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02/09/11 - NNHS Newsletter -
It's All in the Game

“Love is an act of endless forgiveness,
a tender look which becomes a habit.”

Peter Ustinov
(16 Apr 1921 - 28 Mar 2004)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates, 

   Today's Newsletter theme comes to us indirectly from the ever gorgeous     Chandler Nelms (Hampton HS - '63) of MD who sent us that marvelous juke box recently:

   Thanks, Chandler!


BONUS #2 - - It's All In The Game - Tommy Edwards


"It's All in the Game" was a 1958 hit for Tommy Edwards. Carl Sigman composed the lyrics in 1951 to a wordless 1911 composition entitled "Melody in A Major," written by Charles Dawes, later Vice President of the United States under Calvin Coolidge. It is the only #1 pop single to have been cowritten by a U.S. Vice President.

The song has become a pop standard, with cover versions by dozens of artists, some of which have been minor hit singles.

Edwards' song ranked at #38 on Billboard's All Time Top 100.[1]

Dawes, a Chicago bank president and amateur pianist and flautist, composed the tune in 1911[2] in a single sitting at his lakeshore home in Evanston. He played it for a friend, the violinist Francis MacMillen, who took Dawes's sheet music to a publisher. Dawes, known for his federal appointments and a United States Senate candidacy, was surprised to find a portrait of himself in a State Street shop window with copies of the tune for sale. Dawes quipped, "I know that I will be the target of my punster friends. They will say that if all the notes in my bank are as bad as my musical ones, they are not worth the paper they were written on."

The tune, often dubbed "Dawes's Melody," followed him into politics, and he grew to detest hearing it wherever he appeared.[3] It was a favorite of violinist Fritz Kreisler, who used it as his closing number, and in the 1940s it was picked up by musicians such as Tommy Dorsey.[4]

In summer 1951, the songwriter Carl Sigman had an idea for a song, and Dawes's "Melody" struck him as suitable for his sentimental lyrics. Dawes had died in April of that year. It was recorded that year by Dinah Shore, Sammy Kaye, Carmen Cavallaro, and Edwards.[4] The Edwards version had most success, reaching #18 on the Billboard Best Sellers In Stores survey.[5] The range of the melody would have been "difficult to sing", so required rearrangement.[6] A jazz arrangement was recorded by Louis Armstrong (vocals) and arranger Gordon Jenkins, with "some of Armstrong's most honey-tinged singing." Jenkins would in 1956 produce a version with Nat King Cole along the same lines...[7]


     Happy Birthday today to   Tina Burroughs Farmer ('62) of VA AND     Janice McCain Rose ('65) of VA AND Elliott Smith ('65) of TX?? AND   Mary Frances Southall Waller ('66) of VA!

     Happy Birthday tomorrow to   Meyera Ellenson Oberndorf ('58) of VA AND     Norm Covert ('61) of MD AND Bobby Helmer ('61) of VA AND the late    Bernie Helmer ('61) (deceased 03/12/99) AND   Mike Miller ('65) of NC!

     Happy Birthday this week to:

11 -   Harmon Gordon ('63) of VA;

13 -    Carla Fine Cripps ('65) of Australia;

14 -      Jimmy Parker ('62) of VA AND My Niece,       Renee Dick Romulus (Booker T. Washington HS - '80) of Northern VA!

   Many Happy Returns to You All! 


February 09, 1861 - In a unanimous decision, Jefferson Davis of Mississippi was elected Provisional President of the Confederate States of America. Alexander Stephens joined him as Vice-President.

February 09, 1864 - In Washington, President Lincoln sat for several photographs, one of which can now be seen on the $5.00 bill.

    From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 02/08/11 - "The Orange Blossom Special Newsletter Theme":

Hi, Carol:

Seeing the theme of your Newsletter that arrived today, The Orange Blossom Special, this edition was read with great interest, suspecting that we might find another "Train" brain-teaser or riddle to solve. But that was not to be the case.

It appears a mother never forgets an expression on one of her children's face, even many years after an event.
So don't give us that line that you do not have a good memory any more!!! Seems your memory is well intact for the real issues of life.

Thanks for all you do for the TYPHOON Nation.

TYPHOON Regards,
Joe Madagan ('57) of FL

   DOUBLE GIGGLES!! Yeah, I thought that might start some train stories myself, but so far, not a single one has arrived.

