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04/05/11 - NNHS Newsletter - Love Me or Leave Me

“If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say
no more than because he was he, and I was I.”

Michel de Montaigne
(28 Feb 1533 - 13 Sept 1592)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,   

   I've grown accustomed to receiving Newsletter theme songs from my Magic Shower and Haunted Radio, but this is the first time   a kitty cat ever supplied me with one.  Strangely, he sounded just like Doris Day.  I dunno.  I mean, I know he's an awesome kitty cat, but I can't figure out how he did that.  Maybe he's a ventriloquist..... 

   I'm throwing in a bonus clip for Ruth Etting, just because it was her song originally.

BONUS - - Love Me or Leave Me - Doris Day, 1955

BONUS - - Love Me or Leave Me - Ruth Etting, 1928


"Love Me or Leave Me" is a U.S. popular song from the 1920s.

The music was written by Walter Donaldson and the lyrics by Gus Kahn. The song was introduced in the Broadway play, Whoopee!, which opened in December 1928[1]. Ruth Etting's performance of the song was so popular that she was also given the song to sing in the play Simple Simon, which opened in February 1930[1].

The original version of the song, the biggest-selling at the time, was recorded by Ruth Etting on December 17, 1928. It was issued by Columbia Records as catalog number 1680-D[1], with the flip side "I'm Bringing a Red, Red Rose," another Donaldson/Kahn composition[2]. The song reached #2 on the charts in 1929...

As the song was considered to be one of Etting's biggest hits, its title was chosen for the 1955 biographical movie about her life, in which Doris Day played Etting. Day's recording of the song, from the soundtrack, became a major hit for her...


     From Me ('65) of IL for        My Daughter, Adrienne (Harty - Hillsboro HS, IL / American School, IL - of IL) who is having oral surgery this morning to remove three impacted wisdom teeth in preparation for serving an 18-month mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in a couple of months.  She'll need to return to college and work Wednesday morning even though she'll still be swollen, in pain, medicated, dizzy, and unable to talk very much.

   Thanks so much!  



     Happy Birthday tomorrow to   Gerald Leonard ('66) of VA AND Aaron (Hank) Smith ('69)!  

     Happy Birthday this week to:

07 -   Marc Snyder ('65) of NC;

09 -   Denise Roane (Hampton HS - '71) of VA;

10 -      Dale Parsons, Sr. (June '48) of VA AND    Skip Wood ('65) of NC;

11 -     Brownie Shaffer Haracivet ('62) of VA AND   Susan Avent Hill ('66) of VA AND    Kathy Cooper ('70) of VA;

12 -   Harvey Weinstein ('57) AND  Richard Rawls ('71) of VA!

   Many Happy Returns to You All!


   Hit # 104,000 was made on Monday, April 4, 2011 at 6:57 AM by an unknown user from Hampton Roads, VA.


Tuesday, April 4, 1865

Abraham Lincoln walked the streets of Richmond, mobbed by grateful former slaves, and toured the home of Jefferson Davis, which Davis had vacated two days before when his army could no longer defend his nation’s capital. Davis wrote his remaining citizens that, depressing as the loss of Richmond was, they should not give up “despite reverses, no matter how calamitous.” Given the circumstances it seems unlikely that too many people heard this, and less likely that anyone who did took it seriously.


Saturday, April 5, 1862

Yorktown, Va., was the venue for fun on the Peninsula today. Gen. John Magruder, CSA, was defending with inadequate numbers. He faced Gen. George McClellan, USA, who had twice as many men. Magruder’s solution was to march his troops around in a large circle, making it appear to McClellan’s scouts that huge numbers of reinforcements were arriving. McClellan became nervous and dug in for siege instead of attacking. The real reinforcements, under J.E. Johnston, were on the way.

    From Ray Barnes ('65) of VA - 04/04/11 - "update and get well wishes":

Hey Carol,

I hope you are feeling better today. I just got off the phone with
      Dave Arnold ('65 - of VA) and he said that you were "feeling poorly", as we southerners say. Dave has entered my profile info into the NNHS class of '65 files. I have used the Typhoon website to catch up on deaths, grandchildren, reunions, vacations, etc. I emailed      Janice McCain Rose ('65 - of Northern VA) and she wrote back.         Dave Spriggs ('64 - of VA) dropped me a line. He is a CNU alumnus, also.

