held on until 12:20 this morning, then he opened his eyes and looked at his wife and grandson for a moment or two, and slipped peacefully away.  The visitation will be here in Fayetteville on Wednesday morning at 8:00 AM at the Fayetteville West Stake Center of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints on Morganton Road, with the funeral to follow at 10:00 AM.  After a light luncheon, we will then drive up to Norfolk for the 4:00 PM grave dedication and burial at Forest Lawn Cemetery.

   If you're able to join us there, we would welcome you with open arms.

   Miles' second son, Norman, died on February 18, two weeks after his 45th birthday:

http://www.nnhs65.00freehost.com/02-18-05-NNHS-Norman-Nowitzky.html

   He and Eleanor celebrated their 36th wedding Anniversary on March 6.

   So the doctor was right.  Miles will be going home next Wednesday; it just won't be the home we all had in mind.  This wasn't the plan any of us would have chosen, but then, of course, we are not the ones in charge of The Plan.

"In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years."

- Abraham Lincoln (12 Feb 1809 - 15 Apr 1865)

 From My Niece, Shari, in PA - 05/07/05:

  From Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA - 05/07/05:

   Thank you so much, Wayne.

 From Jean Baker Howell ('69) of VA - 05/07/05:

Carol, I was so sorry to hear about your brother-in-law. Your sister and the whole family are in my prayers.

Jean Baker Howell, Class of '69

   Thank you, Jean.

 From Dave Spriggs ('64) of VA - 05/07/05:

My deepest condolences to Eleanor and all your family.

... I am amazed that you published a newsletter at all. Just like you to place the announcement at the end
so that everyone could enjoy the beginning.

Dave

   What a sweet thing to say.  Thank you so very much, David, for your kindness and assistance as well

 From Cathy Slusser Hudson ('64) of VA - 05/07/05:

Carol:

I am deeply saddened by the passing of Miles. I didn't know him but as you have talked about him in the newsletters
so often I feel that I knew him. Please extend my sympathy to all your family. I will keep you and all the family and
friends in my prayers.

Cathy

   Thank you, Cathy.  That's very kind of you.

  From Ron Miller ('59) of NC - 05/07/05:

Carol -- what terrible news! Our thoughts and prayers are with Eleanor and her family, and you and yours.
Wish I had had a chance to know Miles -- he sounded like a very special person.

Ron

    Thanks so much, Ron.  Miles was a very special person!  Everyone who knew him had a collection of "Miles stories" which
they could relate with great relish, because Miles had a way of creating fun and excitement wherever he went.  And he had a
pure and genuine love for people that was so obvious to all.  I wish you could have known him, too.

 From Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 05/07/05:

Carol: 

Please give Eleanor and the family our love and tell them our prayers are with them.  Such a loss, and such a strong man. 
Family and friends who knew him were surly blessed by his strength and his life.

Take care - Much love, Sarah

   Thank you, Miss Sarah  Miles was indeed all that.

  From Jamey Douglas Bacon ('66) of VA - 05/08/05:

Carol

I was so sorry to hear of your loss; my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know you all are going to miss him.

Fondly, Jamey

   Thank you, Jamey.  It does seem so strange without him.  Miles was just always, always there.  I keep waiting for the phone
to ring in the morning with Miles on the other end telling me some outrageous story or other, and I wait in vain.

  From Pam Smith Arnold ('65) of VA - 05/08/05:

Carol,

I guess today is somewhat bittersweet for you and Eleanor. Our thoughts and prayers are with her, you and both
of your families. She has had a very rough year. I hope her memories and children are a consolation and comfort,
and that the rest of the year will bring her some peace.

Love,
Cousin Pam

   Thank you so much, Cousin Pam.  It's such a comfort just having the wonderful friends and family that we do in times such
as these. 

  From Jean Poole Burton ('64) of RI - 05/08/05:

Dear Carol,

I had not checked my e-mail since Friday.  So sorry to hear about Miles.  Love and prayers to all of your family. 

Jean Burton '64

   Thanks, Jean.  We really appreciate that.

  From David Whitley ('67) of VA - 05/08/05:

Dear Carol,

... I hadn't read the last few newsletters, so I didn't know about Miles. I'm so sorry. Please accept my sympathies
and apologies for not checking earlier.

   Thank you, David - and apologies are certainly not necessary.  It happened very quickly, and I don't believe any of us
expected it to happen that way - including his physicians and nurses.

   And the sweetest thing happened.  After he had died, and the tubes were removed from his mouth, he had that wonderful
sweet "Miles" smile on his face, and Eleanor knew where he was, and what he was doing, and who he was meeting, and
she was comforted.

  From Shirley Caudill Williamson ('65) and Howard Williamson of VA - 05/08/05:

Carol,

I am so sorry for the loss of your brother-in-law. I didn't know him except for your talking about him on the e-mail.
He will be sadly missed by all his friends and family. I am sure that he is with our Lord and savior. Blessings to you all.