   And I will readily admit to a strangely selective memory. Some things are seared within my mind.  I have one clear memory of being in my crib, one in my stroller, and one in my playpen.  I can vividly recall going with my family to the dedication of Byrd Airport; it was Saturday, April 1, 1950 - nearly five months before my third birthday. I can remember later that year of going with my mama to a meat market in Richmond to buy a duck for Thanksgiving dinner. And of course, I remember December of 1949 (I was two years and four months old) catching my first sight of a gloriously beautiful young Marine in his dress blues collecting for Toys for Tots in front of    Miller and Rhodes and falling hopelessly in love with Marines forevermore.

   But don't ask me about last week! Thanks, Adonis!

    From Linda May Bond Crayton ('66) of VA - 02/08/11 - "You- Me- Everybody":

Hi Miss Carol Honey Lamb!

I have been reading your newsletters and watching the news on TV (something I try NOT to do) and I was wondering where your pictures are of the' frozen tundra' in- your- neck- of- the- "woods".
      Phil's (Hammond - '64 - of UT) are always so VAST and EMPTY and WHITE, I have to admire him his strong will to live there. For me, ice cream in July is plenty. I'm a chicken. An old chicken.

My brother is doing just great. A little bossy but he's older. My car which was 16 (that's 50 in car years) was dying a slow death so I traded it in on a "newer" one, just to be safe. After all, if I do take Toni up on the interstate and leave him I want a fast get away!

You're probably unaware of this but in order to get my driver's license I had to, not only work in a gas station, but had to do "flat tire" drills for my father. He would blow a whistle and I had to go out and change the tire. That was on the Kaiser. I weighed 99 pounds and the tire was 68 pounds. So we had two jacks, one for the car and one for the tire. He told me it was unlikely a man would stop and help me (plain looking-not my fault; red headed-probably my fault).

Lets face it, that man did not want to share his car!
This isn't so bad. Betty (Bond Spatafore - '63) never got one and 
 Rosie (Rosalie Bond Holt - '65 - of VA) had to wait until she got married. As for    Ricki (Bond Giles - '60 - of VA), if she hadn't knocked that motorcycle policeman off his bike and been given ten days to get a license before court, she would still be walking!!!!!

HOW DID I GET HERE? Wait a minute, I have it written on my hand. It says, "e-mail Carol" "make sure she is safe". OH, yea....

Anyway, you are in my prayers, as are all your family. I love you.
Linda May '66

   Snow? We kinda bit the bullet after the big threat of 24" of snow.  We ended up with a layer of hard ice topped with a few inches of snow, followed by bitter cold. It was 10 degrees and UGLY today; I didn't have "da noive" to check the wind chill factor; I just stay inside for days at a time.....

   I myself never learned to drive - and the world is a safer place.

   Thanks so much, Linda May! I love you, too!

  From Patti Johnson Stowe ('62) of FL - 02/08/11 - "You may be the "only" one who can save someone's life.":

To All My Email Friends and Contacts,
I am working with the Bone Marrow Donor Program in trying to get everyone to be a marrow donor (and a match) to save a life.
You may be the "ONE" who can save the life of a child or a parent who will die without a "matching" donor.  It is so "easy" to save a life.
I've been a donor and a recipient and the Bone Marrow Transplant saved my life in 1992.  It was my ONLY option.
If you don't want to be a donor, you can help finance the program.  In these tough times, most of us don't have money to donate, but we can take the time for a "simple" cheek swab to be a donor in case someone "needs" YOU to save their life.
For more info please contact me.
Please, please, pass this on to everyone you know.
Below is Info from the foundation.  Please check it out and pass it on.                 

Patti Stowe

Dear Patti,
Happy Valentine’s Day from your friends at Be The Match Foundation®!
Last year, your support of Be The Match Foundation helped the National Marrow Donor Program® facilitate more than 5,200 marrow transplants for patients in need. That’s an increase of more than 400 transplants over the previous year!
As stores fill with cards, candy, flowers and hearts this Valentine’s Day, we invite you to help spread the word about our mission to save lives by sending our Valentine’s Day e-card to your friends, family, and co-workers. Sending an e-card is free and you can choose from a variety of designs. And someone’s sweetheart will thank you.
Your commitment to Be The Match Foundation enables us to add potential marrow donors to the Be The Match Registry®, help patients cover uninsured transplant-related costs, and advance transplant research. Thank you for your support!