When you are doing better would you please give my email address and phone numbers and home address to   Steve Burns ('65 - of MN)? I would love to hear from him if he chooses to contact me.....

Sometime you could drop me a line, maybe?

Best regards, Ray Barnes

p.s. I've been married for 25 years and I have two daughters, one grandson, and one granddaughter. I'm not a stalker, honest. Ha!

   Hi, Ray!  So glad you're reconnecting with everyone - isn't it fun?!?

   I'm feeling better, thanks (though a bit like    Gumby) - still can't sing for the eleventh day in the row, but hey!

         Paul (Harty - Bardolph HS, IL - '61 of IL) got worse, and had to go see the doctor Monday morning to pick up some antibiotics...

   I've sent your contact information to Steve... I'm not worried that you're stalking - but that's funny!  Oh - I have thirteen grandchildren, ranging from 19 years to eight months. When everyone stops pulling me in six directions at once, I'll drop you a more intelligible note.....

   Oh - send me your birthday and any military service. You know how CDO I am. That's OCD with the letters arranged in the proper alphabetical order.....


Hey Carol, great to hear back from you, especially so quickly. My b/day is Oct. 29, '46 and military service was USAF 1966-1970 with honorable discharge.

Thanks for the newsletters and other info, much appreciated!! I pray that your hubby is doing better soon...

And, yes, it is fun re-connecting. When I heard Dave Arnold's voice on the phone, my spirits just soared.

Warmest regards, Ray

   COOL BEANS! Thanks so much, Ray - glad you finally joined us!

   I added your name to our birthday page:   

      From Phil Hammond ('64) of UT - 04/04/11 - "Spring Snow, Will it ever stop!":

Hi to all you skiers,

You are missing a great spring in the mountains.  We have had two large storms this week and expect more on Thursday.  This one left 14 inches over two days at Deer Valley.  The skiing is great for this time of year but you better hurry, we close Sunday the 10th.  I will actually be glad. 

I will go to Salt Lake on Monday to play a golf course somewhere.  Monday is a holiday for the resorts.

If anyone plans to be in Cabo April 25, let me know.  I need a warm vacation after this winter!

Saturday, March 26, 2011 Saturday, April 2, 2011


   GIGGLES! BOY HOWDY! I think everyone is ready for some real springtime weather! Thanks for the gorgeous images, Phil! (Loved the fat birdy in the trees!)

   From Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 04/03/11 - "Best e-mail of the day":


As I came out of the supermarket that sunny day, pushing my cart of groceries towards my car, I saw an old man with the hood of his car up and a lady sitting inside the car, with the door open.

The old man was looking at the engine. I put my groceries away in my car, and continued to watch the old gentleman from about twenty five feet away.

I saw a young man in his early twenties with a grocery bag in his arm walking towards the old man. The old gentleman saw him coming too, and took a few steps towards him.

I saw the old gentleman point to his open hood and say something. The young man put his grocery bag into what looked like a brand new Cadillac Escalade. He then turned back to the old man. I heard him yell at the old gentleman saying:

'You shouldn't even be allowed to drive a car at your age.' And then with a wave of his hand, he got in his car and peeled rubber out of the parking lot.

I saw the old gentleman pull out his handkerchief, and mop his brow as he went back to his car and again looked at the engine.

He then went to his wife and spoke with her; he appeared to tell her it would be okay. I had seen enough, and I approached the old man. He saw me coming and stood straight, and as I got near him I said, 'Looks like you're having a problem.'

He smiled sheepishly, and quietly nodded his head. I looked under the hood myself, and knew that whatever the problem was, it was beyond me. Looking around, I saw a gas station up the road, and I told the old man that I would be right back. I drove to the station and went I inside. I saw three attendants working on cars. I approached one of them, and related the problem the old man had with his car. I offered to pay them if they could follow me back down and help him.

The old man had pushed the heavy car under the shade of a tree and appeared to be comforting his wife When he saw us he straightened up and thanked me for my help. As the mechanics diagnosed the problem (overheated engine), I spoke with the old gentleman.