Shirley and Howard Williamson

   Thank you so much, Shirley and Howard.

  From Cheryl Mays Howard ('66) of VA - 05/08/05:

   Thank you so much, Frances.  I just didn't think it was going to happen this way.  I thought he would have the cardiac surgery,
and have a period of recovery, and then get well, and everything would go back to normal.  I just simply never envisioned this
outcome - even when it became obvious.

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  From Gail Kiger Bonsey ('Ferguson HS - '73) of OR - 05/09/05:

To Eleanor

cc- Carol
 

We all feel we knew your husband/you/your son and we all feel such sadness by your losses the past few months.

Your sis has a wonderful web page and she has brought such joy with it - we were all touched by your news. We feel like we knew them.  It sure is an admirable thing, such a strong, spiritual family you all have.

Sincerely, Gail (Kiger) Bonsey
Portland, Oregon

   Thank you, Gail.  Isn't it funny and grand how this all works together?  I've never met you before, and if perchance I ever saw
you, you were just a little bitty girl, yet I've come to know and love you too.

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  From Kathy Pilgrim Clark ('63) of VA - 05/09/05:

Carol, I am so sad to hear that Miles died.  There just aren't any words to express the sorrow I have for your family; this has been a tough year for you all.

 

You mentioned God's plan which is certainly fitting.  I over heard someone say recently: "Want to hear God laugh?  Tell Him your plan."  God's plan for us is far better than ours is; but it does take some of us a while to wake up and realize that. 

 

I am sure God is holding Miles' family tight in his arms at this moment and that's got to be the best feeling in the world.  I also know He'll be around to guide you in Miles' place as you finish the journey.

 

Sincerely, Kathy Clark

   Thank you, Kathy.  That is exactly so, exactly so.

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  From Tina Crowder Wescott ('65) of VA - 05/09/05:

Carol,

I was so saddened to hear the news about Miles' passing. I will continue to keep Eleanor and family and you and yours in my prayers. Although I didn't know Miles, with your words and thoughts that you posted on the newsletter, I felt as if he were an old friend and I saw him through your eyes. Remember the old saying? "Some people come into your life for a moment, some for a season, some for a life time and then there are those who leave their love on our heart forever!!" Miles seemed to fit that bill.

I know his family, friends and all who knew him will miss him deeply, but the memories that he left each of you with are forever!!!!!

Tina Wescott
Administrative Coordinator
Warwick Recreation Center
29 Copeland Lane, Newport News, Va. 23606

    Thank you so much, Tina.  That's all so true.

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  From Debby Fink Golden ('65) of MA - 05/10/05:

Carol,

So sorry to hear about your family's loss. You're all in my thoughts and prayers.

Debby Fink Golden '65

Deborah Golden, Director of Development
Gann Academy - The New Jewish High School of Greater Boston
333 Forest Street
Waltham  MA   02452

   Thank you, Debby.  We appreciate that so much.

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  From Dave Spriggs ('64) of VA - 04/15/06 - "  Miles":

Carol, I was in Forest Lawn on a project today. When I was done, I thought I would go by Miles' (Nowitzky - Granby HS - '50) plot and ensure that it was in proper order, which it is.
Saturday, April 15, 2005, 3:15 PM
Forest Lawn Cemetery, Norfolk, VA
Well, David, you Sweetie-Pie, you! How very thoughtful! I'll send that image to    Eleanor .(Buckley Nowitzky - '59 - of NC)... and I'm sure she'll be delighted to have it.    I really appreciate your doing that! Thanks so much!

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   Y'all take good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!

                          Love to all, Carol

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Carol Buckley Harty
219 Four Ply Lane
Fayetteville, NC 29311-9305
910-488-9408

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Where Can I Turn For Peace?

Words by Emma Lou Thayne (b. 1924)
Music by Jolene G. Meredith (b. 1935)
 

Where can I turn for peace? Where is my solace
When other sources cease to make me whole?
When with a wounded heart, anger, or malice,
I draw myself apart, Searching my soul?

Where, when my aching grows, Where, when I languish,
Where, in my need to know, where can I run?
Where is the quiet hand to calm my anguish?
Who, who can understand? He, only One.

He answers privately, Reaches my reaching
In my Gethsemane, Savior and Friend.
Gentle the peace he finds for my beseeching.
Constant he is and kind, Love without end.

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"Where Can I Turn for Peace?" midi (and available sheet music) courtesy of http://www.copypackmusic.com/peace.html;
extracted with the kind assistance of my # 5 son, Nathaniel Harty of IL - 02/03/05
Thanks, Nathaniel!

"Where Can I Turn for Peace?" lyrics courtesy of http://www.geocities.com/kat_427/princeofpeace.html - 01/27/05

Greg Olsen Paintings courtesy of http://gregolsengallery.com – 01/27/05

Blackwork Flowers Divider Line clip art courtesy of http://www.bravenet.com - 08/12/04

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