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04/07/13 - NNHS Newsletter -
You Made Me Love You

We lov'd, and we lov'd, as long as we could
Til our love was lov'd out in us both;

- John Dryden
(19 Aug 1631 - 12 May 1700)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates, 

   This song is one hundred years old now?!?  Seems like only yesterday.....

BONUS #1 - - Dear Mr. Gable, You Made Me Love You - Judy Garland - clip from Broadway Melody of 1938

BONUS #2 - - You Made Me Love You - Harry James / Helen Forrest  - clip from Private Buckaroo, 1942

BONUS #3 - - You Made Me Love You - Doris Day - clip from Love Me or Leave Me,  1955


"You Made Me Love You (I Didn't Want to Do It)" is a popular song. The music was written by James V. Monaco, the lyrics by Joseph McCarthy. The song was published in 1913. It was introduced in the Broadway revue The Honeymoon Express and used in the 1973 revival of the musical Irene.

One of the earliest recordings of the song was by Al Jolson. Jolson recorded the song on June 4, 1913. It was released on Columbia A-1374. He performed it on the soundtrack of the 1946 film The Jolson Story and recorded it on March 20, 1946. The record was released on Decca 23613.

Roger Edens wrote additional lyrics to the song for Judy Garland. The new lyrics cast Garland in the role of a teenage fan of Clark Gable. Garland sang the song to Gable at a birthday party thrown for him by Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer. MGM executives were so charmed by her rendition that she and the song were added to the film Broadway Melody of 1938. Garland recorded the "Gable" version on September 24, 1937. It was released on Decca 1463. MGM released the song as a b-side in 1939, opposite Garland's recording of "Over the Rainbow" for The Wizard of Oz.[1]


1. Dorothy Martin Link - 04/07/13 - "e-mail address":

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   Thank you, Dorothy - welcome aboard!


        From Dave Spriggs ('64) of VA - 03/20/13, 4:46 PM - "     Dave Arnold's ('65) (12 Aug 1947 - 21 July 2012) Final Resting Place":


Please post this in an upcoming newsletter.

Dave Arnold’s Ashes to be Distributed by Civil War Cannon at Fort Shenandoah on April 13th

My good friend, Dave Arnold (NNHS ’65), died tragically on 21 July 2012, as a result of an automobile accident. In accordance with his wishes, his body was cremated.

It was also his wish that his ashes be distributed in the Shenandoah Valley. Dave loved "the Valley" (as he called it) of Virginia. He grew up in the Tidewater area, but his heart remained in the Valley area of Virginia. It is only fitting that his ashes should find their final home there.

It is also only fitting that his ashes should be distributed by being fired from his very own cannon, which he was having fabricated, so that he could more fully participate with the 1st Virginia, his skirmish group, which is a part of the North-South Skirmish Association.

His final wish will now be fulfilled, thanks to the efforts of his fellow Civil War skirmishers.

On April 13 at 12:00 noon, this ceremony will take place at Ft. Shenandoah at the primary range where the skirmish events are held. Attendees will enter and pass the range keeper's house, and there are signs to the main range.

All are welcome to attend. Dave would have been thrilled to have you watch his cannon being fired on the skirmish field. I can think of no greater way in which to honor his memory.

Fort Shenandoah is owned and operated by the North-South Skirmish Association and is located near Winchester VA.

You can learn more at their web site:

Directions are here:

For GPS users, the street address is “480 Chalybeate Spring Road, Winchester VA, 22603”.

   Oh, WOW! I had no idea! We wish we could make it ourselves, but I think the chances of that are infinitesimally small.....

  Thank you so much for letting me know, David!

April 13, 1861 American Civil War: Fort Sumter surrendered to Southern forces.


   Happy Birthday today to   Marc Snyder ('65) of NC!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

09 -   Denise Roane (Hampton HS - '71) of VA;

10 -      Dale Parsons, Sr. (June '48) of VA AND    Skip Wood ('65) of NC;

11 -     Brownie Shaffer Haracivet ('62) of VA AND   Susan Avent Hill ('66) of VA AND    Kathy Cooper ('70) of VA;

12 - Harvey Weinstein ('57) AND   Richard Rawls ('71) of VA;

13 -   Gil Hughes ('64);

14 -   Linda DeShazo Hatchett (’65) of VA!