Be The Match Foundation
3001 Broadway St., N.E., Suite 601
Minneapolis, MN 55413

    WOWZERONI! Thanks so much, Patti!

   Y'all know what to do...

    From Jerry ('65) and    Judy Phillips ('66) Allen of VA -  02/08/11 - "The Bible on One Page":

This is amazing, worth keeping in your favorites.

I have no idea how the computer programmer who did this task was able to do it.. Amazing! To say the least.

It's not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you've lived.

   WOWZERS! Thanks so much, Sweetie-Pies!

From - 02/07/11 - "Emotional Vampires":

Who's the Emotional Vampire in Your Life?

By Judith Orloff

As a physician, I've found that the biggest energy drain on my patients is relationships. Some relationships are positive and mood elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. I call these draining people "emotional vampires." They do more than drain your physical energy. The malignant ones can make you believe you're unworthy and unlovable. Others inflict damage with smaller digs to make you feel bad about yourself. For instance, "Dear, I see you've put on a few pounds" or "You're overly sensitive!" Suddenly they've thrown you off-center by prodding areas of shaky self-worth.

To protect your energy it's important to combat draining people. The following strategies from my book "Emotional Freedom" will help you identify and combat emotional vampires from an empowered place.

Signs That You've Encountered an Emotional Vampire
• Your eyelids are heavy -- you're ready for a nap
• Your mood takes a nosedive
• You want to binge on carbs or comfort foods
• You feel anxious, depressed or negative
• You feel put down

Types of Emotional Vampires

1. The Narcissist
Their motto is "Me first." Everything is all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, hog attention and crave admiration. They're dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for unconditional love. If you don't do things their way, they become punishing, withholding or cold.

How to Protect Yourself: Keep your expectations realistic. These are emotionally limited people. Try not to fall in love with one or expect them to be selfless or love without strings attached. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to them. To successfully communicate, the hard truth is that you must show how something will be to their benefit. Though it's better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking, if the relationship is unavoidable this approach works.

2. The Victim
These vampires grate on you with their "poor-me" attitude. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, "Yes, but..." You might end up screening your calls or purposely avoid them. As a friend, you may want to help but their tales of woe overwhelm you.

How to Protect Yourself: Set kind but firm limits. Listen briefly and tell a friend or relative, "I love you but I can only listen for a few minutes unless you want to discuss solutions." With a coworker sympathize by saying, "I'll keep having good thoughts for things to work out." Then say, "I hope you understand, but I'm on deadline and must return to work." Then use "this isn't a good time" body language such as crossing your arms and breaking eye contact to help set these healthy limits.

3. The Controller
These people obsessively try to control you and dictate how you're supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything. They'll control you by invalidating your emotions if they don't fit into their rulebook. They often start sentences with "You know what you need?" and then proceed to tell you. You end up feeling dominated, demeaned or put down.

How to Protect Yourself: The secret to success is never try and control a controller. Be healthily assertive, but don't tell them what to do. You can say, "I value your advice but really need to work through this myself." Be confident but don't play the victim.

4. The Constant Talker
These people aren't interested in your feelings. They are only concerned with themselves. You wait for an opening to get a word in edgewise but it never comes. Or these people might physically move in so close they're practically breathing on you. You edge backwards, but they step closer.

How to Protect Yourself: These people don't respond to nonverbal cues. You must speak up and interrupt, as hard as that is to do. Listen for a few minutes. Then politely say, "I hate to interrupt, but please excuse me I have to talk to these other people... or get to an appointment... or go to the bathroom." A much more constructive tactic than, "Keep quiet, you're driving me crazy!" If this is a family member, politely say, "I'd love if you allowed me some time to talk to so I can add to the conversation." If you say this neutrally, it can better be heard.

5. The Drama Queen
These people have a flair for exaggerating small incidents into off-the-chart dramas. My patient Sarah was exhausted when she hired a new employee who was always late for work. One week he had the flu and "almost died." Next, his car was towed, again! After this employee left her office Sarah felt tired and used.

How to Protect Yourself: A drama queen doesn't get mileage out of equanimity. Stay calm. Take a few deep breaths. This will help you not get caught up in the histrionics. Set kind but firm limits. Say, for example, "You must be here on time to keep your job. I'm sorry for all your mishaps, but work comes first."