When I shook hands with him earlier, he had noticed my Marine Corps ring and had commented about it, telling me that he had been a Marine too. I nodded and asked the usual question, 'What outfit did you serve with?'

He had mentioned that he served with the First Marine Division at Tarawa, Saipan, Iwo Jima and Guadalcanal ....

He had hit all the big ones and retired from the Corps after the war was over. As we talked we heard the car engine come on and saw the mechanics lower the hood. They came over to us as the old man reached for his wallet, but was stopped by me. I told him I would just put the bill on my AAA card.

He still reached for the wallet and handed me a card that I assumed had his name and address on it and I stuck it in my pocket. We all shook hands all around again, and I said my goodbye's to his wife.

I then told the two mechanics that I would follow them back up to the station. Once at the station, I told them that they had interrupted their own jobs to come along with me and help the old man. I said I wanted to pay for the help, but they refused to charge me.

One of them pulled out a card from his pocket, looking exactly like the card the old man had given to me. Both of the men told me then that they were Marine Corps Reserves. Once again we shook hands all around and as I was leaving, one of them told me I should look at the card the old man had given to me. I said I would and drove off.

For some reason I had gone about two blocks, when I pulled over and took the card out of my pocket and looked at it for a long, long time. The name of the old gentleman was on the card in golden leaf and under his name was written: 'Congressional Medal of Honor Society.'

I sat there motionless, looking at the card and reading it over and over. I looked up from the card and smiled to no one but myself and marveled that on this day, four Marines had all come together because one of us needed help. He was an old man all right, but it felt good to have stood next to greatness and courage, and an honor to have been in his presence. Remember, OLD men like him gave you FREEDOM for America. Thanks to those who served and still serve, and to all of those who supported them, and who continue to support them.

America is not at war. The U.S. Military is at war. America is at the Mall. If you don't stand behind our troops, PLEASE feel free to stand in front of them!
Remember, Freedom isn't Free. Thousands have paid the price, so that you can enjoy what you have today.


This prayer is so powerful. Pass this prayer to 12 people, including me.

   AMEN! Thank you so much, Sarah Sugah!

      From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 04/04/11 - "A great exercise for a double chin and more":


A professor was giving a big test one day to his students. He handed out all of the tests and went back to his desk to wait.

Once the test was over, the students all handed the tests back in. The professor noticed that one of the students had attached a $100 bill to his test with a note saying, "A dollar per point."

The next class the professor handed the tests back out.

This student got back his test and $56 change.


Q: Where does virgin wool come from?

A: Ugly sheep!

Q: How are stupid dogs and dumb doctors alike?

A: Neither one can heel!



(I have been doing this for a week and can already see a difference. )

Place your thumb pads, one in front of the other, resting under the chin, fingers resting against the jawbone. As you press the tongue against the roof of the mouth, press and slide your thumbs, alternately, from front (directly under the chin) to back (to where the under chin meets the neck), making a rhythm of one thumb slide for every tongue press.

* Repeat 40 times

Feel the muscle work as you slide your thumbs against the underneath part of your chin.

Try this exercise twice a day for two weeks and you'll start to see the double chin area firming up.

Carolyn Cleaves is the owner/founder of Carolyn's Facial Fitness. She offers workshops, Self-learning Take-home Kits and advice. You can find out more by visiting her website at

This article can be seen in the magazine, "Voices of Choices", a free publication distributed in the Pacific Northwest, Oregon, Sedona and Hawaii. Visit their website at:


From Bizarre News

--- Georgia house infested with 20,000 bats ---

TIFTON, Ga. - An empty home in Georgia is infested with as many as 20,000 bats and officials say they've declared it unfit for human habitation until the bats are cleared.

"The interior and exterior walls are just full of guano," Melissa Skidmore of Tru Tech, an animal removal service, said of the
home in Tifton, Ga.

"Some of it is old and has turned to dust and it is just a cocktail of pathogens. People going in will need proper equipment to cover
their skin, clothes and noses. We are talking about between 10,000 and 20,000 bats," Skidmore told The Tifton Gazette Monday.

The infestation of Mexican free-tailed bats was one of the worse she had ever seen, she said. A local code enforcement officer said he had no choice but to post the declaration when he saw several live bats upstairs and spotted several dead bats on the bottom floor of the house. Local real estate agent Julie Smith said the house is in foreclosure with an agency that has a buyer interested in purchasing the house.