   Many Happy Returns to You All!


April 06, 1941 - Nazi Germany launched Operation 25 (the invasion of Kingdom of Yugoslavia) and Operation Marita (the invasion of Greece).

April 06, 1945 - Sarajevo was liberated from German and Croatian forces by the Yugoslav Partisans.

April 06, 1945 - The Battle of Slater's Knoll on Bougainville came to an end.


April 07, 1943 - Holocaust: In Terebovlia, Ukraine, Germans ordered 1,100 Jews to undress to their underwear and march through the city of Terebovlia to the nearby village of Plebanivka where they were shot dead and buried in ditches.

April 07, 1943 - Ioannis Rallis became collaborationist Prime Minister of Greece during the Axis Occupation..

April 07, 1945 - The Japanese battleship Yamato, the largest battleship ever constructed, was sunk by American planes 200 miles north of Okinawa while en route to a suicide mission in Operation Ten-Go.

April 07, 1945- Visoko was liberated by the 7th, 9th, and 17th Krajina brigades from the Tenth division of Yugoslav Partisan forces.


Saturday, April 06, 1963 - The President of Ecuador, Rafael Correa, was born Rafael Vicente Correa Delgado in Guayaquil, Ecuador.

Saturday, April 06, 1963 - Astronomer Otto Struve (Отто Людвигович Струве) (b. Otto Lyudvigovich Struve on 12 Aug 1897 in Kharkiv, Russian Empire) died in Berkeley, California at the age of 65.


Sunday, April 07, 1963 - Duke of Lugo Jaime de Marichalar was born Jaime de Marichalar y Sáenz de Tejada in Pamplona, Spain.

Sunday, April 07, 1963 - Actor, photographer, and model Paul Michael Robinson was born.

      From Phil ('64) of FL - 04/05/13 - "RE:    The late Allen Hall, Class of 1961 (22 Oct 1941 - 17 Feb 2013)":


I have attached a picture of Allen’s military salute at his final resting place in Lake Worth National Cemetery. He is finally at peace and in a much better place. We are glad to be able to fulfill his final wishes.



   Thank you so much, Phil! I've added this image to the In Memoriam page for the Class of 1961:


   Again, you and    Sylvia (Hall Hammond - '66) have my deepest sympathies.

        From My Husband, Paul Harty (Bardolph HS, IL - '61) of NC - 04/06/13 - "How to get to Heaven: too good not to share":

This is cute :)  Thought you might enjoy it.


I was testing the children in my Sunday School class to see if they understood the concept of getting to heaven.

"If I sold my house and my car, had a big garage sale and gave all my money to the church, would that get me into Heaven?" I asked the children in my Sunday School class.

"NO!" the children all answered.

"If I cleaned the church every day, mowed the yard, and kept everything neat and tidy, would that get me into Heaven?"

Again, the answer was, "NO!

"Well, then, if I was kind to animals and gave candy to all the children, and loved my wife, would that get me into Heaven?" I asked them again.

Again, they all answered, "NO!"

"Well," I continued, "then how can I get into Heaven?"

A five-year-old boy shouted out, "YOU GOTTA BE DEAD!

     Thanks, Dools!

From - 04/01/13 - "Embracing Your Anger":

How To Make Anger Your Ally

By Laura B. Young

"Creative energy that is not being rightly used..." (Osho, 1999)

A Master lived in the mountains. He answered several of life's hard questions for the inquirer without hesitation. When asked how to handle anger, he broke his walking stick in half and bellowed, "Do you think I'd be living alone in this deserted place if I had the answer to that?" Sooner or later we all have to come down from the mountain, and deal with fellow humans in the market place. Someone is invariably going to step on our toe, OUCH!!