To improve your relationships and increase your energy level, I suggest taking an inventory of people who give you energy and those that drain you. Try to spend time with the loving, nurturing people, and learn to set limits with those who drain you. This will enhance the quality of your life.

About the Author:

Judith Orloff, MD, is the Official Guide to Intuition and the author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom NOW available in paperback and upon which this article is based. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, she passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating traditional medicine with intuition and energy medicine to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with intuition and energy medicine. An assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, Dr. Orloff's work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, Oprah Magazine and USA Today. To learn about the Emotional Freedom book tour visit


From Will and Guy's Joke of the Day - 02/08/11:

** Tommy Cooper - Cooperisms **

A woman told her doctor, 'I've got a bad back.' The doctor said, 'It's old age.' The woman said, 'I want a second opinion.' The doctor says, 'OK. You're ugly as well.'

"You know, somebody actually complimented me on my driving today. They left a little note on the windscreen, it said 'Parking Fine.' So that was nice."

A man walked into the doctors, The doctor said " I haven't seen you in a long time " The man replied "I know I've been ill"

A man walked into the doctors, he said "I've hurt my arm in several places"
The doctor said "well don't go there any more"

I'm on a whiskey diet. I've lost three days already.

"So I got home, and the phone was ringing. I picked it up, and said 'Who's speaking please?' And a voice said 'You are.'"

"So I rang up my local swimming baths. I said 'Is that the local swimming baths?' He said 'It depends where you're calling from.'"

Two Aerials meet on a roof - fall in love - get married.
The ceremony was rubbish but the Reception was Brilliant.

"So I rang up a local building firm, I said 'I want a skip outside my house.' He said 'I'm not stopping you.'

Footnote.  While I have admired Tommy Cooper's comedy for many years, it was only recently that I realized Tommy Cooper was born in Caerphilly.  My wife is from Caerphilly, and when I was looking around, what did I see but a statue to that master of the one liners - Tommy Cooper.

1. Wednesday, February 9, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

2. Thursday, March 3, 2011 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have fiends in that year, go visit with them.

3. Wednesday, April 13, 2011 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

4. Saturday, April 30, 2011 - The NNHS Class will have a Luncheon. Team Leaders are Mickey Marcella ( - 757-249-3800), Betty Hamby Neher ( - 757-898-5099), and Dr. Harry Simpson ( - 804-694-0346). - CLASS OF 1954

5. Saturday, July 9, 2011 (6:30 PM to 11:30 PM) - The Class of 1971 will hold its 40-Year Reunion at Newport News Marriott at City Center, 740 Town Center Drive, Newport News. For details, contact Richard Rawls at - CLASS OF 1971

6. Saturday, August 20, 2011 - The Class of 1966 will hold its 45-Year Reunion at the Warwick Yacht Club, Newport News.  Further details will be available soon from Dee Hodges Bartram at - CLASS OF 1966

PRAYER ROLL : - updated 12/30/10

BLOG: - updated 10/21/10

  Y'all take good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                           Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty

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It's All in the Game

Music by Charles Dawes (27 Aug 1865 – 23 Apr 1951), 1911

Words by Carl Sigman (24 Sept 1909 – 26 Sept 2000), 1951

Recorded by Tommy Edwards (b. 17 Feb 1922 in Richmond, Virginia; d. 22 Oct 1969 in Henrico County, Virginia), 1958

Many a tear has to fall
But it's all in the game
All in the wonderful game
That we know as love
You have words with him
And your future's looking dim
But these things
Your hearts can rise above

Once in a while he won't call
But it's all in the game
Soon he'll be there at your side
With a sweet bouquet
And he'll kiss your lips
And caress your waiting fingertips
And your hearts will fly away

Soon he'll be there at your side
With a sweet bouquet
Then he'll kiss your lips
And caress your waiting fingertips
And your hearts will fly away

"It's All in the Game" midi courtesy of - 02/09/11

"It's All in the Game" lyrics courtesy of - 02/09/11

Animated Teddy Fairies clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA -
Thanks, Al!

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy of - 02/17/09

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who fought in WWII
Thanks again, Herbie!

Hearts Vine Divider Line clip art courtesy of - um, I don't really know where - 01/30/06

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Animated Coast Guard Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03

Animated Pulsing Heart courtesy of - 02/12/05 (re-saved 02/13/09)

Booker T. Washington logo courtesy of - 09/25/07

Sad Face clip art courtesy of - 08/03/08 (re-saved 02/16/09)

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