"The goal is for everyone to work together so that a family can live here safely," Smith said.


Motivating Thoughts and Quotes


Do it! Move it! Make it happen! No one ever sat their way to success, but remember, success is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get.

--H. Jackson Brown (paraphrased)


"Go within every day and find the inner strength so that the world will not blow your candle out."

- Katherine Dunham


Nature is a good way to remind us of our Heavenly Father. Take time today to look around you and remember God's goodness toward us.


Live, Walk, Choose and Practice

Live with intention.
Walk to the edge.
Listen hard.
Practice wellness.
Play with abandon.
Choose with no regret.
Appreciate your friends.
Continue to learn.
Do what you love.
Live as if this is all there is.

- Mary Anne Radmacher

   Thanks, Shari!

   From Carla Fine Cripps ('65) of Australia - 04/04/11 - "I'm So Proud!":

I'm So Proud!

Thought for the day ...

I don't want to brag or make anyone jealous or anything, 
   but I can still fit into the earrings I wore in high school. 

     OH, so can I! Thanks so much, Carla! This really made my day!

From - 04/04/11 - "Caring":

Do You Care or Curse?

By Anita Jefferson

Ultimately, that is the choice we make with our feelings hundreds of times a day-care or curse? The difference between the two often means happiness inside or despotic misery. The choice is real, most of the time automatic and situational, but once you begin to pay attention to your feelings and thoughts you will begin to realize that yes you do make one of the choices.

Interestingly, our natural proclivity is to care. You learn how to curse a situation. Watch the natural choices of a mother in the animal kingdom and you will see an innate caring instinct. But, for survival purposes that mother teaches her young how to curse, or become a predator, in the wild. Humans, who have the added faculty of intelligence, make the same choice-we learn how to curse certain situations based on feelings.

But, human choice to curse is usually made under the guise of the same notion of protection found in the animal kingdom. But, this is wrong. We learn to curse the unknown or what we fear, curse each other as competitors, damn those who are different, curse obstacles that come into our lives as an impediment which was dumped into our lap to make our lives difficult.

The natural human choice is to care. In spite of how often we are bombarded with instances where the volume of cursing is turned up to shrieking noise, caring still happens. Three four and five year old girls decided to sell their own drawings which they made with crayon and color markers to help the tsunami victims in Japan two days ago.

Why did they do it? They cared. A high school baseball coach donated a kidney to one of his players. He did it, in his words, "because I cared." A young man stops to help an elderly couple after an accident - he cared, too. Teachers teach because they care. Doctors and nurses save lives because they care. Daycare workers care. Architects care about the safety of a structure. Fathers care about their children. When you listen to someone without judgment, you care.

Those who curse care too, but in an inverted way. People who curse measure their care based on past memories of pain which them provokes them to shield caring in a cloak of bitter internalized nonchalance. But, the caring is there not far from the surface if you studied the air of a grumbling curmudgeon. Reasonably, this is true because it is natural to care. So, even though someone exhibits a hardened shell that looks like they curse the world, a persistent dose of caring attention will usually soften their seemingly bitter heart. They too have happiness inside and a caring sensitivity toward others.

This is not a sentimental musing. Honestly, it is not. F. W. Sears writes, "when we permit ourselves to condemn a thing because we say it is "bad" or condemn some person for any cause whatever, that is taking a destructive attitude toward that thing or person no matter how just we may think our position in the case may be we cannot relate with these negative, destructive currents in our thought world and expect constructive and harmonious effects..."

Make it a practice to care about the bitter and downtrodden, lots of people do. Pause for a moment to pick out caring moments that others do. Just last week I watched this new show, Secret Millionaire, on ABC. The tagline is, "Giving back never felt so good." The premise of the show, from its premiere episode, is for millionaires to live undercover, where others do not know they are wealthy, and spend time in the community with people who are serving are caring for others and then give a portion of their money away to strengthen the work those caring servants are doing which benefit others. On the premiere episode a woman, Dani Johnson, who was once homeless but became a millionaire, spent time in a food kitchen where two elderly twin ladies prepared hot food for those in the community who needed a hot meal. For the housebound, their volunteers visited with them when they took them their meals; what they did was care because often the visit was more healing than the food. Another lady on the show devoted her time, talent and money decorating rooms and granting wishes for children who were very sick. Even though she was a busy mother and wife, it was her calling to care to decorate these rooms with bright and cheerful motifs to uplift the spirits of the ill child and their devastated parents. The millionaire funded both of these causes with a gift of a check, but as importantly she connected to her heart of care.