I have seen anger expressed in many of its forms, by omission and commission. We often have a signature way of expressing anger; a way of being angry that we automatically use over and over again when we are in conflict. Habits have power over us when we remain unaware and react unconsciously.

Anger in and of itself is not good or bad, it is just a feeling. Feelings well up in us without conscious invitation. It is what you do with the feelings that will make a difference in the quality of your life. Most of us do not know how to express anger appropriately; we have never been taught. Anger is feared, denied, projected and denounced. Often people associate any expression of anger with the extreme end of the spectrum, that of violence. Often and especially in relationships, it is the inability to express anger properly, that can escalate into violence.

On an anger spectrum; at one end we see irritability, grumpiness, negativity, criticism, resentment and judgmental behavior. These are milder forms of anger, but anger nonetheless. Our society seems to be more tolerant of the lesser forms, and our family conditioning allows it. Maybe because it is so prevalent, it is not addressed for what it really is inappropriate anger that has not been addressed. The milder expressions denied and concealed are the ways some people let out frustration in little spurts, denying that it is anger and calling it something else. In the middle, there is anger that is less intense than violence and more amenable to appropriate expression. As it moves towards the other side, we encounter greater intensity as rage, fury, indignation and wrath. So where are you on this spectrum? Generally every individual has a troublesome spot.

Clinically, with the exception of violent people who are so extreme, it is the anger avoiders that have more work to do. They deny their anger, or fear it and fear it in others. They are also more likely to project it onto others. Not me, but them. Often avoiders since childhood have pushed down angry feelings and may not be able to identify anger in their lives. Nobody helped them differentiate violence from normal levels of dissatisfaction that could be assertively and cleanly expressed.

Studies have shown that recognizing and expressing anger appropriately leads to positive outcomes. Some such outcomes are: improved health, intimacy, creative expansion as a person, as well as liberating old patterns of social injustice. When strong accumulation of energy arises within us, sometimes red hot, a change needs to take place. Another less acknowledged positive function of anger is that it has the power to override apathy, guilt and helplessness. This gives us enough energy for self direction, a fulcrum that may lead us out of the stuck places of lower energy in which we find ourselves.

The conscious and unconscious being in conflict is like having a "blind spot." For example, a woman I know denied being angry. She had answers for resolving many things by telling her family to "turn the other cheek". She, however, loved to attend boxing matches and football games. She was videoed by her son when she got excited at these public spectator sports yelling, "Kill him! Kill him!" Monday morning she was back to her 'other cheek' way. She was unable to connect the dots as to how she projected her denied rage onto others. Her three children felt unheard and experienced having no permission to express anything that was not sweetness and light in her presence." She couldn't express her own anger directly and caused her children and others around her to feel guilty when they had their feelings. She controlled others and frustrated them with conflicting messages.

It is easier to work with anger that is available. Sometimes it is not pretty, and can be quite toxic; however it is more available for exploration and change than the suppressed and the denied. Anger is passion which indicates there is energy available for work if a person is ready to change. It is a big "if" due to the fact some people are addicted to anger. In the moment of their explosion, they feel powerful, and for others it is a "rush," a high that makes them feel at least temporarily more alive. Anger then feeds the addiction which is followed by a surge of adrenalin and other feel-good hormones. At this point it becomes more than a bad habit; it is emotional excitement. You may know of people who create some drama when life evens out. For people who rely on their anger in this way, to feel more alive.

We all encounter daily situations that can, if we allow, trigger our anger. If we reacted to every opportunity to get angry, we would be constantly angry. Consider people who carry a well of shame, a high level of sensitivity and low level of self esteem; the slightest criticism may set off any or all of these characteristics. It can become explosive and blaming as well as projected onto whoever gets in their way. Inside of the raging adult is a child possessed, feeling vulnerable and out of control. Road Rage for example.

Changing anger without compassion may change into something else we often see in our society. An instance is when an alcoholic stops drinking without understanding and compassion, and denounces other alcoholics who did not do it his way. From my experience, we do not forgive ourselves or others until we develop compassion. It also means having compassion for yourself again and again, as the old habits come back to visit.

Anger is passion and if we do not know how to express it in a healthy, assertive way, we suppress a spectrum of emotions as we cannot selectively suppress emotions. If we suppress anger we also take the edge off of our positive emotions. The consequences of suppressing are a flat lining of joy, happiness, energy and creativity in our lives. It takes an enormous amount of energy to sit on anger and split it off from our real living experience. Poet Eric Hopper said "Anger is a prelude to courage." He could have added that anger also is a prelude to intimacy, creativity and passion in life.

This article is an excerpt from Laura Young's book Journey into a Passionate Life: The companion workbook provides proven techniques on how to address anger problems and redirect that energy, allowing your anger to work for you!

About the Author:

"My commitment, actually my passion is to help people become more fully alive". Laura B. Young
Laura B Young (LPC, LMFT, and CCH) is the Official Guide to Manifestation, a psychotherapist, author, and radio show host with thirty years of clinical experience. In 1992 she established her Private Practice: Life Resource Center.
Specializing in grief resolution, relationship struggles, and the challenges of life transitions... She has written numerous articles for regional magazines. She became a contributing writer on Self as The Manifestation Expert. since 2009.
Her books include:
The Nature of Change
Journey into a Passionate Life (and companion workbook)
How to Manifest What You REALLY Want! (an audio program with workbook) More information may be found on

PEACOCKS AND POMEGRANATES: - Shawki's Redwork Peacock - "This little peacock is based on a crochet pattern for a pillow that was published back in 1911. I modified the original design to adapt it to cross-stitch, and think that it would be particularly suited for redwork. Hope you enjoy it too!" - Herbert Niebling's Knitted Lace Round PomegranateTablecloth - $10.00

     From Me, of NC - 04/06/13:


  From My Friend, Evelyn Dudzinski Griffis (Mars Hill HS, PA - '75) of NY - 04/06/13 - "Growing Potatoes":


COOL BEANS (or POTATOES )! Thanks, Evelyn!




From - 04/05/13:

A woman decided to have her portrait painted. She told the artist, "Paint me with diamond rings, a diamond necklace, emerald bracelets, a ruby broach, and a gold Rolex."

"But you are not wearing any of those things," he replied.

"I know," she said. "It's in case I should die before my husband. I'm sure he will remarry right away, and I want his new wife to go crazy looking for the jewelry."


1. Wednesday, April 10, 2013 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

2. Thursday, May 2, 2013 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

3.Friday and Saturday, October 4 and 5, 2013 - The NNHS Class of 1963 will hold their 50-Year Reunion at the Crowne Plaza Hotel, Hampton on the Water. SEE: The website which has been set up for their class at; CONTACT: Frank Gibson,, Joyce Williams Nettles,, or Susie Overton Jones,

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Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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You Made Me Love You (I Didn't Want to Do It)

Music by James V. Monaco
(13 Jan 1885 – 16 Oct 1945)

Lyrics by Joseph McCarthy
(27 Sept 1885 – 18 Dec 1943)

From The Honeymoon Express, 1913

You made me love you
I didn't want to do it, I didn't want to do it
You made me love you
and all the time you knew it
I guess you always knew it.
You made me happy sometimes, you made me glad
But there were times, Dear, you made me feel so bad

You made me sigh for, I didn't want to tell you
I didn't want to tell you
I want some love that's true, yes I do, deed I do, you know I do

Give me, give me, give me what I cry for
you know you got the brand of kisses that I'd die for
You know you made me love you

"You Made Me Love You" midi courtesy of - 04/05/05

"You Made Me Love You" lyrics courtesy of - 04/05/05

Peach Heart Wreath clip art courtesy of - 04/05/05

Peach Rose Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 04/05/05

Animated "NEW" clip art courtesy of - 03/07/06

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Animated Air Force and Army Flags clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Animated Laughing Frog courtesy of Joyce Lawrence Cahoon of VA - 05/31/08
Thanks, Joyce!

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