You may not be a millionaire; neither am I, but what we do share is a willingness to care. Care just a little more about your neighbor, check in on someone who is sick or elderly, send a card you have not seen or talked to in a while, smile, show your happiness inside.

The main rule for caring is to do something for others with tenderness. Be tender and patient even with the one, human or animal, who has been scarred and appears to curse the world. Let them feel your care. Make a care investment everywhere, it is the harmonious thing to do.

About the Author:

Anita Jefferson cares about people and the lives we live. She is an encourager who lives each day as a gift. Learn empathy, practice caring.



There once was a "smart guy," a "not that smart guy," and an all round "not smart at all guy." They were going to cross the Sahara Desert.

The "smart guy" says, "meet here in an hour with something useful to cross the desert with!"

Later on an hour passes.

The "smart guy" says, "I brought some ice packs to keep our heads cool."

The "not so smart guy" says, "I brought a pail of water to keep us hydrated."

The "not smart at all guy" says, "I brought a car door so I can roll the window down when it gets hot!"


1. Thursday, April 7, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

2. Wednesday, April 13, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Saturday, April 30, 2011 - The NNHS Class will have a Luncheon. Team Leaders are Mickey Marcella ( - 757-249-3800), Betty Hamby Neher ( - 757-898-5099), and Dr. Harry Simpson ( - 804-694-0346). - CLASS OF 1954

4. Saturday, July 9, 2011 (6:30 PM to 11:30 PM) - The Class of 1971 will hold its 40-Year Reunion at Newport News Marriott at City Center, 740 Town Center Drive, Newport News. For details, contact Richard Rawls at - CLASS OF 1971

5. Saturday, August 20, 2011 - The Class of 1966 will hold its 45-Year Reunion at the Warwick Yacht Club, Newport News.  Further details will be available soon from Dee Hodges Bartram at - CLASS OF 1966

6. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, August 26, 27, and 28, 2011 - The Class of 1961 will hold its 50-Year Reunion. - For details, contact Gary Fitzgerald at - CLASS OF 1961

PRAYER ROLL : - updated 04/05/11

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

  Y'all take good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                           Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty

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Love Me or Leave Me (from Whoopee!, 1928)

Words by Walter Donaldson (15 Feb 1893 - 15 July 1947)

Music by
Gus Kahn (06 Nov 1886 – 08 Oct 1941)

This affair is killin' me
I can't stand uncertainty
Tell me now I've got to know
Whether you want me to stay or to go

Love me or leave me
Or let me be lonely
You won't believe me, I love you only
I'd rather be lonely
Then happy with someone else

You might find the night time
The right time for kissin'
But night time is my time
For just reminiscin'
Regrettin' instead of forgettin'
With somebody else

There'll be no one
Unless that someone is you
I intend to be independently blue
I want your love
But I don't want to borrow
To have it today to give it back tomorrow
For your love is my love
There's no love for nobody else

"Love Me or Leave Me" midi courtesy of - 04/03/11

"Love Me or Leave Me" lyrics courtesy of - 04/05/11

Animated "Love Me" title clip art courtesy of - 04/05/11

Pink String of Hearts Divider Line clip art - 11/17/05

Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of - 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!

American School Logo courtesy of - 09/05/06

Animated Kissing Smiley clip art courtesy of my friend, Judy Bundy Bowermaster (Litchfield HS, IL - '59), of IL - 09/19/08
Thanks, Judy!

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Page Hit Counter clip art courtesy of - 03/07/06

Air Force Seal clip art courtesy of - 07/07/06

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of - 05/29/06

Image of Gumby courtesy of - 04/06/11 (sic)

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Animated Laughing Jerry courtesy of Cookie Phillips Tyndall ('64) of VA - 06/14/06
Thanks, Cookie!

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